I'm I Just Crazy?

[appointed]

Well.............

I have to say that I know most of you won't want to read this. But, I really do need some advice.
About a year and a half ago, I met this girl. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. She is nice, funny and a christian.
Then, about a month ago, I told her that I liked her. She said she liked me too. Next, this last weekend, we really connected and we officially became "boyfriend and girlfriend".
Now, I would love to spend time with her and even take her on a date. but, this last week, since our relationship began, it seems that she doesn't want to be near me. The hard thing is that she told me to take it slow, and I HAVE. I waited a over a year to get to know her and then I waited a month while I knew she liked me. I don't think it is too much to ask to just take her out to dinner.
-It is very strange, but she didn't sit next to me when our group of friends went to dinner. (When there was a spot open next to me)
-She doesn't seem to try to find me at school. (It's like a don't exist.)
And, I don't want to push her into a heavy physical relationship, but she never holds my hand, and never seems to want to give me a hug.
It's just breaking my heart.

Girls, what the heck is she doing?
And guys... what would you do?

 

[VioletAngel]

Sorry to hear of what you are going through. How old is she? Perhaps she is not as ready as she thought she was for dating. Perhaps she did not want to hurt your feelings, though it sounds as though she has. Reach out to other friends for now, and perhaps you can find a girl that is willing to be with you. There is nothing much you can do until she decides she wants a relationship.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Sorry to hear of what you are going through. How old is she? Perhaps she is not as ready as she thought she was for dating. Perhaps she did not want to hurt your feelings, though it sounds as though she has. Reach out to other friends for now, and perhaps you can find a girl that is willing to be with you. There is nothing much you can do until she decides she wants a relationship.

I agree. If you are 18...how old is she?

 

[Mind_Over_Matter]

Well.............

I have to say that I know most of you won't want to read this. But, I really do need some advice.
About a year and a half ago, I met this girl. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. She is nice, funny and a christian.

I beleive I found your problem. Look at your very own words. You referred to a girl, a human being, as a thing. Women to not like to be considered object. If you could be so careless to make such a reference in writing where you have plenty of time to review what you typed before its out for the public to see, imagine what you do in words where you can't revise your what you say.

She likely doesn't appreciate being treated as anything less then what she deserves, and objectifying some one based on their sex certainly fits that.

To resolve this I believe the solution is you approach her and appoligize for anything you said or did to intiminate her, or make her feal of anything less.

 

[full_of_faith]

Well.............

I have to say that I know most of you won't want to read this. But, I really do need some advice.
About a year and a half ago, I met this girl. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. She is nice, funny and a christian.
Then, about a month ago, I told her that I liked her. She said she liked me too. Next, this last weekend, we really connected and we officially became "boyfriend and girlfriend".
Now, I would love to spend time with her and even take her on a date. but, this last week, since our relationship began, it seems that she doesn't want to be near me. The hard thing is that she told me to take it slow, and I HAVE. I waited a over a year to get to know her and then I waited a month while I knew she liked me. I don't think it is too much to ask to just take her out to dinner.
-It is very strange, but she didn't sit next to me when our group of friends went to dinner. (When there was a spot open next to me)
-She doesn't seem to try to find me at school. (It's like a don't exist.)
And, I don't want to push her into a heavy physical relationship, but she never holds my hand, and never seems to want to give me a hug.
It's just breaking my heart.

Girls, what the heck is she doing?
And guys... what would you do?

I hate to say this, but maybe she just isn't interested in having a romantic relationship with you. Have you asked her why she seems to avoid you?

 

[Anti Existance]

i think 'beautifull thing' is just an 'expression' and not a reference to a inanimated object as mind over matter is posting.

I have noticed that you should never listen to the words, but rather look at the body. If it moves away from you it doesn't like you, if it comes towards you then the person does like you, because do you want to be close to someone you hate? No, you want to be away from them as much as possible, same thing for someone you like you want to be near them as much as possible. If she isn't coming towards you, it most likely means she thinks 'neutral' about you. Clearly you are more in love with her, then she is with you. You love her, she likes you. But not the 'head over heels' kind of thing over you.

 

[Jesus Is Real]

Well.............

I have to say that I know most of you won't want to read this. But, I really do need some advice.
About a year and a half ago, I met this girl. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. She is nice, funny and a christian.
Then, about a month ago, I told her that I liked her. She said she liked me too. Next, this last weekend, we really connected and we officially became "boyfriend and girlfriend".
Now, I would love to spend time with her and even take her on a date. but, this last week, since our relationship began, it seems that she doesn't want to be near me. The hard thing is that she told me to take it slow, and I HAVE. I waited a over a year to get to know her and then I waited a month while I knew she liked me. I don't think it is too much to ask to just take her out to dinner.
-It is very strange, but she didn't sit next to me when our group of friends went to dinner. (When there was a spot open next to me)
-She doesn't seem to try to find me at school. (It's like a don't exist.)
And, I don't want to push her into a heavy physical relationship, but she never holds my hand, and never seems to want to give me a hug.
It's just breaking my heart.

Girls, what the heck is she doing?
And guys... what would you do?

appointed,

Hi there.

Those are things that Christian Married couples do.
We hold our Mates Hands.
We hug our Mates.

If she's not Married to you - please stop.
Look inside your heart at things, don't hid from God.


Most Christian Father's teach their daughter's, with Holy Reasons, to hold and hug only their Future Husbands in MARRIAGE. Respect her Father and her Mother and so you will be Loving as Christ has Loved us. Since it is putting to death the deeds of our flesh nature.

Look at your own Father and Mother relationship with them,........maybe this is what's lacking. Ask God.

If your heart is breaking, because she's not doing what you want to do - then check your own heart and let God's Word show you your motives there. Open up His Mirror and ask the Holy Spirit to show you through His Word.

So,....she's not your Wife, so please stop. And even after a woman is your wife you still don't own her - you DIE FOR HER as Christ died for the Church and gave himself over to death for her.

Die for this girl, if you love her - Be Jesus to her as God prunes you more.

Love the Cross and keep dying to your own impulses - think about pleasing another. If it pleases her to not hug you - then please her in this and don't think about your own passions. As Christ did with His Soon to be Bride - He was a Man in Waiting who Died first For her. He who follows Him must be willing to do the same~

Peace,
Connie

 

[Sweeterthanhoney]

Those are things that Christian Married couples do.
We hold our Mates Hands.
We hug our Mates.




If she's not Married to you - please stop.
Look inside your heart at things, don't hid from God.]

If that is as physical as things go, there is nothing wrong with holding hands and hugging. I am married and we do more than that. ​

 

[goldenviolet]

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