Incest...yuk!!!!

[Timahani]

Hello Everyone....

I am posting because I have went through a horrific sexual assault not too long ago...I am not posting to write concerning the rape . But I have had a long history of sexual abuse as a child and now that I am well into adulthood, I feel the anger like this is ridiculous I cant trust my family...My question is easy..........


Why are the men in my family attracted to me?

I can tell, I can see it in their eyes.....often times I could avoid these problems....but recently I failed to see it coming because it was from someone who was a bit younger than I , but much stronger.......What in the world is going on?

 

[Spunkn]

What makes you feel as if they are attracted to you?

I'm not trying to question you, I'm just trying to honestly ask what is it about them and their actions that are indicating they are attracted to you?

 

[Timahani]

Hey spukn.....your questions are fine...i will answer them quickly..just so that i wont become too upset.....well just to throw some info out there i come from strict pentecostal back groundi wear long skirts and always long sleeves.....and lastly..i have had a historyof sexual abuse and sometomes u can pickup on those spirits okay so hre are my reasons

1)this person confessed how beautiful i was to the world..invaded my space with nothing om but boxers stares lustfully at my girly parts when i sit
And stand wanted to move inwith me.

#2) my cousin attempted to kiss me one day while intoxicated
.because he got jealous that iwas talking to another familu member..he called me a name
.two weeks later i went to talk about this..he hugs me as if sorry
.yeah right he picked me up slightly and tightly held me on his erect penis..he then wanted me to move inwith him

Lastly my other cousin moves in confesses his love, rapes, and assaults me...in sum i feel many are innapropriatlu attracted to me.i dont accept this behavior with boyfriend s at all...unfortunately my expieriences have all been with family


Hope these help..sorry for the format my phones crazy

 

[Spunkn]

Yikes, okay yeah that's definately inappropriate.

I'm not sure I have an answer to why your family is doing that. I can tell you that it's not your fault. You are not responsible for the evil things they are doing.

You definately need to keep some distance / boundaries between you and these people whenever possible, even if they are family.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this awful stuff. Family should be there to support you, not make you feel even worse like you've done something wrong.

 

[fdsfndls]

Sometimes we have spiritual doors open in our lives through generational sin. Why don't you pray and ask God to show you everything he wants to show you about this. God is for us, sometimes however the devil gains a foothold, to get free from it, we might need to forgive, repent, pray, go to counselling. Sometimes healing can be a long process, if we're willing to seek healing, God is always there.

 

[mmksparbud]

Unfortuneately, once you've been abused for a while, you are trained to give in. There are evil men out there who can pick up on the vulnerable. It's their sickness, not yours. It took me to be over 50 before I realized our minds are trained as children to not say no. I had turned promiscuous because I thought that put me in control--I was over 50 when a radio program had a pscholo9gist that was talking about how we simply do not know how to say NO!!---It finally dawned on me, I had not been in control all those years of sleeping around, I had actually slept with guys I was not attracted to and did not want to bed, but I did. It sounds stupid, but saying no to ourselves, and to others, is a learned experience. God helped me to heal, forgive, and to learn. It was a christian station that had that program of my final step towards growing up and seeing why I had behaved as I had.

 

[RuthD]

The reason they did what they did had nothing to do with you but with their sickness..pedophilia. They are predators and nothing is wrong with you but there certainly is something wrong with them.