Im at the end of my rope.....[moved from Christian Apologetics]

[Catherineanne]

Brother in Christ,

Thank you for being so transparent about your situation. It must hurt deep down to have to share such rejection by Christians and others.

Please remember that if you truly repent from the heart, Jesus cleanses ALL sin, including the sin(s) of a sex offender.

I am a long-term family therapist and I'd like to share some practical considerations with you.

1. Have you been healed of your sexual sins to the point where you are no longer committing those sins? How long is it since you committed the sexual acts that put you in prison? Were you convicted of sexual offenses committed on your children?

2. I have found that many in the Christian church find it impossible to keep confidences. Therefore, if you go to a new church, please do not share your past with anyone.

3. I suggest that you seriously think of moving to another city and/or state and change your name (Is there any law in the USA that prevents a sex offender from changing his/her name?). This will mean cutting yourself off from those who are abusing you. Then join a Christ-loving, people-loving church that will disciple and teach you foundational principles of the Christian faith to help you grow in your faith.

4. There is a fundamental issue that Christians need to face with those who have committed sins such as yours. I'm thinking of what Jesus said in Matt. 6:14-15 (TNIV):

Christians who will not forgive you for your serious sins, have a massive spiritual problem. Their heavenly Father will not forgive them.

If you'd like to talk further on a confidential basis, please feel free to converse with me in private messages.

Your brother in Christ,
Spencer

I agree with this, except to say that question one asks what really nobody has the right to ask on a public message board. What matters is only today, and tomorrow, and what pertains to them. Yesterday is NOT our concern.

I have told my own priest things about my past, and present, that nobody else in the church will ever find out. Not because I have anything to hide, particularly, but because some people talk. It is their hobby. And I don't want my life to be part of that talk.

 

[OzSpen]

Catherineanne,

I agree with this, except to say that question one asks what really nobody has the right to ask on a public message board. What matters is only today, and tomorrow, and what pertains to them. Yesterday is NOT our concern.

I have told my own priest things about my past, and present, that nobody else in the church will ever find out. Not because I have anything to hide, particularly, but because some people talk. It is their hobby. And I don't want my life to be part of that talk.

This man is in desperation. He seems to have tried to obtain help in churches, but rejection has been his experience. As a very desperate move, he cried out for help on this forum.

I took his request as genuine and responded accordingly.

Sincerely, Spencer

 

[Emmy]

Dear Dirtydeak. You love Jesus, the best you can do, put all your sadness and your pain, at Jesus`s feet. Talk to Him and tell Him what really is wrong, Jesus will never send you away without helping you. Jesus told us to love our neighbour, all others, friend or not friend. Be kind and understanding, do not treat others as they treat you. Keep talking to our Saviour, He will understand. Put all at His Feet, and leave it there, Jesus will deal with it. Keep remembering that God is Love, He loves you. I say this with love. Greeting from Emmy, your sister in Christ. P.S. exchange Dirtydeak for another Deak; perhaps grateful or happy?

 

[Catherineanne]

Catherineanne,

This man is in desperation. He seems to have tried to obtain help in churches, but rejection has been his experience. As a very desperate move, he cried out for help on this forum.

I took his request as genuine and responded accordingly.

Sincerely, Spencer

I understand that, and I was intending to support what you said. Most of it I heartily agree with, which is rare from me in relation to your posts, OS, as no doubt you know.

But the questions you ask in the first bit are best asked in PM, if at all. I think there are some questions that don't belong in public. This poor soul has suffered enough, and does not deserve a catechism.

 

[Catherineanne]

P.S. exchange Dirtydeak for another Deak; perhaps grateful or happy?

To the pure, all things are pure.

Think about it, E. The forum name is a self condemnation. His actual name is J.

 

[BL2KTN]

If you're worried about the police (I can understand), you're much more likely to receive good help if a pastor or counselor helps you in filing a report. Also, it's important to see a GOOD counselor at a GOOD church because I'm not in Orlando, and so I can't help you out... you need somebody physically there that you can see and who can walk you through some things.

Let us know if you made it to the church today. You'll need to make some good decisions in order to help yourself.

 

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[Catherineanne]

Im sorry for the things I have done but no one cares. What do I have to do inorder to join a church, or get forgivness?

How are you doing, J?

Try to let us know how you are; you are among friends here.

 

[Criada]

Praying for you, brother.

 

[goldenviolet]

Dear brothers and siters in Christ, I am dying inside...... I can hardley see the key board as my eyes fill with tears. I am so tired, so mad....... I am a conicted sex offender in Florida. No one cares about my two daughters, or my mom. No one sees all the <edit> I go thro. No one cares..... I have just been thro my 4th home invasion.... they beat the <edit> out of me again, and I cant even call the cops, they will beat me too. Im sorry for the things I have done but no one cares. What do I have to do inorder to join a church, or get forgivness? How long must I be beat, stabbed and tourtured befor God heals me? All I know is pain, and lonlieness. I am an outcast looking for hope, finding only hatred..... All I feal anymore is wrath, thinking only about revenge, I fear I am ready to kill. All I want to do is get even, and yet, I know Christ. So were are you God my savior? When will you make trhis stop? Oh my God........ Please forgive me for your son, our saviors sake Jesus christ! Please renber me in the lambs book of life! Im sorry.... Pleas stop hurting me..... please stop. what do i have to do? Please........ Please........ Oh my God please, stop beating me! Please1 Im sorry, please, please

how about phoning around and interviewing churches? leadership that knows is not a bad thing at all. as part of the churches leadership, it's our duty to know who we have around our children. it's safest not just for the chilren, but for offenders too. the leadership that is good, will look past what you have done to all your needs. i'll bet you can find a christian support group for sexs offenders. if not, why not start one? the lord will help you. yes there is very realistic consequences and hurdles to jump. the Lord will help you through this. except that you have subjected yourself to be at the fault of your behavior. it's ok. if you except your medicine, know it's all around you. people are terribly hard on sex offenders. then you'll stop blamming God for punishing you. instead of being beat: surround yourself with support. then you have helping hands as you walk through your fires. my mailbox is always open. i have exsperiance with things that may make for a good friend for you. i post alot, so it will keep me from loosing you in the crowds too. xo, dee