this is tuff for me because my wife is not a christian. so when we have sex it is lust driven.
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is being lustfull with my wfe a sin?
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No it aint, 'cause she's your wifey. Being lustful for another woman is another matter though.
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The answer is no. Sex and sexual expression is reserved for the marriage bed.
"Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love." Proverbs 5:18, 19 (NASB)
God honors the marriage bed and warns us not to defile it by fornication or adultery:
"Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." Hebrews 13:4 (NASB)
Also you should read "The Song of Solomon" or as some bibles call it "Song of Songs". It's a poetic allegory of God's love for Israel using marriage and sexual expression throughout. It's poetic and beautiful.
"Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love." Proverbs 5:18, 19 (NASB)
God honors the marriage bed and warns us not to defile it by fornication or adultery:
"Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." Hebrews 13:4 (NASB)
Also you should read "The Song of Solomon" or as some bibles call it "Song of Songs". It's a poetic allegory of God's love for Israel using marriage and sexual expression throughout. It's poetic and beautiful.
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what is not allowded?
is different positions ok?
is oral sex ok?
thanks for the help so far
is different positions ok?
is oral sex ok?
thanks for the help so far
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I'm not sure what you're saying is too obvious... the answers to his questions or the trolling.
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No, you're fine. "Lust" by definition just means to have a strong sexual desire, which is completely fine when it's directed towards your wife, it becomes an issue when it's not.
These kinds of things should ultimately be determined between you and your wife. If either of you is uncomfortable or convicted about doing things a certain way then that's where the boundary lies.
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You experience normal, God given sexual desire when you want sex with your wife. Song of Songs is all about that. Enjoy.
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Bourne thanks for the reply. my problem is that my wife is not a Christian and she has no boundary.
she gits angry at me if there are somthings that i don't want to do becase it's dishonors the lord.
she gits angry at me if there are somthings that i don't want to do becase it's dishonors the lord.
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If your wife were a Christen sex would still be lust driven. Do you think having sex is just about making babies?
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If she's having a hard time accepting your boundaries because of differences in beliefs, perhaps try explaining them to her differently. Sometimes if people think you're merely doing something because "you're not supposed to" they don't believe you truly feel that way. Rather, maybe you could try explaining to her that you're not comfortable with "XYZ" (whatever that may be) and you hope that as her husband she can respect you for that.
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she wants to watch porn with me.
she said to me that me reading the bible and doing christian things like watching christian moves or music is a total turn off for her
she said to me that me reading the bible and doing christian things like watching christian moves or music is a total turn off for her
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On that she might be right! I'm not for porn, but she wants some creativity and fun is her sex life. How about obliging her. you will get some benefits too.
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