I'm Falling

[72_Chev_Truck]

I'm falling for a girl that im witnessing to. I dated her 6 years ago and we have recently become very close friends. Everytime we are together it seems as though we have a mutual interest in each other. heres the problem,

#1 shouldnt mix business with pleasure
#2 lives about 10 hours away from me at the moment
#3 in january shes getting shipped off to Iraq

This girl is really fun to be around and i want to date her but it just doesnt seem like its gonna happen. I also feel an urgency to get her to accept Jesus before she goes to Iraq. I keep having the thought that she will not come back. Ive been writing her letters and sending her some of my christian books. Its kinda like letters from a skeptic. so for one can i get some prayer for this and for two some insight as to what i should do? thanks

 

[msjones21]

I will certainly bathe this in prayer. I think it's wonderful you're witnessing to her and I can certainly understand your sense of urgency for her to be saved before she goes to Iraq.

The only avice I can offer is if you have doubt, it isn't meant to be. Your human attraction is only normal for someone you really care about their soul and you're close friends; however, I honestly believe that if it were God's will for the two of you to be a couple you would be at total peace about it. I will be praying for you, God's wisdom and her, salvation.

 

[Hewitt]

Just keep the focus where you have it now. Her relationship with Christ outweighs anything that may come between the two of you. Work from there and see what doors God opens, and pay attention to the ones he closes as well.

 

[Stanfi]

I'm falling for a girl that im witnessing to. I dated her 6 years ago and we have recently become very close friends. Everytime we are together it seems as though we have a mutual interest in each other. heres the problem,

#1 shouldnt mix business with pleasure
#2 lives about 10 hours away from me at the moment
#3 in january shes getting shipped off to Iraq

This girl is really fun to be around and i want to date her but it just doesnt seem like its gonna happen. I also feel an urgency to get her to accept Jesus before she goes to Iraq. I keep having the thought that she will not come back. Ive been writing her letters and sending her some of my christian books. Its kinda like letters from a skeptic. so for one can i get some prayer for this and for two some insight as to what i should do? thanks

I hate to be a cynic, but I think you need to look at a couple of facts. She lives 10 hours away, and she is going to be going farther away soon. I can tell by the way you are writing that you have feelings for her. However, I am afraid you are setting yourself up to hurt. I have learned no matter how bad you want someone in your life, does mean you are going to get them. They say love conquers all, but I think sometimes you have to look at the reality of a situation. Guard your heart and brace yourself, I would say this one is going to sting.

 

[msjones21]

I agree with Mrstace. Not to mention, she's not a Christian (yet).I'd be cautious.

 

[Stanfi]

I agree with Mrstace. Not to mention, she's not a Christian (yet).I'd be cautious.

That's right! Under levitical law it says... *kidding*

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Thanks Peeps, i appreciate the advice. I know this one will hurt when she leaves. what i dont understand is that after 6 years of not dating and just being friends, suddenly we are interested in each other again.

 

[msjones21]

what i dont understand is that after 6 years of not dating and just being friends, suddenly we are interested in each other again.

It's perfectly natural. The fact that she's going overseas may play a key role in why you're feeling this way.

 

[msjones21]

That's right! Under levitical law it says... *kidding*

Hehehehe *smites Mrstace*

 

[Stanfi]

Thanks Peeps, i appreciate the advice. I know this one will hurt when she leaves. what i dont understand is that after 6 years of not dating and just being friends, suddenly we are interested in each other again.

Someone leaving overseas like that is just kind of natural to cause your emotions to swell like that. So, yes I agree with msjones.

 

[Follower of Christ]

I'm falling for a girl that im witnessing to. I dated her 6 years ago and we have recently become very close friends. Everytime we are together it seems as though we have a mutual interest in each other. heres the problem,

#1 shouldnt mix business with pleasure
#2 lives about 10 hours away from me at the moment
#3 in january shes getting shipped off to Iraq

This girl is really fun to be around and i want to date her but it just doesnt seem like its gonna happen. I also feel an urgency to get her to accept Jesus before she goes to Iraq. I keep having the thought that she will not come back. Ive been writing her letters and sending her some of my christian books. Its kinda like letters from a skeptic. so for one can i get some prayer for this and for two some insight as to what i should do? thanks

It awesome that youre keeping the right perspective with her salvation being the priority.

Help her with that.
If you think your meant to be with her, wait for her.
God will take care of things.
Trusting in Him is about all we can do.

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

I'm falling for a girl that im witnessing to. I dated her 6 years ago and we have recently become very close friends. Everytime we are together it seems as though we have a mutual interest in each other. heres the problem,

#1 shouldnt mix business with pleasure
#2 lives about 10 hours away from me at the moment
#3 in january shes getting shipped off to Iraq

This girl is really fun to be around and i want to date her but it just doesnt seem like its gonna happen. I also feel an urgency to get her to accept Jesus before she goes to Iraq. I keep having the thought that she will not come back. Ive been writing her letters and sending her some of my christian books. Its kinda like letters from a skeptic. so for one can i get some prayer for this and for two some insight as to what i should do? thanks

Now for an update!

She called me last night and told me the best and the worst news. She is engaged, set to possibly be married in the next couple months. Im feeling betrayed about this. It wasnt more then 2 months ago that she came to visit me, took me out to supper and we were cuddling and holding hands while watching a movie. Im feeling a little confused, not angry, but excited for her. I thought i was getting back together with her even though she was off to Iraq. i wouldnt have cared as long as i could call her my girl. At least now i know that i just need to focus on saving her.

welp for those of you that read this post before i just figured i would update you on the situation

 

[Stanfi]

Now for an update!

She called me last night and told me the best and the worst news. She is engaged, set to possibly be married in the next couple months. Im feeling betrayed about this. It wasnt more then 2 months ago that she came to visit me, took me out to supper and we were cuddling and holding hands while watching a movie. Im feeling a little confused, not angry, but excited for her. I thought i was getting back together with her even though she was off to Iraq. i wouldnt have cared as long as i could call her my girl. At least now i know that i just need to focus on saving her.

welp for those of you that read this post before i just figured i would update you on the situation

Well in a way I hate to hear this for you, because I have sort of been there. I was seeing a girl, thought I had a chance with her, next thing I know she is dating someone else. I know the confused feeling very well. Be glad she did tell you. I basically had to force an answer out of the girl, I knew, trust me that's not fun. I know that it may hurt and be confusing right but trust God. If you have romantic feelings for her, you may want to watch caring about her salvation to much. I found it hard to truly care about someone was I was the guy who lost, it just hurt to much. God mayusesomeone else to reach her. Guard your heart. That's all I'm saying.

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Well i know that she is now not the one, no matter how much my heart yearned for her. I have no prospective ladies right now, she was the only girl i had any romantic interest in. that kept me out of other relationships. oh well, maybe the girl of my dreams will walk up to me tomorrow. i just have to wait for that perfect plan.

 

[Living4Him03]

Once you give it all over to God then He will bring that girl into your life. As far as I know that happened to me. One night I just gave men over to God really truly for the first time and prayed for a guy I could get to know and date, not only that but a guy who is a Godly man. The next day I was introduced to my current boyfriend.

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Hey all just another update on this whole ordeal.

Since the girl is now engaged, I find myself thinking not a lot about her. I feel like I was betrayed at first but now I do not feel that. I come to find out that my romantic interest in her has died. So now im back to really single, not even one prospect. Im thinkin Gods got something right on the horizon for me. YAY!!