Is it a sin to hate Marriages?

[Linet Kihonge]

I wish I cared if people did a hopscotch down the aisle or booked an underground motel for their honeymoons. I just can't stand the idea of being married.

 

[St_Worm2]

Hi Linet, first off, WELCOME TO CF ..

As to your OP, St. Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 tells us it would be better not to marry if possible, so it would certainly not be a sin to remain single. If it's not too personal (please don't answer if you'd prefer not to), why are you so opposed to getting married? What do you hate about it?

Thanks!

Yours and His,
David

 

[Linet Kihonge]

I don't know. I just I LOVE My Space :/

 

[St_Worm2]

I did too and I truly thought I would never get married 1) because my parents had such a bad one that I had a very low opinion of them and 2) because the right girl had come along yet

I didn't become a Christian until I was 30, but the church the Lord led me to was filled with young couples and families who had terrific marriages, and I got to see how wonderful they can be. Then the Lord brought my wife Sue into my life, and we have been married ever since (27 years now). When the right guy finally comes along, I think you will find that you'd rather have all that "space" you love occupied .. with him

May I also ask (again, don't answer if it's too personal or you'd just prefer not to), how old are you?

 

[Linet Kihonge]

I'm 33. I get what you are saying and I don't like the idea of relationships. In fact, I have been in great relationships and I HIGHLY avoid getting SERIOUS. I just believe it's safer to be remain celibate than get into a relationship that I won't hold my end of the deal.

 

[St_Worm2]

I'm 33. I get what you are saying and I don't like the idea of relationships. In fact, I have been in great relationships and I HIGHLY avoid getting SERIOUS. I just believe it's safer to be remain celibate than get into a relationship that I won't hold my end of the deal.

I completely agree with you, failed marriages are the worst And along with what Paul told us, Jesus told us that some were given the gift of celibacy by God. Perhaps you are one of those

Being single does have a lot of advantages, and being able to devote your life to the Lord in a much greater way than most of us who are married and especially, married with children, is one of those advantages

If you'd like to discuss this with other singles, there are several "Singles" boards here at CF (just FYI).

I've gotta go. See you back out on the boards later

God bless you! (Numbers 6:24-26)

--David

 

[oi_antz]

I wish I cared if people did a hopscotch down the aisle or booked an underground motel for their honeymoons. I just can't stand the idea of being married.

Do you understand why it is objectionable? I would suggest that going public with this investigation will complicate your solution. Unless this is a temporary profile.. just a hunch.

 

[Linet Kihonge]

Don't worry oi-antz, it's a precarious issue and I understand both sides of the marital statuses (Pro-marriage & anti-marriage). I never said, people who prefer marriage are bad, just said, I don't like the idea of marriage - Personally.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

I wish I cared if people did a hopscotch down the aisle or booked an underground motel for their honeymoons. I just can't stand the idea of being married.

Hi Linet,

I can understand the need for 'space' in a relationship. Maybe you need to find a guy who doesn't mind if you have 'space.' I think there are some out there who don't mind if you need to spend time in your own creative, individual domain.

Peace

 

[Swan7]

I used to think badly of marriage, but that was because of the household I grew up in. The tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife.

But as I thought about it more, getting older, I found marriage wasn't the issue. It was the type of people getting married for superficial reasons or other reasons. A lot of people, I found, don't know how to be in a marriage. Oh, please know I am only speaking from what I have seen where I live.

Marriage isn't for me. Why? I don't plan on having kids. I have 4 nephews as it is! Sharing my life with someone is a nice notion, but may hinder my relationship/walk with God. I think having friends is good enough and if they decide to wonder away from me for whatever reason, so be it. That just tells me my time with them is up. I've had many friends come and go in my life and I accept that is the way it is. I'm happy, much more happy with God. He will never leave me!

 

[Hospes]

I'm 33. I get what you are saying and I don't like the idea of relationships. In fact, I have been in great relationships and I HIGHLY avoid getting SERIOUS. I just believe it's safer to be remain celibate than get into a relationship that I won't hold my end of the deal.

Hmmm... I've been in a marriage for as long as you've been alive and have never held up my end of the deal, at least not in the way God calls me to. And it has been terribly unsafe; we have greatly hurt one another. But then again, if I were to do it over, I'd do it again. I've known what it is to see a woman nurse my child, I've known what it is to give and receive undeserved mercy, and I know what it is to have someone so close they become God's primary means of his grace in making me more like him. As Teddy Roosevelt wrote, I want to be one of the ones

"in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly...who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst , if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who have never known neither victory or defeat."​

Nothing like the arena of marriage!

