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I'm suspecting my dad is doing something...

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Sit him down and talk to him about it...if he is a Christian it may shame him to know that you are hurt by it and this will send him to the computer to delete it...if he is taken by Satan too much, he will probably tell you to mind your own business, but you will have an effect on his heart either way...I would tell him no matter how hard it would be. Most of all, pray for him.
 
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Hi Sophia , [ Lover of Wisdom ]

It depends somewhat on how you and your Dad get along .

Do you talk together about spiritual things - things behind the vail of physicality ?

If you do already , then you should prayerfully discuss your concerns with him , being sure he understands that it is out of godly concern that you care , about what he's feeding his mind .

If you don't talk together , other than causally , this might not be the best place to start !?

Also , if that's the case , is there someone else then , who does talk deeply with your Dad ,(who is after a godly sort ), that you can express your concerns to ?

I wouldn't try deleting it yourself . People have to be willing to accept change in their lives ; trying to force it on them , usually only makes them angry .

Pray and seek to live as godly a life as is possible ; for when the light of Christ shines brightly out from within us ; the things of darkness are thrown away .

And many that believed came, and confessed, and shewed their deeds.
Many of them also which used curious arts brought their books together, and burned them before all men: and they counted the price of them, and found it fifty thousand pieces of silver. <-----> Acts 19:18+19


Note how it says , they brought " their books ", no one brought someone else's books to the " book burning " !


May The Lord Be Pleased To Bless

Prays of peace and hope ,

wm
 
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Pray for your father and zip the lip. Noahs sons covered their father's nakedness when he sinned. Shem and Japeth covered their father's nakedness while Ham told on his father. When Noah woke, he cursed Ham for the exposure and not doing as his brothers did.
There is something beautiful about covering the sins of others and not exposing them. If you do, then expect the same measure repaid in life.
We all have sins to deal with in our own lives. I think I would get my nose out of this business quickly and lift your Dad up to God in prayer, trusting God to take care of it.

Ge 9:23 Shem and Japheth took a robe, held it over their shoulders, walked backward into the tent, and covered their father’s naked body. As they did this, they looked the other way so they wouldn’t see him naked.
 
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While it is duly noted the advice raphe gave fits well with Noah and his sons .

It is also worth noting the difference between " covering " a sin which is past ; and looking the other way from an ongoing sinful indulgence which is bound to draw a man away from pleasing his Lord .

Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. <-----> Galatians 6:1

And as far as children being unfit to minister in this capacity to their parents when they are at fault ; because they should honor their parents .

There are also these verses to consider :

Out of the mouth of babes and sucklings hast thou ordained strength because of thine enemies, that thou mightest still the enemy and the avenger . <-----> Psalm 8:2

And if I by Beelzebub cast out devils, by whom do your children cast them out? therefore they shall be your judges. <-----> Matthew 12:27

^ This did Jesus say to those adult men who through their sin-hardened hearts scoffed at Jesus as he cast devils out of the afflicted people .

And when Pharaoh saw that the rain and the hail and the thunders were ceased, he sinned yet more, and hardened his heart, he and his servants. <-----> Exodus 9:34


Well , every situation is unique , consider your options prayerfully , and may the Lord show you which is right in this one !

Sincerely ,

wm
 
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Hey Sophia :)

I would go with what raphe suggested... sound advice. Pray and leave it in the Lord's capable hands. I don't think it would be a very positive experience raising the subject with him... and it could result in a rather scaring experience for everyone involved. Perhaps you could talk to your mother... I would sexuality is something that should be kept between adults... and not something a 16 year old daughter should have weighing on her mind. Your at a difficult enough age having to deal with your own emerging sexuality Sophia without having to worry about what your parents are involved in.

fallen^sparrow :)
 
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Well, if it were my dad, I'd have a terribly difficult time talking to him about a subject like this, even if we are just guys... but since you don't know for sure that it was pornography.. I'd let it slide until you're positive it was.... then, if you catch him during the act.. then talk to him about it then.. it'll be hard for him to rebound and rebuttle against it when you know for sure that he was sinning.
 
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