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kobuk

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My mother is age 70 and has no faith or belief whatsoever. She's i'll from having no will anymore to seek medical help. She has lived a decade or more without befriending even one other human being enough to even just slightly have a friend. The other day, she told my brother on the telephone when he called her on Mother's Day, that she was considering suicide. She specifically mentioned putting a plastic bag over her head.

My brother is age 51 and is not all there upstairs either. He's has a great job and does well at it, but to talk with him about anything spiritual he can't seem to go there. It's like all the Bible to him is there to read but he has no interest whatsoever in applying it in any ways that constitute obedience or discipleship. He's definitely a lost man at present.

My dad died a year ago April. He passed on after living an entire lifetime with no active involved faith or living by seeking truth. He stood still and lived the hunting and fishing sportsmen religion sort of speak. The highest goals he had were great experiences in these sports.

My 14 year old dog has inoperable cancer. A tumor. To deal with it by taking it out would destroy critical functions. So i've the next several months at the most to enjoy his being around still. An australian cattle dog.

So that's my family. Meanwhile the world is heading into the End Times. And all the tough times we have waiting ahead are going to just be add-ons to the tough times we have now.

What makes times tough is the drag all this has on me. The dog's tumor is something in another catagory. And i think i can deal with that ok. What's so heavy to deal with is the stubborness of my family that's going to result in them going to hell if they never snap out of whatever it is that's got them in a deep freeze spiritually and mentally.

I know the answer for me is to seek to be an obedient servant and recieve all the blessings it brings. But to watch close family members die off with no hope of ever seeing them again is tough. There's a dull spiritual deadness in them while they live. And a total rejection of the abundant life our Creator offers. And i grew up in a house like that where what was tought by example was no faith and no obedience to the word or a love for truth. Unlearning my parents example is tough. I spent 20 years absorbing it until i moved out of that house.

Is our main source of strength the Church? Are they even more my family than my own flesh and blood relatives? I've heard spirit is thicker than blood. Is that true? What do the Scriptures teach us on this subject?
 

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kobuk, my heart goes out to you brother. I said a prayer for you and your family today. Much of my family is lost at the present too so I understand how you feel.

When situations like this start dragging me down all I can do sometimes is place my faith in Jesus and know that He has a plan. A perfect plan.

Once I do that I can begin to pray and sometimes fast too, then the Holy Spirit helps me with guidance, understanding or at least a sense of peace. The world is not in our hands it is in God's. We can't make our families decisions for them, but we can let God work through us and His timing is most often very different from ours.

All I can suggest is to spend as much time with your mom and brother as you can. Don't just "witness to them" but let your life and your walk with Christ "be a witness for them".

No doubt your mom may still be depressed by your fathers passing. I can only imagine how hard that would be and without faith in Jesus and His presence for comfort.... so very much harder for her.:( No doubt she really needs her kids right now, maybe more than ever.

As for your dad you say he had no "active involved faith"... I'm not sure what that means???:confused:

If he believed at all you may be presently surprised to find him in heaven when you arrive. Remember the theif on the cross, he lived his whole life without Jesus, but in those last moments chose to believe and is now in paradise.:)

God meets us where we're at in HIS time and His way and His timing is perfect.:thumbsup:

May God fill your heart with His perfect peace today and Jesus comfort you and be with you always.:amen:
 
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kobuk said:
Is our main source of strength the Church? Are they even more my family than my own flesh and blood relatives? I've heard spirit is thicker than blood. Is that true? What do the Scriptures teach us on this subject?
Our main source of strength is the LORD.

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him. (Psalms 28:7)

Certainly our Church family is a source of strength--and for me, my church family was more helpful than my own flesh and blood relatives ( I am the only one in my entire family who is saved) . My parents died without Christ and so did my late husband. One of my sons won't even talk to me about the LORD, while his younger brother claims to be saved but isn't living the life. It breaks my heart, but I know God is still on the throne and He is in control.

I will be praying for your family, kobuk. Your mother sounds like I was after my husband died. It took me almost a year to work through my grief and I had nightmares for 2 years after he died (he died of "acute ethanol toxicity"--in other words, he drank himself to death--in October, 2000). I have since remarried (in 2005). Getting into a good Bible-believing, Christ-centered church was an immense help and the Scripture (Hebrews 10:25) comes alive to me. We all need that fellowship of other believers--for prayer and edification.

Thank you for sharing. God bless you.
 
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My mother is age 70 and has no faith or belief whatsoever. She's i'll from having no will anymore to seek medical help. She has lived a decade or more without befriending even one other human being enough to even just slightly have a friend. The other day, she told my brother on the telephone when he called her on Mother's Day, that she was considering suicide. She specifically mentioned putting a plastic bag over her head.

My brother is age 51 and is not all there upstairs either. He's has a great job and does well at it, but to talk with him about anything spiritual he can't seem to go there. It's like all the Bible to him is there to read but he has no interest whatsoever in applying it in any ways that constitute obedience or discipleship. He's definitely a lost man at present.

My dad died a year ago April. He passed on after living an entire lifetime with no active involved faith or living by seeking truth. He stood still and lived the hunting and fishing sportsmen religion sort of speak. The highest goals he had were great experiences in these sports.

My 14 year old dog has inoperable cancer. A tumor. To deal with it by taking it out would destroy critical functions. So i've the next several months at the most to enjoy his being around still. An australian cattle dog.

So that's my family. Meanwhile the world is heading into the End Times. And all the tough times we have waiting ahead are going to just be add-ons to the tough times we have now.

What makes times tough is the drag all this has on me. The dog's tumor is something in another catagory. And i think i can deal with that ok. What's so heavy to deal with is the stubborness of my family that's going to result in them going to hell if they never snap out of whatever it is that's got them in a deep freeze spiritually and mentally.

I know the answer for me is to seek to be an obedient servant and recieve all the blessings it brings. But to watch close family members die off with no hope of ever seeing them again is tough. There's a dull spiritual deadness in them while they live. And a total rejection of the abundant life our Creator offers. And i grew up in a house like that where what was tought by example was no faith and no obedience to the word or a love for truth. Unlearning my parents example is tough. I spent 20 years absorbing it until i moved out of that house.

Is our main source of strength the Church? Are they even more my family than my own flesh and blood relatives? I've heard spirit is thicker than blood. Is that true? What do the Scriptures teach us on this subject?
God is in control. That's what the scripture teaches us.

Trust God.
 
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Kobuk bro, find a mature man that can shake your hand and/or hug you when you need it.

Every Wed at 6:30 AM for several years I meet w 5 other guys for Bible study and prayer. When one of us is hurting bad, we have somewhere to turn. Only men so there is no possibil;ity of inapropiatenes.

JR
 
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Kobuk bro, find a mature man that can shake your hand and/or hug you when you need it.

Every Wed at 6:30 AM for several years I meet w 5 other guys for Bible study and prayer. When one of us is hurting bad, we have somewhere to turn. Only men so there is no possibil;ity of inapropiatenes.

JR
Taken to heart cubanito. Thanks brother.
 
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