i'm pitiful

[Alice the Sister]

Two of the last three girls I went out with have become lesbians (well one is bisexual) and the other is a sex fiend. I changed schools this year and haven't really dated anybody this year. Everyone at my school are kind of annoying and conceited. At my school we don't have many "freaky" girls per se, but we have a lot of 'punk' alternative girls at our school, but they all go out with guys from other schools. And as a matter of fact, most girls go out with other people from other schools.

I wished I had stayed at my other school, but I had to have a driver's license.

What should I do to become acceptable among the other sex? Someitmes I try to be funny, but I guess I seem to be more depressing and complain to much.

Everyone is always like, "leave me alone you (expletive deleted)!!"

I feel really lonely, I didn't go out on any dates with any girls for a whole year.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I didn't get my first date until I was 19.
Be yourself. It's better to be alone than have to act like someone else to get a girl.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Ya know what i had a thing like to, I never dated the girls but i was talking to a few of them and the truth about their sexuality came to light kinda creppy, scary part I think was they hit on me first, *shivers*.
Do yourself and any future girls you date a favor and just be yourself, thats the best you can do, in all reality you can dress different, talk different, listen to different music, but your personnality and who you REALLY are will remain the same. Plus if a girl doesnt wanna date you because of who you really are then she is not worth it, no girl is worth having to change for, especailly trying to change who you really are. Not dating isnt a bad thing, you are far from pitiful bro, i think its more like being smart, girls are time consuming, they need alot of attention, dont rely on a girl to take away the loneliness, thats what friends are for. Play the field, heck play the whole stadium, you are young live like it, one day she'll come along, and complain and be more depressed then you and it will be a match made in heaven, (hope you picked up the sarcasim), but she is out there, all in good time, i bet there is a girl who has her eye on you just is to scared to say something. Hang in there.

Warrior Poet

 

[Wypadek]

As a female, I hope you don't mine me comenting, but I agree with what Mr. Cheese and Warrior Poet said, be yourself. I would personally much rather be with someone who is not afraid to be himself at all times, than with someone who feels like he has to change to get people (girls) to like him! my 2 cents!

 

[Alice the Sister]

YOU BETTER NOT COMMENT I'M SEXIST AGAINST GIRLS POSTING IN MY THREADS!!!!

I kid, I kid...


Thanks, so you're suggesting I be alone until further notice and that I should be myself?

We'll I've been so many people it's hard to keep track of who I really am. I don't know anymore. I'm pitiful.

 

[Wypadek]

You are not pitiful. It is cool that you realize you don't necessarily know. Just think about it, act how you would want, not how others want you to!

 

[Alice the Sister]

But I have to fit in.

 

[Wypadek]

No you don't, fitting in is over rated! I used to feel that way too, but ever since I stopped caring about fitting in, I have made the best friends I have EVER had!

 

[Alice the Sister]

I thought that too, but then I switched schools and none of them cared. They only cared that if people saw them hanging with me that they'd be cool.

I've been myself. Got me nothing. Nothing at all except heartache and loneliness.

 

[Wypadek]

well, not everyone in the world is nice, maybe they are just intimdated by your amazingness (is that word?)

 

[Alice the Sister]

lol. You crack me up.


I don't even know why the three girls went out with me, maybe they were desperate.

I mean, the the third (sex fiend now) one I asked her out just because one of her ex's was going to ask her out and she didn't want to say no to him. So I rescued her from that grief.

 

[Wypadek]

Well, I'm glad to be of service! *bows dramatically*

Since I really don't know ANYTHING about these girls, or really you, I can't really help you on that part, sorry

 

[Alice the Sister]

I'm just so useless... Nobody likes me, sometimes I just feel like hurting myself to get rid of the pain of being lonely.


They always say there's that "special one", but what about those who die early huh?

 

[psycmajor]

Well, wait a minute. Where does "dying early" fit into this picture? Is it worth it?

 

[Donny_B]

Don't be bitter, and don't dwell in self-pity. This is not walking in the Spirit. While on this side of eternity, we will always have the flesh to deal with, don't let it win out. Paul tells us to "walk in the spirit, that we not fulfil the works of the flesh". "For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting." The "fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."

 

[Wypadek]

Even if you die early, there is still that special one out there for you, you just didn't get a chance to meet her.

 

[LifeInYou]

May I say something, with the upmost respect? After reading several of your posts and hearing you say that you have been yourself around these people, yet you are still lonely, I have to disagree. I don't think you've been yourself. People want to be around others who are relaxed & comfortable in their own skin. Perhaps this is why they've drawn away from you, no? Afterall, didn't you just say that you've been so many things that you aren't sure what/who is the real you? Take some time, a few weeks/months maybe and really think about what YOU like to do, what you dislike to do, what you value, what you want out life, what you respect and don't respect. How can life be meaningful if you aren't even sure who you are or what you value? This is why it has become not worth it. Make it worth it. Once you do this, once you accept yourself, others will too. It may not be the "popular" crowd, but the decent crowd perhaps.

We're only here once my friend. Don't waste another minute.


Shalom

 

[Wypadek]

May I say something, with the upmost respect? After reading several of your posts and hearing you say that you have been yourself around these people, yet you are still lonely, I have to disagree. I don't think you've been yourself. People want to be around others who are relaxed & comfortable in their own skin. Perhaps this is why they've drawn away from you, no? Afterall, didn't you just say that you've been so many things that you aren't sure what/who is the real you? Take some time, a few weeks/months maybe and really think about what YOU like to do, what you dislike to do, what you value, what you want out life, what you respect and don't respect. How can life be meaningful if you aren't even sure who you are or what you value? This is why it has become not worth it. Make it worth it. Once you do this, once you accept yourself, others will too. It may not be the "popular" crowd, but the decent crowd perhaps.

We're only here once my friend. Don't waste another minute.


Shalom

That is AWESOME advice. I second that motion!

 

[DaveKerwin]

You have to seek a better quality woman. If the women you are dating are turning lesbian, then that speaks little of their character, or even their faith.

Work on your relationship with God for a while bro, see how he wants to mold you and shape you. After this process, you will know what you want in a wife. In the mean time, stop persuing women and persue God instead. I promise you will not regeret it.

 

[silverpie]

Even if you die early, there is still that special one out there for you, you just didn't get a chance to meet her.

But what about her? If she doesn't also die early, she now has to live out her life without that one...