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...then why hasn't he taken away these desire for sex and marriage? I still struggle and have been since I was a teen. I am now in my late thirties and have never dated and, am still a virgin. I just want God to take it all away. I toss and turn and burn with passionated thoughts. which I know is SIN!!! I've been studying matt19 and other material. and in matt 19... Jesus says that he has givin some the abiliaty or gift to remain single or cebelic. and some he didn't. boy, if i do have this gift. I can't see it right know.

sometimes I get upset with God cause I try to be faithful and hate the fact that I struggle. but can't help it sometimes. I hope he is not grieve by my thought life and he will have mercy on me. sometimes i wish i was born without any kind of sexual appeal. I try to listen to my bible and music constantly on my ipod. and memerize verses. especially phil 4:6-9. plese pray for me. that God will give me victory and take it away. marry couple try to tell me. if you've never experiece it. then it shouldn't be as bad. uh... thats what they think. what about the blind man. who was born blind. and didn't know what it was like to see. he still had a longing for something he never experience. and besides...you'er not suppose to experience it anyway till you are married. so what would that have to do with not struggling as much?:help:
 

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You're born with natural, sexual urges towards members of the opposite sex. It's just part of who you are. I'm single right now and it's something God wants for my life, but you have to realize what for...does He want you in ministry? Does He plan on taking you somewhere in missions? Maybe you're meant to adopt kids? I don't know. I'm also struggling with lonliness, but not because of burning lust. Stop trying to find a mate just because you just want to have sex. There's more to a relationship than just sex.
 
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george said:
...then why hasn't he taken away these desire for sex and marriage? I still struggle and have been since I was a teen. I am now in my late thirties and have never dated and, am still a virgin. I just want God to take it all away. I toss and turn and burn with passionated thoughts. which I know is SIN!!! I've been studying matt19 and other material. and in matt 19... Jesus says that he has givin some the abiliaty or gift to remain single or cebelic. and some he didn't. boy, if i do have this gift. I can't see it right know.

sometimes I get upset with God cause I try to be faithful and hate the fact that I struggle. but can't help it sometimes. I hope he is not grieve by my thought life and he will have mercy on me. sometimes i wish i was born without any kind of sexual appeal. I try to listen to my bible and music constantly on my ipod. and memerize verses. especially phil 4:6-9. plese pray for me. that God will give me victory and take it away. marry couple try to tell me. if you've never experiece it. then it shouldn't be as bad. uh... thats what they think. what about the blind man. who was born blind. and didn't know what it was like to see. he still had a longing for something he never experience. and besides...you'er not suppose to experience it anyway till you are married. so what would that have to do with not struggling as much?:help:

Perhaps God is preparing you for a time when you may lead a family. He could be making you the "godly" man suitable for some Christian woman to have as a husband, in the future. You don't know. Never assume that God has given you a gift until others are sure of it, knowing your full circumstances - lusts and all.

The blind man is a different case. It may be dangerous to think this way, in fact - because wanting to have sex and wanting to see are clearly two different desires, with different spiritual ramifications. Also, Jesus said that the man born blind was born so that a miracle could be performed on him to show God's power. (Perhaps he wishes to do a smiliar thing for you?)

The Bible says (Paul writing), "I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." - 1 Cor. 7:8,9

Earlier in the same chapter: "To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." - 7:2

Only you can know God's will, by being transformed by the renewing of your mind - in Christ - and let him show you what you need. The Spirit of God knows the mind of God, and if you are walking in the Spirit, it will become clear to you eventually what you must do about these longings.

God doesn't want to hamper your service to him at all - if the lust is too great, then seek to find a wife. But if you feel that it's better to just control it, or if it wears off (don't be looking at porn!) then it's probably good to remain as you are.
 
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Saucy said:
You're born with natural, sexual urges towards members of the opposite sex. It's just part of who you are. I'm single right now and it's something God wants for my life, but you have to realize what for...does He want you in ministry? Does He plan on taking you somewhere in missions? Maybe you're meant to adopt kids? I don't know. I'm also struggling with lonliness, but not because of burning lust. Stop trying to find a mate just because you just want to have sex. There's more to a relationship than just sex.

woe saucy :) it's not about sex! I just want God to take these desires away. I can live without. if God wants me single and it looks like he does. I wish he would fill that void. when you give up something. it has to be replaced. or else you will always be prompted to or go back to your ways. and I'm not looking. I just want to live my life and move on. were born with a natural urge to want these things. and if we don't put something in its place. then we will fall. why are you struggling with lonliness?
 
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george said:
...then why hasn't he taken away these desire for sex and marriage? I still struggle and have been since I was a teen. I am now in my late thirties
sometimes I get upset with God cause I try to be faithful and hate the fact that I struggle. but can't help it sometimes. I hope he is not grieve by my thought life and he will have mercy on me. sometimes i wish i was born without any kind of sexual appeal. :

I have posted ont the mature singles with a similar problem... :confused:
 
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