Well, I'm not entirely sure this should be in 'courting couples' becuase we're not together or anything, but I think this would most closely line up in here.
To start it off, I've liked this girl for about 8 years now... most of which she didn't know (to the best of my knowledge). I was wondering what I should do? I know she's known for over a year now that I've liked her, and I asked her out early this evening and she said she's focusing on her education now, which is understandable (she's attending an out-of-state college). We are friends, but not exactly close friends. I have every intention of maintaining, and hopefully strengthening, our friendship, but was wonderinig more about how my mentality should be. Should I keep a hope alive that we might get together? Or somehow drop that hope and attempt to subdue those feelings I have for her. If that's the case, how would I accomplish this?
Also, she will be returning for Thanksgiving, and although it's a while off, was wondering what sort of stuff would be good ideas to get together and do.... The main reason she probably didn't know for the first 7 years is that my social skills froze right before I met her, leaving me lost as to what we could do together.
Any advice on either of these 'dilemmas' would be greatly appreciated. I have spent a great deal of time in prayer about what to do concerning the relations between the two of us, and realized the answer might come in the form of advice from fellow followers of Him.
One of the quotes she has on her AIM profile is "A woman's heart should be so deep in Christ that a man would have to be seeking the Lord to find it." And I know this is true, for I'm trying to find it... and merely the search is making me a better man.
To start it off, I've liked this girl for about 8 years now... most of which she didn't know (to the best of my knowledge). I was wondering what I should do? I know she's known for over a year now that I've liked her, and I asked her out early this evening and she said she's focusing on her education now, which is understandable (she's attending an out-of-state college). We are friends, but not exactly close friends. I have every intention of maintaining, and hopefully strengthening, our friendship, but was wonderinig more about how my mentality should be. Should I keep a hope alive that we might get together? Or somehow drop that hope and attempt to subdue those feelings I have for her. If that's the case, how would I accomplish this?
Also, she will be returning for Thanksgiving, and although it's a while off, was wondering what sort of stuff would be good ideas to get together and do.... The main reason she probably didn't know for the first 7 years is that my social skills froze right before I met her, leaving me lost as to what we could do together.
Any advice on either of these 'dilemmas' would be greatly appreciated. I have spent a great deal of time in prayer about what to do concerning the relations between the two of us, and realized the answer might come in the form of advice from fellow followers of Him.
One of the quotes she has on her AIM profile is "A woman's heart should be so deep in Christ that a man would have to be seeking the Lord to find it." And I know this is true, for I'm trying to find it... and merely the search is making me a better man.
