is all sin the same

[Rafael]

i agree with what you are saying.. but i wonder, if i should be trying to help her with her sinful behavior, what about everyone elses.. including my own? to me, a few of the things she portakes in are worse than what i would do, but in the same sense there are things i do that i consider worse than what she does. (once again these are based on what i beleive) how do i know that i have the right to tell her what she is doing wrong when if all sin the same i am doing different things that are equally wrong even though it isn't the common beleif?.

We have a responsibility to share the truth in love with one another. Sometimes, as you already know, it isn't easy to not be misunderstood and be accused of being judgmental when really you have their best interests at heart. So, yes, if we care and have love we should be ready and willing to help at the prompting of the Holy Spirit. You would know when the perfect timing would present itself, and pushing wouldn't have to happen.

even knowing that i do things wrong too, i have sublty tried to steer her towards what is right in this particular situation, if i were to come right out and say that she shouldn't be sleeping with three guys in one night, i beleive she would totally push me away or simply say she doesn't care. i have seen her do it with other people and i dont beleive totally losing her friendship is going to help her get on the right path ifyaknowwuttamean. I'm waiting for a time that i will be able to help her without being totally pushed away by her. i wouldn't want to offend her even tho she needs it.

Your friend is blessed to have your friendship, although she may not know it. Along with looking for that opening to share with your friend about dangers of sin and the regrets they can cause for life, pray for her in Jesus name. Petition God and lift her up to Him in prayer, standing in the gap for her, asking for forgiveness of sins and asking for the Holy Spirit to do the work of conviction in her life. If something does happen as a result of her activity be a ready with the hope of good news and salvation.
If she calls herself by God's name, but doesn't obey His Word about sexual activity, then she needs to rededicate herself to finding God in the scriptures and read about rules for a blessed life, staying in the Word of God.

 

[Svt4Him]

If you break one part of the law, you have failed to keep the whole law, and therefore are judged as a transgressor of the law. But not all sins are equal in God's eyes, as has been posted about the Pharisees.

 

[TheMainException]

I too have heard that all sin is equal and I can only guess that it is because any sin makes you unholy in God's eyes and therefore he shuns you because he cannot look at any sin whatsoever. So if you lied, your soul is black, if you murder, your soul is black. It is equal in that way.

 

[Jodi_99]

I wouldn't say you have a "right" to tell her what she's doing wrong.... but you do have a responsibility as a friend and fellow Christian (if she is a Christian, that's not crystal clear to me). Get over the fact that you're not perfect... we're all sinners! God has put a burden on your heart for your friend, one that is not to be ignored. Any doubts you may have about helping her are most likely NOT from God.


You're absolutely right that you need to be careful how to help. Sometimes, with best intentions, we try to go things on our own to help people we care about, and actually end up doing more hurt than good. Above all, pray for your friend... pray for God's guidance as to how to help... ask Him to show you what to do. God answers prayer!

All that aside... in my opinion, your friend sounds like she has problems that may be too big for you alone to help her with (i.e. -- require counseling or professional help). I would hope that she understands the risks of her behavior already, which implies there is a bigger issue or problem driving her behavior. I don't know what that may be, but she definitely needs you to be there for her. Continue to be her friend, showing her that you care about her and love her for who she is. And again... pray, pray, and pray some more... continually looking for God's will as to how to help! When it's time to say or do something, you will know, as God's Spirit will envelope you and guide you. Believe me (I've been there), when God wants to use you, He will, and you'll probably look back and ask yourself if it was really you doing what you did or saying what you said. All we have to do is be willing... God's power is truly amazing!

I'll be praying for you and your friend. May God bless you and guide you!

thank you so much.. you really have helped.. i have prayed about this and i definitly will continue too. i really have no idea how close she is to God or anything but as far as i know she is saved. i think she just needs to be lead back...