I'm to anxious about adopting....help!

[twopeasinapod077]

Hi!
My husband and I will be adopting our one and only white newborn from the U.S. in a few years because we can't have our own. I'm anxious! I think about this tooo much! It cost an estimate of $15,000 and we just started saving. It'll take us a few years to save, but I can't wait to have my little boy or girl here with us I guess my maternal instincts are kicking in!

I go on baby name and baby homepage sites almost everyday to daydream...ha, ha

Do you have any thoughts or ideas for me so I don't think about adoption so much???

 

[fishstix]

Hi!
My husband and I will be adopting our one and only white newborn from the U.S. in a few years because we can't have our own. I'm anxious! I think about this tooo much! It cost an estimate of $15,000 and we just started saving. It'll take us a few years to save, but I can't wait to have my little boy or girl here with us I guess my maternal instincts are kicking in!

I go on baby name and baby homepage sites almost everyday to daydream...ha, ha

Do you have any thoughts or ideas for me so I don't think about adoption so much???

First of all, congrats on your decision As far as advice for thinking about it goes - I'd try taking the whole situation to God in prayer, as often as you like even if it's 50 times a day Pray for the baby you're going to be adopting and for his/her biological parents and for your husband and yourself and for the whole situation in general. That way your thinking will serve a very useful purpose And it should help to give you more peace about the whole situation

 

[Mayzoo]

This doesn't help dollar for dollar, but some adoption fees are now tax deductable (like up to 10,000 dollars), and many agencies have a payment plan so you don't have to pay all 15k at once. We have considered adoption as well. So many of God's blessing are waiting to find a loving home. Basically, I would say-- awesome choice of accepting one of God's blessing into your heart, and you wil be a blessing to the child you choose to adopt!! Win Win situation!! Praying the time flies by!!

 

[EmSchmem]

I will tell you what someone told me this week. I am trying to get pregnant right now after having a miscarraige in June. My lost baby and the one I am trying to have are becoming my idols and I am putting them above the Lord. Prayerfully consider if you are doing this as well. If this future baby is all you can think about then that may very well be the case.
Ooops. Hit send to fast.
Anyway, she sent me a verse to help me think about it and encouraged me to shift mt focus back to full dependance on God. This doesn't mean that you can't ever think about it at all or that you're not going to feel anxious or anything. It just means it's not going to be your 24/7 focus.

Jer 29:11-12 " 'For I know the plans that I have for you' declares the Lord, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.' "

Great verse. There is a thread on the womens forum about verses for comfort and dependance on God that would ge good as well.

 

[somethinfishy]

Hey, my sister is going through the same thing. It's a little different here in Canada, plus they are doing it privately, but they have been on a waiting list for over a year now. She has been SO impatient, wanting nothing more than to have that baby. Well, the waiting has obviously been excruciating, and I know that it must be all the more painful, since it is her only option at this point. Recently, her sister-in-law had a baby, and it threw her into such a depression that we finally convinced her to go see a counsellor. Not that she was psycho, but that she really needed to work these things out. She realized that she was not waiting on God's time, or realizing that He has the perfect plan, and the perfect time in store for her and her husband. Also, she has been babysitting the infant of a friend for several days, and it made her realize how demanding being a full-time mom really can be.

Long story short, she, as has been suggested before, is learning to wait on God, for His timing. So many times in life, God seems to give us what we have been pleading for, only when we are able to trust him enough to live without it. So, following this thought, within days of realizing her lack of patience and trust, they were called by the adoption agency to be informed that a birth mom was looking at their scrapbook. That mom didn't pick them, but now there are only 7 couples ahead of them, and 3 birth moms in counselling. Things are looking hopeful for them. Pray for patience and trust in God and His plan and timing...He has the perfect baby picked out just for you!

 

[TheMainException]

I am so excited for you...this is wonderful....I think adoption is an amazing thing and I am planning on adopting if I don't get married (right now it doesn't look too good for me and marraige...but God's way is strange). But one idea I do have is these two prayers:

The Jesus Prayer:
Say this on your breath in: "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God."
Say this on your breath out: "Have mercy on me, a sinner."
Say this for as many times as you want, I recommend at least 50, but monks do this sometimes all day long (I know, a little crazy, but it really draws them close to God)

The Centering Prayer:
Say this word on each breath in and out: It can be any word that calms you and brings you to a point of thinking about God, or the "NOW" as my friend Brennan Manning says. He uses the word "now" to keep him focused on the here and now. Some sample words are: "love", "joy", "peace", "hope", "grace", "mercy", "abba" (daddy)
Some sample sentences are: "Abba, I belong to you," or "I am the beloved"
These are just samples, you can choose these or one of your own. I recommend saying this at least 100 times...don't count though, for either of them...maybe just go for about 10 or 20 minutes. After each prayer, sit in silence for a while. When thoughts come, gently return to your word.

Try these and call me in the morning...just kidding. I'll be praying over you on this thing. God bless and good luck.

 

[Clayman]

Congratulations

My little sister is adopted and she has been a huge blessing in my life. You guys are going to be so blessed, just leave it all to God and he will sustain you.

I will be praying for you guys.