Is it better to not get married?

[darktipper]

Is it better to not get married? I notice that this day and age men and women get tired of one another then move on to a new person. Is it better to remain single (meaning having no one no spouse and no gf/bf) I know God is pro marriage but we live in a fallen world and unfortunate things happen. You may be married then get divorced and never be able to find someone else.. I have male friends and relatives that got divorces or broke up in the Engagement stages and they have custody of their kids. I see one struggling with his singleness while raising his son. Some called me selfish for not wanting to be married but I see it as saving myself from torment. I need opinions from people who has been married.

 

[mjmcmillan]

It depends. Jesus indicated that for some, at least, remaining single was preferable and Paul, in his writings, says that being single leaves you free to pursue the interests of the Kingdom instead of having to be concerned about things of this world, as happens when you marry.

If you can do it without burning with lust, remaining single isn't bad. Getting married for the wrong reasons-- which includes getting married because everybody else says you should-- can lead to a world of hurt down the road, as you have no doubt noticed.

 

[darktipper]

Some get married and the Lust is still there and it gets them into trouble. Like affair trouble. I read in Matthew where a disciple said if a man has to be like this to his wife then it is better not to marry. But also God said marriage was good but that was like before the fall of mankind in Eden. Maybe Paul see what a lot of singles who refuse to marry see in society.

 

[peacechild4]

I guess GOD can only answer that for each individual.. some know they are happy being single from the get go.. others crave companionship.. I guess you have to follow your heart.. GOD made humans for relationships.. but then I am a woman answering you.. and I do not want to be alone.. though even in marriage I was..

I guess we are all going to make mistakes in life.. thankfully GOD sees our hearts.. and many do have great relationships and find the right person.. never forget that.. so often we only focus on broken relationships seeing we ourselves have them or someone we know or our own parents.. etc.. but there are some good ones out there.. Praise GOD..

 

[McScribe]

I harp on this but I think that we need to face the fact that we cannot take things for granted about marriage anymore. Those people who are successful in the current mode cannot be our yardstick, because they clearly have the fortune, instincts and character that makes marriage successful, or at leat it seems that way. For the rest of us we need to toss the assumptions out the window and start creating marriage contracts. We then need to follow what's in them. Inevitably there will be people who breach these contracts, but then it will be clear beyond a shadow of a doubt.

 

[koiphish]

Is it better to not get married?

Let me ask you something. Will you be content to be alone for the rest of your life? To not feel the love and warmth of being held by a woman? To feel the love of a woman that really cares about you and wants to take care of you?

There are tons of ways to occupy your mind and spirit and avoid dating and marriage all together. But those things wont be there when you are alone in bed trying to fall asleep at night.

The reason I say this is, if you dont commit to being alone, you will find someone and you will be driven by sin and lust to have sex with her. This might start out as rounding the bases, but in the end, the pants will come off.

The bible doesn't require you to get married. It actually says not to, IF you can keep your desires in check.

"8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." - 1 Corinthians 7:8-9

The internet, tv, movies and even music push sex on us 24/7. You cannot even drive down the freeway without seeing a woman in a bikini, which in my opinion are just as bad, if not worse than panties and bras. I think even bras and panties cover up more than bikinis do these days. So keeping it off your mind(s) will be harder than ever before in history.

My suggestion is to only date devote christian girls. Ones that are heavily involved with the church. When you find this girl, get really involved in church activities together and avoid lustful temptations of todays media.

I encourage you to get passionately involved with the church anyway. Let me give you a weird but clear example.

Your average week is like a cellphone and the church is the charger for it. It fills your battery up with God juice. On Sunday, you get a charge and feel great and energized with the word of God. Then Monday hits... you still feel his presence but not as strong. By Wednesday you are down half way on your God juice charge. By Friday (which is the day that dates and going out usually happens that lead to lustful temptations!) your battery is drained, waiting to be charged again on Sunday.

Now if you had gone to say... a bible study on Tuesday, Wednesday night service, mens fellowship breakfast on Saturday... by the time you got to church on Sunday, your battery would still have life in it.

This constant trickle charge of God juice in your life will help you keep your moral shoulders high and help you avoid temptation.

Hit the church single nights and see if you cant find you a good christian girl and when you two start dating, date for more than 2 years before deciding to marry. When you do find the girl that is for you, you wont regret it and if she is a good christian girl and you both follow the path that God laid out for you, there will be no divorce. The bible is a how-to book as well... follow it, learn from it and it will teach you how to have a long and fulfilling life, with or without a wife.

