identity crisis

[lOstLamB]

i feel as though i am the biggest hypocrite in the world. i'm driven by worldly desires and completely take part in the lust of flesh, power, and money. i feel as though i'm up against the world and that i'm falling too far into things that make it harder for me to be a good follower of Christ. i'm in college, and now my parents are beginning to instill in me what type of woman i should be, especially if i expect to get married. :o i'm a really opinionated and sometimes far too agressive type of girl.. and w/ my boyfriend being proof, i'm fearful that i can never be the kind of woman God wants me to be. i don't dislike myself, but i know deep down that living in harmony w/ a husband or even how i treat my children depends on me humbling myself and strengthening my major weakness.. it's beginning to show a lot more with my boyfriend now that we've been together a few years, cuz we're comfortable and more apt to simply be "ourselves" which inevitably includes our personality flaws. i've become so much pushier and crankier than i ever thought i could be with someone i care about, so i worry myself. and i honestly want to change. so what i'm wondering is...

how should a woman of God be? and how does a girl who is seemingly "impossible" to change supposed to go about it?

 

[msjones21]

Read the last chapter of Proverbs in the Bible. Chapter 31 starting with verse 10. It tells of what a man should look for in a wife. I know your struggle. I've prayed to God that He would take away my sinful, selfish nature and mold me into what would make a godly man a godly wife. He's helping me to remove the layers of sinful attitudes that the world teaches me I should have. No longer do I view marriage, submitting to my husband, and being a mother as things that should be looked at with disdain. All it takes is alot of prayer. If you attend church, I would highly recommend looking to a married couple who has placed Christ in the center of their relationship. Ask the wife for prayer and advice. Learn from her godly example. I'll be praying for you. I know how hard it is. Turn to God and spend lots of time in prayer. That's the only thing that's getting me by. God bless you.

 

[sparrow1029]

You know, I can tell God is working on this area of your life already. The fact that you know you have a problem in these areas, and that you want to change them, testifies to the fact that you're in the process of changing. The real danger comes when you lose sensitivity to the problem.

Christianity is a dynamic process, with God refining you throughout your life. There are some areas that get "fixed" right away, some that take a lifetime, and some that fall in between the other catagories. I dunno which this falls into, but just know that it is not outside the scope of His power to bring about radical change. But, you know, don't get upset about the process. Get all you can out of the lessons God is about to teach you. Know that it will be tough, but never be more then you can take (really). And, like msjones said, pray! Pray that God would form you into a woman after His own heart, and that He would allow you to see the world--and other people--as He sees them. In other words, pray for godly perspective, which is a wonderful way to combat a selfish nature.

 

[Blessed-one]

You know, I can tell God is working on this area of your life already. The fact that you know you have a problem in these areas, and that you want to change them, testifies to the fact that you're in the process of changing. The real danger comes when you lose sensitivity to the problem.

i agree with sparrow absolutely. It might all seems very daunting when the problems suddenly sink in. Many people use their life time to solve just one problem, so don't worry too much. The best thing to do would be to ask God's help so that you can check your action and stop yourself from being whatever you are.. for example, you're aggravated and you're able to stop from lashing out at the right time.

remember and have faith that God can change you. I've heard of people complaining that it's impossible but it IS possible to stop doing something and have the desire abated. You need time, obedience and a willingness to let God change you.