insecurity

[j davis]

ok im not even sure if this is where i should be posting this but here it goes anyway.

last month i started going out with this girl. i've had 2 "girlfriends" before but this one is the only real one. the other 2 didnt really count because it was just something dumb(dont feel like getting into details because its really off topic). i have never felt about anyone the way i do about her. like 2 weeks ago she asked me if i lover her. i told her that i do. i have NEVER said that to anyone and no one has ever said that to me, not even my family. my family knows them but i've never said it. she said she wanted to say that she loved me before but she didnt want to freak me out. its funny how i wanted to say it to her but i decided not to because i didnt want to freak her out.

with my girlfriend i can open myself the way i've never have to anyone. she tells me that i make her feel special and im glad that i do because she is so special to me.

even though all this has happened i feel so insecure. sometimes i get this overwhelming fear that she already lost interest in me. i dont have any good reason to think this but thats the way i feel. i've always felt awkward with girls but this insecurity is driving me insane. i feel so worried and sad just thinking that she's gonna break up with me. yes, i realize how dependent this sounds but like i said before, that's just the way i feel.

i try convincing myself that these are just foolish fears but logic doesnt work. even though she said im her "dream guy" and i feel she is my "dream girl" i cant help but feel so worried. could someone please help me by just telling me where i could go in the bible for help? my mothers suffers from anxiety and she said she has also suffered from depression. i've started to think that maybe i'm going down the same path she is. has anyone else felt this before?

 

[Daniel_Standish]

I am sorry I don't have any Bible verses for you - only because I admit that I am not very familiar with many Bible verses myself. All I can do is offer you my advice. You don't have to consider any of it...this is just my 2 cents worth.
First off, what is it exactly that is making you feel this insecurity? You feel as if she is going to dump you. Why? What gives you that feeling? Why would you think that? Is it that she doesnt express her love enough...or that maybe she spends time with her friends more than you? What is the cause for this insecurity you have?
I do not believe that you are "going down the same path" as your mother as far as anxiety and depression are concerned. Everyone feels anxiety and depression at least a thousand times in their life! It is not uncommon. Life is very stressful - what can I say? I believe that if you put God at the center of your relationship, you will feel His love flowing through your girlfriend. God's love flows through Marissa...into my life. That is how I know He is always there for me. It is hard to explain. Maybe I am just weird. But I do believe that faith is the answer to this insecurity you feel. Have faith in God. Have faith in your girlfriend. It is no easy task. Life was not made to be easy. But if you have faith in God, He will fight the battle for you.
I don't know if any of this is making any sense...perhaps I am just babbling. I don't even know if any of this helped you at all. But I know how difficult it is to have a relationship. I know how hard it is to show love in a world like this. I know your struggle. I will be praying for you. I will tell Marissa...and we will both pray for you. I hope I was of some help to you. God bless you.

 

[silentpoet]

Sounds to me like the devil is attacking you. Focus on what ever is noble and good, think on those things, don't dwell on the negative. And while it is good to have relationships, build your life on rock, not on the sand of human emotions.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

It just takes time. You're a month into it, so you've got all the time in the world

I used to feel really insecure with my now-fiancee, especially when she would hang out with groups of people when I wasn't there. I kept thinking she would find someone better for her or something, but now I know she's in it for the long haul.

 

[Sam the Record Man]

"do not worry about anything. but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to the Lord"