im so alone

[buzi]

im so alone, surrounded by many people but so alone, yes i know the bible teaches God is with me but the real honest truth is i dont experience his presence and i cant do being so alone anymore

 

[Tigger45]

It is not good for man to be alone. Do you have a good church to go too?

 

[RuthD]

You can write down a list of things you like to do and try to find outings or support groups that go with what you like. It helps depression. Praying for you.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hi,

I understand your struggle I have been through some very dark times in my life. At one point it got so bad that I was going to commit suicide. My struggle was related to not being able to find a partner in life. However the news is not all bad, God eventually told me a person I could marry, it turned out the person liked me and we got married. My life now has no loneliness. Infact my life is really quite good. The relationship is not the thing that has made my life good however it is having a good relationship with God. A relationship with God will eventually bring you out into a place of blessing, even though you may not feel it right now, God is planning a really good future for you. The more you put into your relationship with God the more you will get out of it. The bible says he who sows little will reap little, he who shows much will reap much. The bible says seek first the kingdom of God, and everything else will be added. By diligently seeking God, God will add blessing to your life.

 

[Criada]

Praying for you
Sometimes being surrounded by people can be the lonliest place.

 

[buzi]

It is not good for man to be alone. Do you have a good church to go too?

thank you tigger for taking the time to reply, im like a stranger in the the church i go to and struggle to go

 

[buzi]

You can write down a list of things you like to do and try to find outings or support groups that go with what you like. It helps depression. Praying for you.

thank you ruth for your kind words of support and help

 

[buzi]

Hi,

I understand your struggle I have been through some very dark times in my life. At one point it got so bad that I was going to commit suicide. My struggle was related to not being able to find a partner in life. However the news is not all bad, God eventually told me a person I could marry, it turned out the person liked me and we got married. My life now has no loneliness. Infact my life is really quite good. The relationship is not the thing that has made my life good however it is having a good relationship with God. A relationship with God will eventually bring you out into a place of blessing, even though you may not feel it right now, God is planning a really good future for you. The more you put into your relationship with God the more you will get out of it. The bible says he who sows little will reap little, he who shows much will reap much. The bible says seek first the kingdom of God, and everything else will be added. By diligently seeking God, God will add blessing to your life.

thanks future and its good you are in a good place now, from the evidence of my life im not convinced god is planning a really good future for me, i see more that god has rejected me and im without god and hope

 

[buzi]

Praying for you
Sometimes being surrounded by people can be the lonliest place.

thank you criada for praying for me

 

[Sandy29]

Hi Buzi, how are you today? I can relate to so much of what you have written. I hope I can help!

 

[buzi]

Hi Buzi, how are you today? I can relate to so much of what you have written. I hope I can help!

hi sandy, thanks for your concern, im struggling to make it through, hope you are doing better

 

[drjean]

It's tough to feel so alone! You aren't alone here

I find myself getting into the doldrums of loneliness when I begin to compare myself to others. Comparison always causes a downfall imo. ... when we look at other humans and assume they are having happy lives. We must connect with Jesus and compare ourselves to what He expects from us and how well we are doing that. Of course, we have to remember that Jesus only wants our best. If what you are doing now, where you are (in depression) is the best you can do right now, then that's all you CAN do, and it's what God understands you to be able to do, nothing more.

Talk to God... keep telling Him how you trust Him to get you through this... He will. It won't last forever.

 

[buzi]

It's tough to feel so alone! You aren't alone here

I find myself getting into the doldrums of loneliness when I begin to compare myself to others. Comparison always causes a downfall imo. ... when we look at other humans and assume they are having happy lives. We must connect with Jesus and compare ourselves to what He expects from us and how well we are doing that. Of course, we have to remember that Jesus only wants our best. If what you are doing now, where you are (in depression) is the best you can do right now, then that's all you CAN do, and it's what God understands you to be able to do, nothing more.

