Is it OK to be distraught over this?

[Lady Bug]

I am told that ignoring my dad and not engaging with him is the best advice, but I feel like I'm being harassed ad nauseum by him over ignoring him too. He would rather me sit with him and endure it. I want to feel sorry for him, and maybe I do a little, but I feel like I've done the best I can with him. I have tried to tell him nicely to eat, drink, and take his meds but he won't listen and says, "I'm done, I'm done, I'm done," and accusing me of causing my grandma's and mom's death and his future death. He "assures" me that I'll be just like him. I can't decide if this is a demonic attack on him or if he's not in his right mind. I think I've done whatever I could do to be nice to him and pray for him, but he's resigned to whatever he's decided. I don't think I'm that great of a person right now. I've absolutely had it, but I think I would not be as resentful if he was not bothering me about church either. It's a hot mess.

 

[AlexB23]

I am told that ignoring my dad and not engaging with him is the best advice, but I feel like I'm being harassed ad nauseum by him over ignoring him too. He would rather me sit with him and endure it. I want to feel sorry for him, and maybe I do a little, but I feel like I've done the best I can with him. I have tried to tell him nicely to eat, drink, and take his meds but he won't listen and says, "I'm done, I'm done, I'm done," and accusing me of causing my grandma's and mom's death and his future death. He "assures" me that I'll be just like him. I can't decide if this is a demonic attack on him or if he's not in his right mind. I think I've done whatever I could do to be nice to him and pray for him, but he's resigned to whatever he's decided. I don't think I'm that great of a person right now. I've absolutely had it, but I think I would not be as resentful if he was not bothering me about church either. It's a hot mess.

Just leave your dad, if possible. Maybe in a few years, he will repent. If rent at a traditional apartment is expensive, you could try and find another family member to live with that is not toxic, and you can cover your living expenses and a low rent if possible.

And hey, death is a natural part of life, so your dad should not accuse you of his future death. An analogy could be made with driving a car, and the wheel pops, and blaming the moon for popping the tire. There is no connection between the moon and a car tire. Just as there is no connection between you and the deaths in the family.

 

[Lady Bug]

Just leave your dad, if possible. Maybe in a few years, he will repent. If rent at a traditional apartment is expensive, you could try and find another family member to live with that is not toxic, and you can cover your living expenses and a low rent if possible.

And hey, death is a natural part of life, so your dad should not accuse you of his future death. An analogy could be made with driving a car, and the wheel pops, and blaming the moon for popping the tire. There is no connection between the moon and a car tire. Just as there is no connection between you and the deaths in the family.

I want to leave him but he's ultra-sensitive against being alone at any time and he goes mental when he doesn't have someone to talk to. Sad thing is, I can't be there 24/7 like a statue. I try to sit there for like an hour at a time to placate him but he brings up "revisionist history" from my past, accusing me of having done things that I have repeatedly, repeatedly told him did not really happen (e.g. "you never got married because you yelled at me about it" which in actuality, I never got married because I had fights with him over not wanting to marry a Muslim, but he keeps twisting it and saying "You didn't want to get married! You cursed me! You killed me! And now you're suffering!" when it was not like that).

I deal with this every two to three weeks or so - that same topic. I want to get tf out of the situation but he has no one else to bring him to appointments, buy groceries for him, help him with laundry, do dishes, etc.

I'm not even asking for advice per se because I don't want to disappoint people whose advice I "can't" follow.

 

[AlexB23]

I want to leave him but he's ultra-sensitive against being alone at any time and he goes mental when he doesn't have someone to talk to. Sad thing is, I can't be there 24/7 like a statue. I try to sit there for like an hour at a time to placate him but he brings up "revisionist history" from my past, accusing me of having done things that I have repeatedly, repeatedly told him did not really happen (e.g. "you never got married because you yelled at me about it" which in actuality, I never got married because I had fights with him over not wanting to marry a Muslim, but he keeps twisting it and saying "You didn't want to get married! You cursed me! You killed me! And now you're suffering!" when it was not like that).

I deal with this every two to three weeks or so - that same topic. I want to get tf out of the situation but he has no one else to bring him to appointments, buy groceries for him, help him with laundry, do dishes, etc.

I'm not even asking for advice per se because I don't want to disappoint people whose advice I "can't" follow.

At this point, I'd say, let him go mental. Your dad has too many demons for you to deal with, so just leave him. As long as you are far away from him, he will not cause you harm. If he needs help, send him to a commune.

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