 

[darktipper]

Let me ask you something. Will you be content to be alone for the rest of your life? To not feel the love and warmth of being held by a woman? To feel the love of a woman that really cares about you and wants to take care of you?

There are tons of ways to occupy your mind and spirit and avoid dating and marriage all together. But those things wont be there when you are alone in bed trying to fall asleep at night.

The reason I say this is, if you dont commit to being alone, you will find someone and you will be driven by sin and lust to have sex with her. This might start out as rounding the bases, but in the end, the pants will come off.

The bible doesn't require you to get married. It actually says not to, IF you can keep your desires in check.

"8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." - 1 Corinthians 7:8-9

The internet, tv, movies and even music push sex on us 24/7. You cannot even drive down the freeway without seeing a woman in a bikini, which in my opinion are just as bad, if not worse than panties and bras. I think even bras and panties cover up more than bikinis do these days. So keeping it off your mind(s) will be harder than ever before in history.

My suggestion is to only date devote christian girls. Ones that are heavily involved with the church. When you find this girl, get really involved in church activities together and avoid lustful temptations of todays media.

I encourage you to get passionately involved with the church anyway. Let me give you a weird but clear example.

Your average week is like a cellphone and the church is the charger for it. It fills your battery up with God juice. On Sunday, you get a charge and feel great and energized with the word of God. Then Monday hits... you still feel his presence but not as strong. By Wednesday you are down half way on your God juice charge. By Friday (which is the day that dates and going out usually happens that lead to lustful temptations!) your battery is drained, waiting to be charged again on Sunday.

Now if you had gone to say... a bible study on Tuesday, Wednesday night service, mens fellowship breakfast on Saturday... by the time you got to church on Sunday, your battery would still have life in it.

This constant trickle charge of God juice in your life will help you keep your moral shoulders high and help you avoid temptation.

Hit the church single nights and see if you cant find you a good christian girl and when you two start dating, date for more than 2 years before deciding to marry. When you do find the girl that is for you, you wont regret it and if she is a good christian girl and you both follow the path that God laid out for you, there will be no divorce. The bible is a how-to book as well... follow it, learn from it and it will teach you how to have a long and fulfilling life, with or without a wife.

I dated 2 women who went to church years apart from each other. That lead to 2 bad experiences. I makes sure the pants stay on by keep in dates short and end it and go back to doing what I normal did or go to sleep. I don't have sleeping at night due to me working out all of the time and wearing myself out. I know the bible says that it is better to marry than to burn with passion but I looked at my life and others around me burned with passion and that caused them to have kids out of wedlock while I do not have any kids by not putting myself in those kinds of situations. But another thing to fully answer your question about the warm embrace of a woman or what not is, I don't miss what I never really had. I never had a woman who cared 100 percent like that besides a few female friends but the ones I dated, nope. I don;t even know if they cared or not. Anyways I am not the dating type. Going out on dates tend to get boring for me. Plus I do not feel like being cheated on again. Once was enough lol.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

I am more than willing to try again, but with some precautions. This time I want to do things right and have a solid Biblical foundation. I don't think that Christians are just as likely to get divorced as non-Christians, but I do think that people who claim to be Christians are just as likely to get divorced as non-Christians.

 

[robertsiteline]

Is it better to not get married? I notice that this day and age men and women get tired of one another then move on to a new person. Is it better to remain single (meaning having no one no spouse and no gf/bf) I know God is pro marriage but we live in a fallen world and unfortunate things happen. You may be married then get divorced and never be able to find someone else.. I have male friends and relatives that got divorces or broke up in the Engagement stages and they have custody of their kids. I see one struggling with his singleness while raising his son. Some called me selfish for not wanting to be married but I see it as saving myself from torment. I need opinions from people who has been married.

IF one does not get married,it may surely lead him/her into some unclean acts like mastubation,so it is good to think positive so that one can also have a positive marriage.
don't learn from the falling of others rather learn from the rising of others. you can definitely become exception.Being a true born again, specifically spend time to pray to God concerning your prospective partner ,then the Good Lord that see the sincerity of your heart will definitely see you through. ok!

 

[darktipper]

IF one does not get married,it may surely lead him/her into some unclean acts like mastubation,so it is good to think positive so that one can also have a positive marriage.
don't learn from the falling of others rather learn from the rising of others. you can definitely become exception.Being a true born again, specifically spend time to pray to God concerning your prospective partner ,then the Good Lord that see the sincerity of your heart will definitely see you through. ok!

The funny thing is things that I want in life never comes true but I think that on this issue I will probably remain single to protect myself.