Talk to God... keep telling Him how you trust Him to get you through this... He will. It won't last forever.

thanks drjean, its good that you have recognised the cause of your loneliness and are able to deal with it. im alone not because im comparing myself with others, its because of lifes events, although im surrounded by many people im alone, i have to talk to myself and chat like this online, i dont want to be alone like this anymore

 

[mandelduke]

thanks future and its good you are in a good place now, from the evidence of my life im not convinced god is planning a really good future for me, i see more that god has rejected me and im without god and hope

[FONT='Times New Roman','serif']My brother if it were possible for God to reject one of his children, he would have rejected me long ago. I have sinned so much and failed him so many times. It is as if he sees something in me that neither I nor anyone else can see. [/FONT]

 

[Catherineanne]

im so alone, surrounded by many people but so alone, yes i know the bible teaches God is with me but the real honest truth is i dont experience his presence and i cant do being so alone anymore

Hi Buzi. There is depression and there is depression. Some people when they are depressed turn completely inwards and cannot see anything but their own needs. When I read this thread I did not see that; I saw someone who is struggling, but who still has time to respond to others who come to this thread, and to communicate with them, and ask how they are.

This shows that you have a lot to give, imo. I think this may be where you find a path through the Valley of the Shadow. I don't know the way out of the Valley but I do know this path; finding someone else who needs help and offering it to them is one way to make sense of an otherwise bleak and meaningless existence. You say you have a church, but maybe it is not quite the right one for you. Do you contribute to it in any way that helps you to feel as if you belong? Simply going to church is fine for some people, but I think you are someone who would benefit from helping out from time to time. If there is no opportunity to do that where you are, then perhaps another church might be more welcoming.

I wish you well.

Lord, have mercy,
Christ, have mercy,
Lord, have mercy.

 

[buzi]

Hi Buzi. There is depression and there is depression. Some people when they are depressed turn completely inwards and cannot see anything but their own needs. When I read this thread I did not see that; I saw someone who is struggling, but who still has time to respond to others who come to this thread, and to communicate with them, and ask how they are.

This shows that you have a lot to give, imo. I think this may be where you find a path through the Valley of the Shadow. I don't know the way out of the Valley but I do know this path; finding someone else who needs help and offering it to them is one way to make sense of an otherwise bleak and meaningless existence. You say you have a church, but maybe it is not quite the right one for you. Do you contribute to it in any way that helps you to feel as if you belong? Simply going to church is fine for some people, but I think you are someone who would benefit from helping out from time to time. If there is no opportunity to do that where you are, then perhaps another church might be more welcoming.

I wish you well.

Lord, have mercy,
Christ, have mercy,
Lord, have mercy.

hi cathrineanne, thank you for your helpful message, what you wrote is so true, i do have a lot to give and i hope i dont sound to arrogant by saying this but its true, over the years i have help many people and done many good things but sadly when i got sick people abandoned me and this has wounded me so much, i didnt realise people only used me for what i could do for them, this is why its so difficult for me to reach out again

 

[buzi]

[FONT='Times New Roman','serif']My brother if it were possible for God to reject one of his children, he would have rejected me long ago. I have sinned so much and failed him so many times. It is as if he sees something in me that neither I nor anyone else can see. [/font]

thank you mandelduke, i wish you well

 

[knw1991]

Hi buzi, I'm sorry you are struggling, is there anyone in your life you could share your pain with that won't judge you? There is also a Skype chat for the depression forum, try posting a thread about it and they will show you how to join, have you ever thought about volunteering with the elderly? Many elderly people can relate to feeling lonely and volunteering with them would be a way to form friendships with someone that can relate to you,
Remember God will never leave or forsake you even when you do feel lonely, you are in my prayers buzi God bless you with peace and companionship

 

[buzi]

Hi buzi, I'm sorry you are struggling, is there anyone in your life you could share your pain with that won't judge you? There is also a Skype chat for the depression forum, try posting a thread about it and they will show you how to join, have you ever thought about volunteering with the elderly? Many elderly people can relate to feeling lonely and volunteering with them would be a way to form friendships with someone that can relate to you,
Remember God will never leave or forsake you even when you do feel lonely, you are in my prayers buzi God bless you with peace and companionship

dear knw1991, thank you very much for your kind words and kind suggestion, i wish i could do skype but im too scared, recent bad experiences have left me traumatized and frightened, the volunteering idea is good and i hope when i recover more i will be able do this type of thing