i'm screwed

[AshenK]

for those of you who remember, i was looking for answers on premarital sex, defending my views of how it was okay.

however, i was talking with God one day as normally, and i heard Him speak loud on the inside of me. He told me that although sex is good, the christians with the Spirit of God in them, who are changed, are supposed to have different views on everything, and everything includes sex. (thus instantly changing my opinion on premarital sex) before I believed premarital sex was good, positive energy, life-creating goodness, the opposite of murder. it made perfect sense. however, that's how someone who doesn't have the life of Christ on the inside of Him sees it, naturally. and if you're interested in how christians are supposed to view it supernaturally... there are several books and internet articles out there that will better explain it more in depth than me going into blabbering detail. the bottom line - although sex is good, the christians with the Spirit of God in them, who are changed, are supposed to have different views on everything, and everything includes sex.

well, now that me and my girlie girl are not getting back together, that leaves me in the single world and in a college environment with lots of single girls looking at me. folks, i'm screwed.

My answer: Pray I find a Godly girlfriend to keep me on the right path or things will get messy. where to look, where to look.


thoughts, suggestions, flames are all welcomed, to know people are reading my post ;]

 

[CoachR64]

I thought the goal was to not be screwed?

Coach

 

[Teufelhund]

I agree that it's hard to find the right girl, but it's doable, given the right patience. Just be patient, my solution to this problem is actually fairy crude but effective, I am terrified of STDs, even when I had lost my faith this kept me in check. Just look at the consequences of any action if you want to avoid it. Also finding a girl is something that may not be the top priority, especially if you feel that you may difficulty controlling yourself.

 

[Keri]

I think that this issue has already been addressed in sufficient detail in your prior thread. I do not think that you have the capacity outside of mysticism to defend your views, furthermore the only purpose I can see for this thread is to obtain a rise out of people, there is nothing I hate more than people whoring themselves out for attention on the internet by being abrasive, offensive, and generally acting like twelve year olds. I don't really care if your mother didn't love you enough to give you the attention you were seeking, I certainly don't have time to. I can see no productive outcome of coming to the same conclusions over and over and over, this is one things as to which the Bible is fairly clear, and I think that any mystical observations which are in disagreement with the scriptures are clearly and obviously flawed.

Teufelhund-

Um, re-read his post... he's saying that God spoke to him and his mind is now changed on the matter.

 

[Teufelhund]

Yeah I just got that, I apologize for my earlier rudeness. I altered my post. I am a little out of it today, so I am terribly sorry about that, that whole thing just frustrates me so much, that I jumped to conclusions, so I am terribly sorry about that I hope that you'll forgive me.

 

[Keri]

Whoa, that was fast. I guess you did... I misread it at first too.

 

[Keri]

No worries. I guess I spoke to soon. All is forgiven.

 

[Teufelhund]

I speak too soon sometimes too, if you couldn't guess. Where to look for a good girl, they're not easy to find. Mostly because the girls that make themselves readily available are not so good. I would be very careful around them, treat with the proper degree of politeness but don't encourage them, that's usually works well. Eventually you'll find one, and then it will be worth it.

 

[MusicWarrior]

Hey, it's no big deal. You learned this lesson slower. We have all had our battles. For a while I endulged in pornography. I convinced myself it was ok and recently like 4 days ago, God smacked me upside my head (not literally) and reminded me of my purity vow and how that was a completly opposite the vow. lol. Anyways ya dude I will pray for you, and hey many christians battle this thing called sex to death. Let me remind you David, the man after God's own heart had sex issues. So all you need to remember is that if you keep God first than everything else will fall into place, including finding the woman you were meant to be with.

 

[Airicon]

well, now that me and my girlie girl are not getting back together, that leaves me in the single world and in a college environment with lots of single girls looking at me. folks, i'm screwed.

lol, hang in there buddy you're not screwed. Your (new) views are the ones you find in the Bible, and the ones that your fellow Christians support. Welcome to the club

 

[josh21]

The bible said you are supposed to wait to have sex till you get married and I think thats the right thing to do

 

[Sindyan]

My answer: Pray I find a Godly girlfriend to keep me on the right path or things will get messy. where to look, where to look.

Brother, a godly girlfriend can't do that for you. Girls are human just as much as men. If you wish to live at the new standard you have for yourself, you must keep yourself on the right path. Yes, you can have brothers and sisters of Christ to encourage you. You must set yourself bounties to help prevent yourself from breaking your new standard.

Truly, brother it may be best for you to hold off on the dating scene for a while, and just really reflect, search the heart of God, and really focus on that. This is not out of a guilty heart, or penanced, but to make sure you are emotional and spiritually ready to be in a relationship.

God Bless you brother, and keep up the fight of faith,
Anthony

 

[eatenbylocusts]

If you're going to look, look in the right places. Don't go looking in a bar. Get plugged into a singles group that is teaching what the Bible says. A men's group too that can give you some accountability.

And I agree that you need to set boundaries and make up your mind you're going to refrain from going where you've gone before. Hopefully a future gf will help you when you might be weak, and you help her when she is, but if you have definite boundaries you're going to find it much easier.

One you might seriously consider is not being alone in your dorm or appt. just lying around with no purpose.

 

[IseekTheTruth]

Good for you.

Back up every voice you hear with solid Biblical backing. Make sure your views, in any area, are supported by God's Word, because Satan's voice can seem really right sometimes, but be totally wrong. Always consult God first through prayer and his word.

Secondly, you "buy where you shop". If you "shop" for the kind of girl that will have premarital sex, then that's what you get. If you shop for a solid Christian girl who knows and follows God's commands, then you'll be fine. Dating an amoral girl and hoping to remain pure is just another way to set yourself up for failure.

Keep on keepin' on.