Infertility

[WithLoveFromAlyssa]

Men, how would you feel if you had a girlfriend who reveled to you that she was infertile? I ask this because My doctor thinks I may have endometriosis, which leaves women with a 50% chance of infertility (I believe).
Would you be okay marrying a woman knowing you couldn't have children with her? Would you break it off?

 

[EazyMack]

Makes no difference to me.

I'm really on the fence about having kids. Mostly leaning toward "not."

I wouldn't marry someone who was itching to have kids right out of the gate, but I would marry someone who did not want to have kids, or couldn't have them.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

They think you might, so it isn't for real just yet. Would it be still possible for you to still have children if you freeze your eggs now?

 

[WithLoveFromAlyssa]

Makes no difference to me.

I'm really on the fence about having kids. Mostly leaning toward "not."

Really? Why is that? (If you care to share)

 

[WithLoveFromAlyssa]

They think you might, so it isn't for real just yet. Would it be still possible for you to still have children if you freeze your eggs now?

I dont know.. I haven't considered that option. Maybe I will if I get an absolute diagnosis.

 

[Saucy]

As much as I would love to have my own kids, it wouldn't impact how I felt about her. I'm pro-adoption as there are thousands of kids out there who need loving parents so we would pray about that.

 

[EazyMack]

Really? Why is that? (If you care to share)

I don't mind sharing, it's just not a simple answer lol. Basically, it comes down to a lot of "what's the point?"-type questions. Also feeling like it's no longer a good time to subject my own flesh and blood to this world. I started feeling this way around 25. I don't want to "follow the formula" in life... I'd have to know for sure that God wants me to have kids.

 

[MehGuy]

I would be very happy TBH.

I might even.. like sneak a quick praise to God about it..

 

[Rhamiel]

it would worry me.... I have a desire to "continue my line" so to speak

but it is not an insurmountable problem, there is always adoption

but it would give me pause

 

[SnowyMacie]

I wouldn't be bothered by it at all. I would like to have kids, but I am just as okay with adoption as with having my own offspring.

 

[Sketcher]

If she could not physically have children, I would not consider that to be a dealbreaker. There's always adoption for when we are ready for kids. Endometriosis does have some other consequences which I am not sure about, I would honestly wonder how that would affect the sex life that my wife and I would have, if I were to marry someone who has that.

 

[WithLoveFromAlyssa]

Thank you all for your Answers .. Honestly I expected more "No Way" answers..
When I was younger I never wanted kids, Ive changed since then though...
Oh well, If I'm meant to have kids, God will make it happen, Endometriosis or not.

 

[WithLoveFromAlyssa]

If she could not physically have children, I would not consider that to be a dealbreaker. There's always adoption for when we are ready for kids. Endometriosis does have some other consequences which I am not sure about, I would honestly wonder how that would affect the sex life that my wife and I would have, if I were to marry someone who has that.

I never really looked into that aspect of it.
I could see how that may hurt some women, but I don't know about all of that.

 

[EazyMack]

it would worry me.... I have a desire to "continue my line" so to speak

This is how I felt pre-25.

Then I came to realize that my line is only in Christ, and His is the line we should aim to continue.

Just another point to throw out there for Alyssa.

 

[Saucy]

Yeah I would trust God that He would make a miracle for us. He's done bigger, greater things than that! I happen to recall this one time that a virgin became pregnant and had a kid.

 

[Sketcher]

I never really looked into that aspect of it.
I could see how that may hurt some women, but I don't know about all of that.

I have a female friend who has it. From the sound of it, she may well have a more severe case. (She was lacking in tact when she informed me, please do not make the same mistake yourself. We don't need to hear further details).

 

[EazyMack]

I happen to recall this one time that a virgin became pregnant and had a kid.

If so, you need to update your profile... you're way older than 30.

 

[WithLoveFromAlyssa]

I have a female friend who has it. From the sound of it, she may well have a more severe case. (She was lacking in tact when she informed me, please do not make the same mistake yourself. We don't need to hear further details).

Oh that sounds terrible, I'm not married, and so I wouldn't know if that would hurt but i feel terrible for her

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Just continue to bear in mind that your condition does not always result in infertility. You have just as much of a chance of being perfectly fertile as you do infertile. Doctors like to scare by always dropping those 'worst case scenarios' in patients ears. Do your own research on endometriosis...find out all the facts you can about it. Perhaps even visit different a doctor for a second opinion.

 

[Rhamiel]

Thank you all for your Answers .. Honestly I expected more "No Way" answers..
When I was younger I never wanted kids, Ive changed since then though...
Oh well, If I'm meant to have kids, God will make it happen, Endometriosis or not.

mhm, remember Sarah and Elizabeth