That I do not greive one bit at death anymore. It seems I do not really care when someone I know dies. Maybe it is just becuase I know they are in heaven, but should I still care some?
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Maybe you care about the people who are left behind by the death of someone they loved. Maybe you care that they are grieving, more than you yourself grieve for the one who has gone on. You can help the ones who are still here, but not the one who is gone.
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I have found that it depends how close you are to those who died. I have experienced a number of deaths of people I wasn't close to. These have produced little tears, although I was still sad. But, I cannot say I "grieved" for many of those instances.
However, there is something wrong if someone truly close to you dies, and you never "grieve." If you lose, say, a best friend or sibling, after the shock wears off you definitely need to grieve.
And as for your questions... I actually think you should care at least a little. If you knew these people, in the very least you should be sad with their family, for their loss. When losing someone close, I can attest that even though we may know we'll see them again one day, it is still a huge loss. The best thing you can do is mourn with the family, for support and to show you care.
However, there is something wrong if someone truly close to you dies, and you never "grieve." If you lose, say, a best friend or sibling, after the shock wears off you definitely need to grieve.
And as for your questions... I actually think you should care at least a little. If you knew these people, in the very least you should be sad with their family, for their loss. When losing someone close, I can attest that even though we may know we'll see them again one day, it is still a huge loss. The best thing you can do is mourn with the family, for support and to show you care.
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luv4godremains
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I don't think it should be said so harshly though, I think it's natural to care, but it can be just as natural not to care, I mean, I have lost people who I have been very close to, yet, not seemed to care, not even thought I cared, and it was because I had become numb to the pain of people dying, supressed it, and besides, everyone reacts differently to death, I mean, some people cope, others don't, some people deal with it by crying, others get angry and hit things, we are all human, and part of that is being different, so no one has the right to say someone should care about smoething like this! sorry, don't mean to rant or be moody/mean or whatever, it's just I don't think anyone should react in a particular way, even care, I mean, for some people, it's a natural thing, to teach the heart not to care, I mean, he did say he didn't care ANYMORE, so, yer, am gonna stop this now, but, you get what I'm trying to say! sorry guys, God Bless, PM me anytime you wanna chat!
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Luv4GodRemains,
The Lord says we are to weep with those who weep. We are not supposed to harden our hearts to pain--we're supposed to give that pain to the Lord. If a person close to you dies, and you don't care that they're dead... there's a problem. Now, I don't mean if a person deals with it differently, such as by keeping it inside. But if there is the actual attitude of not caring at all, then there's a deeper issue that needs to be looked at. "Not caring" is unnatural, at least in a situation of losing a close loved one.
The Lord says we are to weep with those who weep. We are not supposed to harden our hearts to pain--we're supposed to give that pain to the Lord. If a person close to you dies, and you don't care that they're dead... there's a problem. Now, I don't mean if a person deals with it differently, such as by keeping it inside. But if there is the actual attitude of not caring at all, then there's a deeper issue that needs to be looked at. "Not caring" is unnatural, at least in a situation of losing a close loved one.
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