in the workplace

[Alice the Sister]

the two people in my office at work have figured out that im having sexuality issues. We joke around a lot and lighten the mood...but they told me to stop joking around about sexuality and the like. They said I could joke about gay stuff if i were gay.......but im not really sure. . .so I couldn't tell them. I'm not sure whether i like guys, girls, both, or neither.

Im not afraid "to do stuff" with a guy ...but im more afraid and nervous "to do stuff" with a girl.

to do stuff = anything relating with courting/dating/kissing/whatever.

I'm still a virgin, technically. but......i'm just very confused. I don't know if its just my way of dealing with my other struggles, you know.......feelings of loneliness, depression, etc. I don't know how to open my heart up, much less whom id open it up to.


But the main concern is...at my office. They know im confused, but I don't know how they'll treat me. I feel irritated that I can't be honest with them...but even more irritated that I can't be honest with myself.

I've never publicly asked for help with this kind of thing. I just don't know what I'm supposed to make of these feelings, and how to deal with them at work.

 

[Johnnz]

You probably need to talk through some issues in your life with a counselor or wise pastor. You seem to have some background issues in your life and these can often impact on your sexual development in some way.

If you wish to share some more details of your childhood and famly background feel free to PM me.

John
NZ

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Sex/sexuality is a tricky subject at work.

 

[Sam Gamgee]

Are you a male or a female?

Sometimes, I think that joking about something is our way to make ourselves comfortable with something we may not necessarily be comfortable with.

So, maybe that's why you joke. I don't think that's such a bad thing.

However, I do see your co-worker's point. I think it's important for all of us to figure out who we are and get on with our life. It's important to stop living in confusion and find our path.

 

[Alice the Sister]

You probably need to talk through some issues in your life with a counselor or wise pastor. You seem to have some background issues in your life and these can often impact on your sexual development in some way.

If you wish to share some more details of your childhood and famly background feel free to PM me.

John
NZ

I really would love to PM you, but I can't. I've decided to stop opening up to people on the internet. Bad things always happen when I tell people about my childhood/feelings/whatever.


I talked with my co-workers today at work. They're not mad at me...they just want me to be honest with myself/ with them. They aren't going to hold it against me for being gay/bi/whatever.

I just think it's kind of rude, and with everything else going on this week...I just can't take it.

ill be fine.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

You're my bro and I'm always here for you.