IS IT A SIN to disobey your parents?

[johnb1]

HELP GIVE ME A HAND HERE (^^,)

 

[Robinsegg]

Principles:
1. Honor/obey your parents is in the 10 commandments (as well as Ephesians 6).
2. Jesus said the 2 greatest commandments are:
Love God
Love People
3. The only time I saw in Scripture where disobeying parents was allowed (ie not sinful) was when the parent asked the child to defy the laws of God.
4. Obedience after reaching majority (and no longer living in their home) or marriage is not required, but honor *is*.

Rachel

 

[clycleader]

Now that Im a parent, yes.

 

[CelticRose]

Ephesians 6:1 ~ Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Doesn't get much clearer than that.

 

[gengwall]

HELP GIVE ME A HAND HERE (^^,)

A little more info would help. Who is the one disobeying (you)? How old are they? What constitutes "disobeying"? Is the disobeyor married? Give us a hand in giving you a hand.

 

[LilLamb219]

If the parents ask of something that is ungodly, then NO, it is not a sin to disobey the parents! Not at all!

We are to "honor" our father and mother, but to totally disobey without taking into account what they are asking is not the same thing. Some wild parents I've seen in the news expect their children to steal...wrong, wrong, wrong.

 

[janny108]

HELP GIVE ME A HAND HERE (^^,)

Depends on how old you are? If you are under 18, generally the answer is Yes. It depends on what they want you to do. the bible says to honor your parents it doesn't say you always obey them, especially if you are over 20 and you are acting like a grownup, no one is paying your bills, and/or if you are mature enough to get married.
Jan

 

[Meshavrischika]

Is it a "sin"? yes.

Does that somehow make someone obey (that it is a sin)? no... and it shouldn't.

Children should respect you and be obedient out of love, not fear. Same with us and Christ. I am not obedient out of fear, but because I am grateful and He loved me first.

 

[4tune8]

You should always obey them. Forever.

Now, of course just like the verse: "obey the laws of the land", does not command us to stand for injustice or anything morally against the word of God. David stood before the lions den and called out "o great king"... but he still did not kneel. So there is no evidence that obediance should be blind either.

Responsibility is "transferred" over time to each individual. We start making our own decisions, we start taking charge and direction over our life. Now I am getting older, but I still listen to the advise of my parents, but I make the decisions. This is because I, now, am responsible for what I do.

I think I am respecting and obeying them when I make good informed decisions about my life. In the same way, they never "order" me to do anything because I am an adult as well.

Wow, that is too long a post for obediance!!

 

[gengwall]

You should always obey them. Forever.

Now, of course just like the verse: "obey the laws of the land", does not command us to stand for injustice or anything morally against the word of God. David stood before the lions den and called out "o great king"... but he still did not kneel. So there is no evidence that obediance should be blind either.

Responsibility is "transferred" over time to each individual. We start making our own decisions, we start taking charge and direction over our life. Now I am getting older, but I still listen to the advise of my parents, but I make the decisions. This is because I, now, am responsible for what I do.

I think I am respecting and obeying them when I make good informed decisions about my life. In the same way, they never "order" me to do anything because I am an adult as well.

Wow, that is too long a post for obediance!!

But what if they did order you as if you were still 12? Would you be compelled to obey them now at 36 and married?

 

[Robinsegg]

As a married woman, my (family) priority is to my husband and children. If what my parents ask of me is not contrary to that priority, nor to Scripture, I try to fulfill it.
R

 

[4tune8]

But what if they did order you as if you were still 12? Would you be compelled to obey them now at 36 and married?

"Responsibility is "transferred" over time to each individual. We start making our own decisions, we start taking charge and direction over our life. Now I am getting older, but I still listen to the advise of my parents, but I make the decisions. This is because I, now, am responsible for what I do."

There is a point where we have to take responsibility for our own actions. When we are responsible for our own family, we listen to counsel, but decide for ourself.

The Bible states that a man is to leave his house and be joined with his wife. Obviously, to lead and provide for your family presides over doing anything a mother or father says. Because ultimatly, God put you in charge of your family.

But you can do both. Daniel was able to Honor God and King when he faced the lions den.

You can honor your mother and father and still do what God is leading you to do in your own family.

 

[Meshavrischika]

"Responsibility is "transferred" over time to each individual. We start making our own decisions, we start taking charge and direction over our life. Now I am getting older, but I still listen to the advise of my parents, but I make the decisions. This is because I, now, am responsible for what I do."

There is a point where we have to take responsibility for our own actions. When we are responsible for our own family, we listen to counsel, but decide for ourself.

The Bible states that a man is to leave his house and be joined with his wife. Obviously, to lead and provide for your family presides over doing anything a mother or father says. Because ultimatly, God put you in charge of your family.

But you can do both. Daniel was able to Honor God and King when he faced the lions den.

You can honor your mother and father and still do what God is leading you to do in your own family.

 

[Meshavrischika]

"Responsibility is "transferred" over time to each individual. We start making our own decisions, we start taking charge and direction over our life. Now I am getting older, but I still listen to the advise of my parents, but I make the decisions. This is because I, now, am responsible for what I do."

There is a point where we have to take responsibility for our own actions. When we are responsible for our own family, we listen to counsel, but decide for ourself.

The Bible states that a man is to leave his house and be joined with his wife. Obviously, to lead and provide for your family presides over doing anything a mother or father says. Because ultimatly, God put you in charge of your family.

But you can do both. Daniel was able to Honor God and King when he faced the lions den.

You can honor your mother and father and still do what God is leading you to do in your own family.

 

[heart of peace]

A little more info would help. Who is the one disobeying (you)? How old are they? What constitutes "disobeying"? Is the disobeyor married? Give us a hand in giving you a hand.

I second gengwall's request. I don't understand how a person can ask a general question and provide no background information and get a specific response.

 

[lin1235]

Yep, I need more information too. I don't see how my 16 month old child is sinning by not coming when I call, for example. Once she's old enough to understand we can have this debate again, but there needs to be a context for the question.