Is it right.....

[will_wait4Him]

......for a Christian to marry or have a relationship with a nonChristian?

 

[mo5quito]

I would say yes... not that I'm married or anything but just based on my beliefs. Personally, I really hope God's plan for me includes another believer because I want to revel in Him with the person I love the most. I don't want my faith to be something that hurts the other person and it's such a huge part of me (all of me) that I know that it would have some major effects on the woman I am to marry. There is a book I saw the other day written by a woman who married a non-believer and how they made it work. I can't remember the name, just saw it in the Family Christian Store the other day. Just my $.02

 

[Dewjunkie]

Having been in relationships with non-Christians in the past, I can say that it is ill-advised to be intimately close to a non-believer. It is too easy to let your faith and beliefs slip in order to please the other, and if you start making slight exceptions in the beginning, then it just snowballs. Unfortunately, I speak from experience. I know that it doesn't have to be that way, there are exceptions to every situation. But, I personally think that it is better to not be, a non-believer doesn't have the same focus as you, and sooner or later could become a strain on your relationship with God.

 

[seebs]

Originally posted by Dewjunkie
Having been in relationships with non-Christians in the past, I can say that it is ill-advised to be intimately close to a non-believer. It is too easy to let your faith and beliefs slip in order to please the other, and if you start making slight exceptions in the beginning, then it just snowballs. Unfortunately, I speak from experience. I know that it doesn't have to be that way, there are exceptions to every situation. But, I personally think that it is better to not be, a non-believer doesn't have the same focus as you, and sooner or later could become a strain on your relationship with God.

On the other hand, maybe the non-believer is the one whose faith will be shaken. God made the atheists too, and they are worthy of love.

 

[Dewjunkie]

Originally posted by seebs


On the other hand, maybe the non-believer is the one whose faith will be shaken. God made the atheists too, and they are worthy of love.

I agree, of course they are worthy of love. My point is that a believer entering into a close relationship with a non-believer is dangerous. It is up to the believer to ask God for strength and patience to be a constant good influence on the non-believer. I guess it would be a matter of prayer and what God tells the person is right. I, for one, and extremely glad that my wife is a Christian, it takes away many of the minor problems that other couples get hung up on.

 

[Mandy]

We are not to be unequally yoked.

 

[tericl2]

Amen Mandy!!

Anyone wondering what God's will is in the matter should read 2 Corinthians 6:14-17.

While prayer and asking for God's guidance is important...He will not guide you against His Word. If you get a "feeling" that you should do something that is against God's Word then that "feeling" is not from God, but Satan, the great deceiver.

 

[StogusMaximus]

Will the non-Christian partner support you and help you grow in your relationship with Christ?

 

[will_wait4Him]

Oh, I don't have a partner at the moment, but I know a non-believer that likes me and I'm not sure if it would be a good idea to go out with her.

 

[ZiSunka]

I was once a non-Christian married to a catholic Christian, and I made his life miserable.

I recommend against it.

 

[Fessie]

I'm with Mandy on this one..the Bible clearly states not to be unequally yoked with nonbelievers! What more proof do you need?

 

[will_wait4Him]

I have enough proof, but it's just hard. Handling the peer pressure and the temptation to start a relationship.

 

[Fessie]

Well, I'm glad to see you realize God's plan for dating. I pray that you withstand the peer pressure and temptation. Be careful.

 

[will_wait4Him]

Thanks hehe, I like your sig.

 

[Fessie]

Why thank you!! :o Heehee..*takes a bow*