 

[Linet Kihonge]

As Teddy Roosevelt wrote, I want to be one of the ones

"in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly...who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions;

It's a great pursuit and I surely do feel inspired by Roosevelt's words. But I have neither said all these out of spite or disgust nor have I said all these because I don't like the opposite sex (I appreciate their existence, a good deal). I said all that because after a deep soul reflection and meditation, I learned I will always justify why it would be better to be celibate than married. I wanted it so bad that I looked for any sign of satisfaction from women who were independent and happy. I wanted to know if the likes of Oprah/Tyra Banks were satisfied with their accomplishments. In other words, my direction hasn't been looking for happy couples and even after noticing them, I only cheered them on but never really thought of it on a serious note. Overall, I feel at rest with this decision, so I'm not pushing it to be among the happy and independent but to feel at peace with my soul!!!

 

[Llewelyn Stevenson]

Nothing wrong with being celibate and remaining single, as long as it has all that goes along with it. Hate marriage? Soes someone hate marriage simply because they don't want it? I wouldn't know, I've been married 35 years so I'll have to take your word for it. Yep, marriage can upset your personal space but you usually get it back. Its all about adjusting.

 

[Xalith]

I'm 33. I get what you are saying and I don't like the idea of relationships. In fact, I have been in great relationships and I HIGHLY avoid getting SERIOUS. I just believe it's safer to be remain celibate than get into a relationship that I won't hold my end of the deal.

It is good to hear that you are celibate!

Sex without marriage is definitely a sin; it is called Fornication.

Hating marriage... well, I'm of two minds about it.

First, hating a gift God gave to Mankind is almost like slapping Him in the face over a free gift that He gave us. But yet, on the other hand, I can understand if it isn't for you personally. If you choose not to partake of the gift, that is your own free will... but to say you hate marriage is kinda bad.

Personally, I'd say a short prayer of repentance just to be sure... just tell Him that you're sorry for saying you hate marriage, thank Him for that gift, but yet politely tell Him that you don't feel the need or the want to partake of it, all the same.

That's what I'd do, anyways.

 

[Linet Kihonge]

It's okay to Love marriage...!!!

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

It's also OK to wanting to be single.. I think some people are called to be single..if you don't want to get married don't feel pressured that you have too.. God will place it on you if it is right for you.

I don't think she "hates marriage" she just hates the thought of her being married.. that's what I've pick up ?

 

[Linet Kihonge]

God will place it on you if it is right for you

Thank you! I almost thought I was going to get into a slaughterhouse because of saying, "I really don't like the idea of Marriage."

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

I wish I cared if people did a hopscotch down the aisle or booked an underground motel for their honeymoons. I just can't stand the idea of being married.

No, you should not hate the marriage institution because it was designed by the Creator ; he does however give you freewill choice to get married or remain single. But that doesn't mean that you are free to cohabitate unmarried in a sexual immoral lifestyle. Just remain single if you want to, and use that life to serve God and Others and still maintaining a righteous life . God will bless that as he has done for me being a Divorced Christian of 33 years now.

 

[Linet Kihonge]

Just had a heated debate on the differences between eunuchs and celibates. At some point Jesus and Paul had the gift of celibacy while Eunuchs were those born with sexual deformities. However, I just needed to find out if I qualified for a Eunuch that chose to avoid all kinds of sexual relations for the sake of the Kingdom of God. Still, I also needed to understand if I was born with poor levels of attraction but as a result of natural settings (getting married, having kids) I found myself in pathetic situations. Overall, I think I was born to celibacy and even though I always thought it was a crime to be alone I finally accepted that the Lord didn't object it as much.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

Just had a heated debate on the differences between eunuchs and celibates. At some point Jesus and Paul had the gift of celibacy while Eunuchs were those born with sexual deformities. However, I just needed to find out if I qualified for a Eunuch that chose to avoid all kinds of sexual relations for the sake of the Kingdom of God. Still, I also needed to understand if I was born with poor levels of attraction but as a result of natural settings (getting married, having kids) I found myself in pathetic situations. Overall, I think I was born to celibacy and even though I always thought it was a crime to be alone I finally accepted that the Lord didn't object it as much.

Just enjoy your life and serve God relentlessly and you will find great fulfillment, purpose, and meaning...something that many many people wont find because they don't want God in their lives.