is God calling me to break up with him?

[midnighttrain]

when i first started dating my boyfriend, we had decided it was going to be a short term relationship because i was graduating high school and moving to a different country and he was staying in my hometown. he wanted to do long distance but i didn't want to so we decided not to. when i moved in september, we were supposed to break up. that never happened, somehow it just didn't work to break up and we ended up doing long distance. i prayed about this a lot; whether it was right for us to stay together, and God only opened doors to allow us to stay together.

i am back in my hometown for christmas vacation and i've seen my boyfriend frequently since i arrived. my best friend is also here, and yesterday she was telling me how she doesn't like me and my boyfriend together. this sparked a train of thought in my mind and i haven't been able to stop thinking about it all day. i know God doesn't always answer prayer immediately, but i prayed about this and it's like suddenly i feel convicted to break up with him. i want to make sure though before i act on this that it's actually God convicting me and it's the right thing to do rather than me trying to please people. i of course will continue to prayerfully consider this, but if it is God convicting me i don't understand why he would want me to break up with him. if i do decide to break up with him, i would like to give him a reason other than "God told me to." i don't know where to go with this and i feel very confused and frustrated. i would really appreciate any advice, opinions, prayers

edit: i don't want to "blame" God just because i got a feeling that i should break up with him. i'm just confused as to whether this is God or me thinking. if it's God, why does he want me to break up with him? and if it's me, why do i suddenly feel like i should break up with him? did what my friend say to me suddenly spark an urge in me to be single incase i meet someone else, or maybe some other reason like that? i don't know...

 

[iambren]

What God tries to bring about is HIS business and your little mind will never figure Him out.

Focus on what YOU are feeling toward this man, what you would like in terms of a relationship, and what qualities in a guy YOU want to go the distance. "The steps of a righteous man are ordered by the Lord" so take comfort if you are a child of God. Being an adult is making well-thought out decisions, "owning" them, not trying to shift or shirk responsibility onto God or anyone else. Good luck.

 

[elenore]

why is a really good question. if you don't know, I'd put a freeze on those plans til you work it out. it might be your friend undermining your relationship or they might have touched on something really valid that you haven't articulated to your own satisfation yet.

to act on a 'feeling' alone can be dangerous territory. you should get peace about your decision, and that generally comes from knowing you've done or are going to do the right thing.
however self-deception can play a part too. if you're feeling unsettled, I'd pursue it until you'd managed to track down why, one way or the other.

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

It's you feeling this. I doubt God is the one giving you this feeling. You didn't want to be in the relationship long term. You're obviously not in love with the guy, so you need to be responsible end it. However, you need to be careful about how you go about it and get rid of this idea that God is having you do it. iambren is completely right in this.