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I don't believe that divorce, in itself, is a sin. But some of the reasons why a couple get divorced can have a sinful basis. Divorce because of adultery by one spouse, happens because of the sin of the adulterer, but the innocent spouse has not sinned by becoming divorced. In the same way, domestic violence is a sin which can result in a couple divorcing. It is not the divorce that is the sin, but the domestic violence. In the case of desertion when one partner decides just to leave the marriage rather than try to get help to save it, it is not the divorce that is the sin, but the refusal of the departing partner to get sound counsel to work to save the marriage.Is divorce a sin?
I don’t know if divorce is a sin, but it would be a sin to divorce and then remarry, unless the condition mentioned here applies, I believe:Is divorce a sin?
There is nothing here said about the innocent spouse. And, remember that Jesus was speaking to unconverted Jews to show God's higher standards - that the Jewish law permitted divorce but God's standards are more strict. No one can reach those standards, and that is why Jesus came and died on the cross for us. So, what happens to a man whose wife deserts him and a divorce happens and he marries a widow? The widow can't be committing adultery because her previous husband has died. So, does this mean that an innocent person who has to go through a divorce because of his wife's decision, is punished as if he is guilty of the sin that caused the divorce? Does this mean that God punishes the innocent with the guilty?I don’t know if divorce is a sin, but it would be a sin to divorce and then remarry, unless the condition mentioned here applies, I believe:
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery." Matt 19:9 RSV
Is divorce a sin?
The problem I have in saying that you can't divorce someone is that in some states, if not all, aren't you tied to your spouse financially, so that you are held responsible for your spouse's debts? It seems to me the sin is when you decide to remarry, unless you divorced your spouse on the grounds of unchastity.There is nothing here said about the innocent spouse. And, remember that Jesus was speaking to unconverted Jews to show God's higher standards - that the Jewish law permitted divorce but God's standards are more strict. No one can reach those standards, and that is why Jesus came and died on the cross for us. So, what happens to a man whose wife deserts him and a divorce happens and he marries a widow? The widow can't be committing adultery because her previous husband has died. So, does this mean that an innocent person who has to go through a divorce because of his wife's decision, is punished as if he is guilty of the sin that caused the divorce? Does this mean that God punishes the innocent with the guilty?
But what is the greater sin - remarrying after the partner causes the divorce, or gossiping against another in the church? If God is going to punish an innocent spouse in divorce, then He must punish anyone who gossips and slanders another believer in church, doesn't He?
What is the answer then? Romans 8:1: "There is therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ". If God is a God of second chances for a murderer, rapist, robber, fornicator, prostitute, then why not be a God of second chance for a remarried divorced person? After all, sin is sin, and there are no big or small sins, it is all sin, and Jesus took it all on the cross with Him, and left our sins down in Hell when He rose from the dead.
It all depends on who is the one who has caused the divorce and the reason why. God never punishes the innocent with the guilty, and that all sin and iniquity shall be forgiven of people. 1 John 1:9 is the life saver for any person who sins. Of course we have Moses coming along with the big stick, whacking remarried people on the head on a regular basis!The problem I have in saying that you can't divorce someone is that in some states, if not all, aren't you tied to your spouse financially, so that you are held responsible for your spouse's debts? It seems to me the sin is when you decide to remarry, unless you divorced your spouse on the grounds of unchastity.
Is divorce a sin?
We need to look at 1 Corinthians 7 in the context in which it was written. Paul is dealing with Corinthian men who were divorcing their wives because they had the mistaken belief that being single made them more spiritual and closer to God.
My question is, if the innocent party in a divorce remarries, are you going to charge them with de facto adultery and therefore reject them as a true believer in Christ?Divorce is not in of itself a sin but Jesus says divorce and then remarriage is de facto adultery.
My question is, if the innocent party in a divorce remarries, are you going to charge them with de facto adultery and therefore reject them as a true believer in Christ?
You sidestepped my question, which is what would YOU do?I think what the Bible says on divorce and remarriage can be very open to interpretation. That doesn't mean Christians with other viewpoints aren't real Christians. Salvation is based on solely what Jesus does. Having a viable interpretation is evidence of genuine faith, as opposed to twisting the bible to support a preconceived notion.
I have a couple of questions:
1. A couple have been married for eight years. They are committed Christians. Suddenly the wife decides that the marriage was a mistake and refused to cooperate with marriage counselling to try to get to the bottom of what has trigger her sudden change of heart toward the marriage, The husband has alway been supportive and loving toward her, never had an alcohol problem, never been violent, or had an affair, and has always paid the bills. She leaves him and they get divorced. Now my question is: Who would you punish? The wife who deserted the marriage, or the innocent husband, who did all he could to save the marriage? Also, would you punish the husband if he remarried?
The next question is, a wife leaves a marriage to save her life from a violent husband. He refuses help and counselling, so they get divorced. She remarries. Would you punish her?
I will leave it there for your responses. Then I will ask questions related to it.
Is divorce a sin?