All these responses are so funny, because maybe I'm remembering incorrectly, but some of you may be the same people that have been quick to tell me to submit, or to continue to do it god's ways when I have mentioned some of my marrital problems. But yet in response to this, some of you are making it clear that in this situation you would not submit.
Can I say something? When we "love" those who hurt us, which I will add is commanded of us, we are not saying "it's ok" as some of you have said, and others have implied. And it's not about blindly submitting, and this article doesn't really have anything to do with a woman submitting to a man, it's not about the sex of the individuals, atleast I didn't read it that way. It's about "loving" someone, AKA, treating them with respect and the way God wants us to even though they don't treat us well. That is commanded, and maybe that would've saved her marriage, or maybe not, maybe the guy just had an evil heart and didn't care, who knows.
Being someone who hasn't had the joy of being in a relationship with someone I can "talk to", though I've tried, and who just points the finger back at me if I mention a behavior I'm unhappy with, I to have had my options. I could get a divorce, have an affair, be married and unhappy without hope, fight with him all the time, be ugly back, or just love him like the Lord would- not for his sake, but for my own- trusting it into God's hands and doing my part so I have nothing to be blamed for.
I mean, some of you got good points, doesn't say whether or not this lady even attempted to go to her hubby about her feelings, or work it out in any other way except to just be quietly disrespectful. And I don't see how this guy couldn't have said anything to her about his feelings of her rejection, seems to me a lot of unspoken words were going on. I don't understand that being such a verbal person myself, I have to hold myself back LOL. My point, being someone who can kind of relate to her, is that sometimes people are stuck in situations they can't control, and if after all her other efforts have failed and her husband continued his behavior, what would you then recommend, divorce?
I want to add, that through my own experiance, loving my hubby, even when I'm hurt and needy myself- has been the best recipe for my marriage. If I hadn't ever applied those principals to my marriage, we would surely be divorced today. And more than that, we are closer, and have hope- not that we are out of the desert yet, but we are making great strides to get there. Though it is good to be able to address a behavior to your spouse, and I'll admit, there are some behaviors I just won't put up with. There is also something about just taking account of your own behavior and working on that, cause really, that's all you can control. Plus, my hubby and I have done the blame game pretty badly.
