Is it only me...

[LOVEthroughINTELLECT]

...or does it bother you when people talk about preferring a child of one sex over the other?

You know...something like, "I wanted a girl, but I learned to appreciate my son".

 

[Pyrogenesis]

It depends. When people say "I wanted a girl, but I love my son! Wow, what an awesome gift from God" then I'm cool with that. But when they sound like you said, "I wanted a girl, I learned to appreciate my son" then I get annoyed. They act like it's a burden to be borne, and that makes me mad. Children are a blessing, no matter what.

I look forward to having a daughter. Does this mean I don't want a son? Of course not! Children are a most precious gift from God and should I be blessed enough to have any, regardless of gender, then I'll be the proudest, happiest dad alive.

 

[maze77]

I want a few kids, hopefully I'll have at least one son(a house full of women, Yikes!) just kidding. I'll love all my children just the same, regardless of sex.
Whats worse, is people that have a favorite Son/Daughter.

 

[Manda_24]

I do agree that it is really hard to hear someone say they learned to like their child, that sounds so awful.
Most girls dream of getting married and having children, I know I have. Some girls also want to have a girl so they can put cute dresses on them, do their hair, stuff like that, things you can't do to a boy. I guess that's why some people would say they learned to love their child.
Personally, I'd like to have a boy first but I would be extremely happy with either. A part of me actually wants to wait and not find out what the sex is until its born.

 

[okiemommy26]

Depends on how they say it. Like what they wanted it first. Actually I did not care what I had first. I just wanted a healthy child. The second I prefered a boy over a girl because I had my girl. If I had another girl I would had been just as happy. I just wanted a healthy child. I had two healthy children and God blessed me with a girl and boy.

 

[covenantwmn]

Yes, it does. As an adoptive mom, I think they're missing the miracle here. That said, when we adopted, we adopted one of each.

 

[nhzname]

Yes, it does. As an adoptive mom, I think they're missing the miracle here. That said, when we adopted, we adopted one of each.

So cool to adopt two like that.

I have to agree that the term 'I've learned to love my son/daughter.' is rather harsh. I would feel terrible for the child; if they may have grown up under that knowledge, it could be quite damaging to their self esteem, etc. I've grown up under a similar situation, and it doesn't feel good.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

If I have kids, I just know God's going to give me a girl because the thought of raising a girl scares the crap out of me.

and usually when I have a "reason" for why I want things to go my way, God uses that as a teaching tool to tell me what we really wanted.

 

[Niels]

...or does it bother you when people talk about preferring a child of one sex over the other?

You know...something like, "I wanted a girl, but I learned to appreciate my son".

It bothers me too. You're not alone.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

GEEZ

when a parent pefers one sex over another-- it is usually cause they feel they can relate to the sex of the child better..

of course that is just a thought-- for me when I was pregnant-- I hoped it was a girl because I thought I would"understand" better.

 

[Blank123]

meh, honestly i hope i have mostly boys when i start having kids of my own, just because experience has taught me that boys are much easier to handle than girls but that being said if God decided to give me all girls and no boys i wouldn't complain and i'd love them just as much as i would if they were boys just because they would be my kids

buuut yeah... if someone is so wrapped up in having one sex over the other that they can't appreciate and love the child that they did get, then thats someone who shouldn't ever have kids. but i dunno how common that is actually, i've heard of people who knew people who knew someone that had a son and really wanted a daughter and how terrible that was supposed to have been for the son, but i've never actually met anyone IRL who was seriously disappointed the what they ended up getting - even if they didn't end up have the gender that they wanted in their kid

 

[RED that's ME]

I don't have a big problem with people wanting a certain sex child, just that they don't try to "medically" try to have a certain gender.
Most guys think of having a son to carry their family name and also do manly things with them while a female sometimes dream of what she could do with a girl.

All are miracles of God and couples should be thankful for what God gives them.

 

[LOVEthroughINTELLECT]

Bump.

 

[Im_A]

...or does it bother you when people talk about preferring a child of one sex over the other?

You know...something like, "I wanted a girl, but I learned to appreciate my son".

i think it's sad, but it doesn't bother me. people will have stupid mentalities like that regardless of what i can shove down their ears.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Better than some who say "If I have a girl, i'm not keeping it." Or China..

 

[Keri]

It bothers me when it's stated like in the OP.

But I know that I want healthy children of course, but I would prefer a boy first. Twin boys actually.

 

[ido]

I had no preference - healthy babies is all I prayed for. Although, I do joke that God didn't bless me with a daughter b/c I would go bankrupt buying clothes/shoes for her.

 

[Teufelhund]

I think I want a son. I would be equally happy with a daughter, but I want a son, do you see? It's not so much a question of being happy with one thing or the other, or even with wanting one or the other more, it's simply an issue of the way I was brought up, what I beleive, I want a son to carry on after I am gone, to do the things that I was never able to.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

It bothers me because I wasn't supposed to have children at all and I was so thankful to be blessed with one that I didn't care. I think alot of people take for granted the ability to have children.