Is it just lust?

[Chrono Traveler]

I asked this question in another thread. I think its interesting, so I will ask again here.

You fall deeply in love with someone. They are your everything. You are emotionally connected to them through body and mind like no other....

You both know everything about eachother...You want to spend everyday with them, in their arms. When you see eachothers faces or hear eachothers voices it truly makes you happy. You would do anything for them, including giving your life to protect them.

When you are around eachother your bodies ache for eachother. Is it still then "just lust", to desire to make love to one another? Is is just lust to want to be with someone you love?

 

[Isis-Astoroth]

Part of it would probably be love, but i think at least part of it would be lust as lust is a perfectly natural part of humanity.

 

[Dimithriceas]

Partially lust and partially love I would say. I think it's sort of based on circumstance. I know I want to be with my girlfriend to give her pleasure, but I also want to experience that close feeling with her. So I guess it also depends on your mood at the time in my eyes heh.

 

[Beoga]

i would say for the most part there is love, but the desires to 'be with them', though natural and should be there if you are in love, is still 'just lust'.

 

[an7222]

It's a delicious lustfull love.

 

[Chrono Traveler]

It had to be a little bit of lust, but to me it is not just...Its only natural for us to lust for the ones we love.. I only desire one, but im still waiting till im married..

 

[Chrono Traveler]

i would say for the most part there is love, but the desires to 'be with them', though natural and should be there if you are in love, is still 'just lust'.

I kinda needed a christian point of view on this, tho all others are accepted too.

Im doing research on religions, and culture.

So, would this actually be considered sinful by the Christian view, or no. because the feeelings and intentions are pure.

 

[jesusfreak3786]

when my husband and I slept together I wouldn't go thru with it if I started to lust him, it is possable to make love to your mate without lusting them, but it takes a lot of mental disipline.

 

[SarcasmDispenser]

I believe sex outside of marriage is a sin, and I think there would be a handful of Christians out there who would support me in that... if that's what you are asking?

 

[jesusfreak3786]

I believe sex outside of marriage is a sin, and I think there would be a handful of Christians out there who would support me in that... if that's what you are asking?

The thread is about whether or not you can have sex without lust.

 

[SarcasmDispenser]

It depends on your definition of lust then, I don't believe lust is a terrible thing if it's within the right context. Can't lust be a part of love?

 

[jesusfreak3786]

It depends on your definition of lust then, I don't believe lust is a terrible thing if it's within the right context. Can't lust be a part of love?

I think lust is a complietly diffrent thing than love.

 

[-Truth-]

http://www.mcmanweb.com/love_lust.htm

 

[unimportantbuthisnameis]

I don't see where it would be lust within the confines of marriage. I think that it's perfectly natural to want to please your spouse sexually.

 

[SarcasmDispenser]

I don't see where it would be lust within the confines of marriage. I think that it's perfectly natural to want to please your spouse sexually.

Exactly. I agree, lust isn't the same thing as love. I never said that.

 

[Chrono Traveler]

The thread is about whether or not you can have sex without lust.

Close, but actually....can you have the desire to make love with a partner(wife, husband, or otherwise) without sin.

 

[SarcasmDispenser]

I believe so.

 

[Johnnz]

It is God's design that one way in which we express our love for each other is through physical contact and sexual intercourse. The desire to be physically intimate, which ranges from simple touch to full intercourse is part of our God given humanity and sexuality. To want physical and sexual intimacy is not lust. To experience some degree of arousal while thinking about or being with that person is not lust.

Lust occurs only when a normal physical or sexual response leads to wrong sexual behaviour of some sort. For example, arousal and then further sexual imtimacy, such as undressing or fondling, or some sexual imaginings (plan to undress, focus just on sexual behaviour instead of healthy social interaction), or dwelling far too much on how good sex will be when you are married can attract the label of lust.

Many commentators trace the desire to be physically intimate back to the Genesis story. Eve was created out of Adam, signifiying a deep inner link bewteen the sexes. Intercourse is a way in which we again become 'one flesh'.

John
NZ

 

[kedaman]

I asked this question in another thread. I think its interesting, so I will ask again here.

You fall deeply in love with someone. They are your everything. You are emotionally connected to them through body and mind like no other....

You both know everything about eachother...You want to spend everyday with them, in their arms. When you see eachothers faces or hear eachothers voices it truly makes you happy. You would do anything for them, including giving your life to protect them.

When you are around eachother your bodies ache for eachother. Is it still then "just lust", to desire to make love to one another? Is is just lust to want to be with someone you love?

Lust invovles a strong desire that is overwhelming, it is a sin because you are unable to restrain it. If you have problem with it its better not to deprive each other.

 

[The Bellman]

when my husband and I slept together I wouldn't go thru with it if I started to lust him, it is possable to make love to your mate without lusting them, but it takes a lot of mental disipline.

If my wife didn't feel lust for me, I'd never have married her...and vice versa. And I can only imagine how enjoyable sex would be with someone who stops if they start to lust.