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That is exactly how I feel, they are both in bondage and it is going to be very difficult to get out of. A spiritual director is an excellent idea.Ladybug, your brother is manipulative. I think that both you and your Dad are victims of that at this point. Somebody is going to have to set some healthy boundaries. I think seeking a spiritual director through your Church is an excellent idea.
Satan is the father of all lies and he does not want you to have any peace at all. Say your rosary daily, even sprinkle holy water around your room and other parts of the house. Trust Jesus, He will get you through this, but it won't be easy.
Yeah, I am 67, my husband is 61. He had a horrible bowel cancer back in 2018, was in the hospital for 85 days, (thankfully, we did not have to pay one cent)he seems to be cancer-free now according to all tests, but I still worry. Yesterday, the GP removed a lump from his hand, he was concerned it might be a malignant cancer, so we now wait for the results. I have some heart issues, mainly skipped heart beats and tachycardia, they scare the bejeebers out of me. I go to the ER lots, but they are now getting tired of me and every time they do an EKG and blood work, it is always "normal" So, I guess I have to take the doctor's word. I do worry at times though, heart disease is in my mother's side, that is how she died back in 2005 and cancer on my daddy's side, he died in 2012.
Well, as I have stated before, a lot of the drama is from Satan, he knows exactly what buttons to push, and, since you are so stressed and tired,you are naturally vulnerable to his tactics.
Either that or I'm not qualified to be on the receiving end of the same thing.
Christ didn't claim we'd have peace in this life, but there are ways you can change mindset to bring peace into your life, even if those around you are nothing but chaos. Your brother's actions are between him and his parents - you can choose to not get involved. (If I'm understanding the situation correctly.) Pray, pray, and pray some more - see where Christ can help you quiet your life.
I should have been clearer, "he" is my dear husband Steve. A lovely Christian gentleman, we met here on CF in a different group.
Hugs. I am sure that you are very burnt out, things like this take its toll on people. You've been through so much already. I don't doubt that your brother is having genuine depression, I really think that deep down he knows what he is doing is wrong, but he doesn't want to admit it, so, he is fighting an inner battle between good and bad. He needs to put a stop to all this, no matter what happens, it would be lots better than the ramifications that could very well happen if he doesn't.Sorry guys, I'm burnt out from all this and I'm not motivated to reply as I should. I want to. I've been reading the thread. My brother is also having genuine depression issues and called a crisis hotline on Thursday night (according to what he said). However, it pains me to say this but I can't believe how stupid/gullible he is on things, and that character flaw of his seems to be a big reason why he's feeling this way right now, though not entirely. I hope that I have not been presenting myself like this to people over the years, because if I have, it's draining.
