Is he the one?

[Eleana]

I've been in and out of relationships...frankly speaking...none of it last more than 2 weeks. Everytime when I met someone special, I would pray my heart out and keep asking God whether is this man the one God sent...but seems like none.

My question is how you know this person is the one God sent into your life? Do we have to go through disappointments after disappointments to finally find the right one? or is it that I am the most unlucky one? After 28 yrs of age, I dont even have someone who love me as i am...i am a woman's shame.

 

[Onwardclimb]

If you are a "woman's shame", then I am too. I am 23 and have NEVER had a boyfriend, and chances of that changing any time soon are VERY unlikely!!!!!

Anywho, I think that how to tell if he's the one depends on the way that God chooses to reveal it to you, and that varies with the person.

God bless,
Onwardclimb

 

[charligirl]

A book by M.Blaine Smith called 'should I get married?' helped me on this one... deals with how to know. I read it and married the guy I was seeing as a result of the book !!

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Well, I dont really know what to tell you about "The One" because i havnt found her yet. But what i will tell you is my opinion on dating. I believe dating shows you what you want in a spouse, some people have good things in certain areas and bad things in others. I think it shows you what qualities to look for. Above all though, keep praying to find that one special person, that God will show you the path, that you will know without a doubt when that one person comes along that he/she IS the one.

 

[Eleana]

thanks for the advice.

in our country...seems like most men are very idealistic...looking for girls with better appearance, nice figure (or at least you must be skinny)...none really looking at the "inner" self. Good girls seems to end last... but anyway, quite used to being judged by ppl I met.

 

[shania]

If you surround yourself with people who have the same interests as you, then it could help you meet the right person. If you want to be with a Christian, for example, go to places where you'll find Christians. It might mean joining a school Christian group or doing activities at other churches. Don't limit yourself to the church you go to if you are open to having a boy/girlfriend from a different church.
Pray to meet the right person, for the guidance to know who that person is and for patience until that time comes. Timing is everything. If you are not ready to be in a solid, longterm relationship, then it won't happen until God thinks you and that other person are.
Work on your personal growth, develop hobbies, make new friendships and try new things. When you have a better sense of who you are, it'll be easier to recognize this person when you meet them.

 

[sOuLifieD]

I've been in and out of relationships...frankly speaking...none of it last more than 2 weeks. Everytime when I met someone special, I would pray my heart out and keep asking God whether is this man the one God sent...but seems like none.

My question is how you know this person is the one God sent into your life? Do we have to go through disappointments after disappointments to finally find the right one? or is it that I am the most unlucky one? After 28 yrs of age, I dont even have someone who love me as i am...i am a woman's shame.

I probably don't belong over here, but I am single and I do have something to contribute to the thread, lol =)

My answer, in the most simplistic form, is in prayer. How do you know what God's will is in anything? Through prayer and in meditation. If you seek the Lord, you will find Him. If you ask Him for an answer, will He give you a lie? (Matthew 7:7-11 , "Keep on asking, and you will be given what you ask for. Keep on looking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And the door is opened to everyone who knocks. You parents--if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! If you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him.") -- you are doing a good job in "praying your heart out". God hears you. Maybe you didn't directly hear Him, but He gave you an answer by shutting the doors in those relationships. You are not a woman's shame, you are a woman's pride, because you are following GOD. It honestly doesn't matter if the world says you should be married by now, because the world is filled with deception and lies and it is unaware of what God has chosen for you and how special His plan is.
It might take a while to recieve an answer from the Lord about what you were praying for , but our God is the God of peace. It is through Him that we can find the peace we look for when we desire an answer, and if your spirit has an unsettlement about what you believe He has shown you or what He has done, you will not feel complete peace about it.
Jeremiah 29:11 ,"For I know the plans I have for you," says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." - the Lord knows what He's doing in your life. Maybe it's not exactly what you'd hoped for -- I know that a lot of what He's done and is doing in my life goes directly against everything I had envisioned for myself, but this scripture is really an encouragement to me. Even if I never marry, or don't until I'm much older, would that be disappointing to me? Probably, but the words directly from the Lord's mouth are that His plans are for good and not for disaster, to give us a future and a hope. Satan really tries to use our misunderstanding of what the Lord is doing in our lives, and our call to have simple faith in Him when we cannot see everything, to bring us down. But when that happens, I always try to remember that scripture, because who is Truth? God is. Who is the deciever and the liar? Satan is. If you are feeling condemned for what God has chosen for your life, that is not God telling you you're worthless, that is Satan trying to work against you because he knows that God is planning something for good and not for evil.

As long as you're praying things through, and seeking God, don't worry. I know it's hard, and it's definitely something I've struggled a LOT with, but it is really the most simple concept in the world -- as hard as it is for us to grasp. Follow what you believe to be God, live your life the best you can under God's principles, and He takes care of the rest. If He's telling you nothing, it's because it's not His will for you to know right now.

I hope this doesn't sound preachy, lol, I'm just writing what's on my heart to write.

I pray that the Lord will give you peace about what He is doing in your life, and that your faith in His will would increase abundantly. I pray that He would show Himself to be faithful to you, and put to death any doubts you have or any leanings to listen to what the world says above what He says. That is my prayer for everyone.

:goes back to then teen forums:

 

[desi]

I don't know if God makes an ideal mate for us so much as we choose our mate and our mate chooses us, free will and all.