Insight needed, WWYD?

[thoreauvian]

Hello all once again!

I guess I was at least somewhat raised like a gentleman and taught, though not directly, the right and wrong things to say. I was in the locker room at my work, men's locker room of course and I could overhear a conversation between a couple of guys just saying very rude stuff about their own wives, belittling them and just putting them down for not being, "good wives," and doing everything they should according to their desires, if you understand my meaning.....

It just put me off. It sounded so ignorant and so rude, I was just listening and shaking my head. I am more of the reserved type and try to solve problems rather than create conflicts, but what would you do in that situation? Would you confront them, try to correct them and help them understand or stay out of it for the most part? I mean, after all, I do have my job to think of and I work with these people more often that not, so what can you do?

 

[Avniel]

I mean why would you number one they weren't even talking to you so you were ease dropping. Number two that's really not your business to get into two married people's business and it's kind of rude.....especially at work, a professional environment.

 

[thoreauvian]

Well, I was in the locker room and they were talking with raised voices, it's kind of hard not to hear that. That's what I was saying though, it isn't any of my business but then at the same time how would you feel if your significant other was talking like that about you?

I just posed an honest question....

 

[aiki]

Proverbs 26:17
17 He who passes by and meddles in a quarrel not his own Is like one who takes a dog by the ears.

 

[thoreauvian]

Oh, how true that is lol thank you for that, that was perfect. I guess I know better than to confront, it's just something that had been on my mind today.

 

[LilLamb219]

You should just lead by example. You don't have to say anything about the conversation to them.

 

[BFine]

What Aiki said....applause, applause!!!

 

[elenore]

It wasn't a quarrel and he wasn't meddling. This was an ethics situation. What would Jesus do, - I think this is one of the safest things to ask yourself at times like this.

Prov 25:11 A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.

John 2:14 In the temple courts he found men selling cattle, sheep and doves, and others sitting at tables exchanging money.
So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.
To those who sold doves he said, "Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father's house into a market!"


Would you call that 'meddling'?

Prov 10:10 He who winks the eye causes trouble, but he who boldly reproves makes peace.


I think it's relative.

 

[aiki]

It wasn't a quarrel and he wasn't meddling. This was an ethics situation. What would Jesus do, - I think this is one of the safest things to ask yourself at times like this.

Prov 25:11 A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.

Well, I think it is a kind of meddling to intrude yourself upon a conversation you aren't a part of.

John 2:14 In the temple courts he found men selling cattle, sheep and doves, and others sitting at tables exchanging money.
So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.
To those who sold doves he said, "Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father's house into a market!"


Would you call that 'meddling'?

How could it be meddling when it was his house? No one had more right to do as Jesus did - he was God incarnate!

I don't think the OPer can boast the same kind of integral involvement in his eavesdropping situation.

Prov 10:10 He who winks the eye causes trouble, but he who boldly reproves makes peace.


I think it's relative.

I think you're right. If these fellows the OPer overheard were his relatives, he might have had a responsibility to say something.

Selah.

 

[HaveHope]

In this situation I would keep my mouth shut, but definitely pray for them and their wives.

 

[Avniel]

Well, I was in the locker room and they were talking with raised voices, it's kind of hard not to hear that. That's what I was saying though, it isn't any of my business but then at the same time how would you feel if your significant other was talking like that about you?

I just posed an honest question....

How I would feel isn't your business you know. Maybe that's their relationship where they feel comfortable talking about their problems with friends maybe not.

But to add the bible says:

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

 

[thoreauvian]

Now, now, I didn't want to start an uproar. I definitely see both sides, it was just a simple question. Thanks to those that saw my view and also those that brought me insight. I don't think I'd be saying anything anytime soon, but prayer for them and their wives is a good solution for now.

 

[paul1149]

I think the verse Aiki brought up was simply made for this situation. Sometimes we need to bide our time for a better opportunity to "strike". Admittedly, since these guys were loud this occasion seems borderline, but probably a better time will present itself where you can give a word fitly spoken, one that will not make you the issue. Til then, let your peace return to you, and have confidence that the Lord will give you the right words to say at the right time. That alone will be a witness: silent in the natural, but effective in the spirit.

 

[whale8jonah]

I think the point here is that a conversation was unavoidably overheard and it was offensive. If we heard the name of God being abused, would we not confront the people with it? If we had a child with us, and we overheard swearing, would we not go and ask the people to tone it down? Similarly here, a conversation was heard where it was offensive for a Christian to overhear...should action be taken?

I hesitantly agree that to talk to the people here could be considered as meddling, as presumably they beleived they were having a private conversation and were unaware that they were being overheard by someone else. Having said that, I do agree that some sort of action should be taken because the content of the conversation was clearly upsetting.

I think i'd do as HaveHope suggests - praying is always an excellent start!