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[WelshJesusFreak]

Hi, i'm male and was in a relationship with another man of 4 months, we'd done stuff 'once' before and i decided that if it happend again i'd break off the relationship. Two days ago it did, and i broke off the relationship. I'd also decided not to entre into another man-man relationship, meaning that unless i ever had a legitimate attration to women i would remain celebate. The problem is i'm absolutly in love with that man, and it's quite literally killing me, i've concidered suicide or harming my self twice since ending the relationship and i can't stop crying. I begged everything from God, admittedly alot of the time selfishly. I'm so in love with this guy i wouldn't care if he was male or female, if he was sexless. but i konw i can't go back however i feel distraught. any help or adview ould be appreciated.

 

[oceanofdreamz]

The Lord loves you, have you been abused physically sexually or something in your early life? Don't contiune on this path give it all to Jesus Christ He WILL save you

 

[ShetlandRose]

You know that a sexual love affair between two persons of the same sex creates tremendous emotional problems. If you are a Christian, you probably realize that the Bible is clear that homosexuality is sin and that God calls it an abomination. You can read scriptures all over these forums to prove that fact. If you are now under conviction from the Holy Spirit you will want with all your heart to change this pattern in your life. Are you involved in a Christian disciple fellowship (one-on-one) where you can get help and support? Are you able to flee places, destroy materials that tempt you, and break off friendships that lure you back into sin again? It is imperative that you keep yourself saturated in the Word of God, which will enable you to renew your mind and give you strength to resist temptation and give you victory in your life. Seek help from mature Christians grounded in the faith if you wish to change.

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

Did you talk to him.. about not doing that "stuff"... before it happened again?..

I know how hard it can be to deal with a break up... especially when its with someone who is very very important.. to you.. Im sorry you have to go through it!!

God knows your heart, he knows your are hurting, Remember who is important to you is important to God!! ... Just pray to him.. he will help you find your way...

What kind of advice are you looking for?... Have you spoken to your ex?.. Are you scared of something?...

Im here if you need to talk!!

 

[Rage4Christ]

Welshjesusfreak, first-- Christ loves you unconditionally, God loves you unconditionally. Try to love yourself unconditionally. I understand self-harm and suicidal tendancies can seem almost like a "compulsion." Find a therapist/phsychiatrist, whatever it takes to talk these feelings through. There are many options out there, find them, use them. You may feel ashamed or embarrased or afraid. That is perfectly healthy-- you need to find that inner Christ, that inner love of yourself, to overcome those emotions and do what is best for you.

Love is a powerful emotion. It can be good and it can also be overwhelming. A bit of introspection can be helpful-- but it is ALOT of work. Seriously, how anyone chooses to react to this love is probably the hardest choice they have to make; be in marriage, boyfriend or Girlfriend-- we all have struggled with these choices. Take your time, spend time just learning about yourself, discovering yourself. It all begins with unconditional love for yourself. Christ loves you unconditionally. There is nothing an ominpotent God can really "want." This time on earth is for you to live and grow and rejoice in yourself--even in the most painful uncertain moments.

Depression is a natural consequence from difficult relationships. But Depression can get out of control and become "neurologically" fixed. Often in response to stress the brain just simple gets a bit off. Time, reflection and sometimes medication can get you back in the balance.

Christ loves you unconditionally. There is no rush here. Think things through, feel, explore your own feelings. No shame. No guilt. The path to Christ is a mystery-- your path is as unique as you are. You will make mistakes, but you'll always have the chance to learn from them. In the end your relation to Christ will be stronger for it.

The path to Christ is not the path of perfection or perfect obedience to the Bible or religious authority. The path to Christ is a choice,it is a process and is always, always difficult.

Remember, Christ loves you unconditionally. With experiences such as these, you can only grow stronger. No guilt, no shame-- only understanding and loving "what is."
Grow, take risks, explore, reflect. To be Christ like, you must also love unconditionally-- that means, you are allowed to love yourself unconditionally as well.

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

Welshjesusfreak, first-- Christ loves you unconditionally, God loves you unconditionally. Try to love yourself unconditionally. I understand self-harm and suicidal tendancies can seem almost like a "compulsion." Find a therapist/phsychiatrist, whatever it takes to talk these feelings through. There are many options out there, find them, use them. You may feel ashamed or embarrased or afraid. That is perfectly healthy-- you need to find that inner Christ, that inner love of yourself, to overcome those emotions and do what is best for you.

Love is a powerful emotion. It can be good and it can also be overwhelming. A bit of introspection can be helpful-- but it is ALOT of work. Seriously, how anyone chooses to react to this love is probably the hardest choice they have to make; be in marriage, boyfriend or Girlfriend-- we all have struggled with these choices. Take your time, spend time just learning about yourself, discovering yourself. It all begins with unconditional love for yourself. Christ loves you unconditionally. There is nothing an ominpotent God can really "want." This time on earth is for you to live and grow and rejoice in yourself--even in the most painful uncertain moments.

Depression is a natural consequence from difficult relationships. But Depression can get out of control and become "neurologically" fixed. Often in response to stress the brain just simple gets a bit off. Time, reflection and sometimes medication can get you back in the balance.

Christ loves you unconditionally. There is no rush here. Think things through, feel, explore your own feelings. No shame. No guilt. The path to Christ is a mystery-- your path is as unique as you are. You will make mistakes, but you'll always have the chance to learn from them. In the end your relation to Christ will be stronger for it.

The path to Christ is not the path of perfection or perfect obedience to the Bible or religious authority. The path to Christ is a choice,it is a process and is always, always difficult.

Remember, Christ loves you unconditionally. With experiences such as these, you can only grow stronger. No guilt, no shame-- only understanding and loving "what is."
Grow, take risks, explore, reflect. To be Christ like, you must also love unconditionally-- that means, you are allowed to love yourself unconditionally as well.

WOW!! RageforChrist, I couldnt have said it better!!

 

[WelshJesusFreak]

does anyone know of any good people/organisations to talk to, any one with experience really..I don't want to go to an organisation who are purly 'convert to straight only' as i feel they're often fake and manipulating, don't worry i'm not suicidal, i've just had urges, which i've never had before. Havn;t been abused nope.
Thanks to all xxxx

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

You can always talk to me... here... maybe I can help you find some place to go to!!

 

[Rafael]

Everybody has a burden to lay down at the cross. I pray you will find real firm Christian support that would help you dedicate yourself completely to God. We all (I do mean ALL)need to sell out completely to God and we go through all kinds of mountains on our path towards Him. There will be a day when sexual desire will hardly be a memory or a problem, but true love will remain. Whatever you do, suicide is not an answer acceptable to God. He is the giver of life and only He should take it back at the appointed time. Surround yourself with Christian friends who will support you and hold you up to God in prayer, as we are supposed to do this for one another.

 

[Rage4Christ]

welsh

you may want to try this looks like a good UK resource

 

[oceanofdreamz]

Welsh- I am here to talk with... If you ever need to talk just pm me... God loves you never forget that... and even though I'm 13 I'll try and help God bless you!!!!!!!!!