Ya know Ive been thinking a lot lately about attraction and personality etc and Ive realized that no one gives a rip about who you are unless you look attractive. Everyone will say that attraction varies by person but everyone will agree(unless you are fat) that no one finds fat attractive. This is a golden rule in american culture and even one that I apply. I'm fat but dont find fat people attractive thus i'm left alone. Kinda weird I know. So can you tell me how I can start finding larger ladies attractive? I relaize I got no shot with normal looking women so how do I change what I find attractie? The inside matters most to me but it is true if you do not find a lady attractie then it wont work in the long run so I dont know what to do. Opions please I'm tired of being lonely. Oh I'm 6' 275 or so
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You shouldn't be thinking about attraction, despite what people in this section of the forum believe, you should be thinking about being a good person. If you concern yourself with that everything else comes together on its own.
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i don't what answer to give you but here is what i offer you:
not everyone out there bases solely upon the looks if they give a rip about you.
now of course i'm a guy so this may not help you out, but a mere example is this girl at work. she's the talk of the plant. she's extremely thin, petite body and wears shirts that if she bends over, you can see things without even trying. i'll admit, she's a pretty girl but i help her out as much as i help the overweight women at work. plus when i found out she is 18 with a kid and how my buddy at work said he could have her (you do see them around each other at work so i have a hard time not believeing it is possible) all i see is a pretty leg spreader/useless woman for me.
two of my good friends are overweight and i'm severely unattracted to them two physically but i've dated a girl that was technically overweight. we dated for 2 years in highschool.
so i think it depends on the people you are around and come into contact to, and then i think the attraction to women will depend on how you become attracted to that girl.
you can't just all of a sudden become attracted to larger women, or skinny women. i mean you and i are guys. we love stuff about women's body, so attraction can be found anywhere on a woman. its just a fact. just maybe you haven't found/saw a larger woman out there that you find attractive and there's nothing wrong about that. plenty of women out there to see yet
plus if you want a glimmer of hope, think about this:
a woman with a body is better looking than a woman that looked like she grew up in ethopia.
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Speaking as a 5'7" dude weighing barely 150, I can safely say that I find bigger women more attractive. I don't mean the "WHOA, BEACHED WHALE!" type, but... you get the point.
I can spot one thing right there that I've got to comment on.
WHY?!
I mean, with an attitude like that, of course you'll fail! It's in the attitude, man; not just how you look.
Changing what you find attractive... well, try to find inner beauty. Every woman is beautiful in her own way - the question isn't changing what you find attractive, but finding something attractive in someone else.
I can spot one thing right there that I've got to comment on.
WHY?!
I mean, with an attitude like that, of course you'll fail! It's in the attitude, man; not just how you look.
Changing what you find attractive... well, try to find inner beauty. Every woman is beautiful in her own way - the question isn't changing what you find attractive, but finding something attractive in someone else.
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