To understand my problem, you'll have to have quite a bit of insight....So I'll try to explain the situation as well as I can, as quickly as possible:
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. We've been through a lot of tough things...[and somehow, I know there's going to be a lot more...there always is...] Anyway, for the first 7 or 8 months I lived at my house and he started renting from my parents, which is only a half a mile away. He's been through heck and back with my parents, merely because he has a couple of tattoos and used to drink, is an ex-crank addict, etc. [there are probably more reasons than that.] But, anyway, he used to be in this band and they drank all the time and fought and it was really just a big mess. [He's a great guitarist, and that's something he really enjoys doing.] Anyhow, that was over because we both came home drunk every* week and it was a big problem for my parents, and inside him and I. So, he's been without a band for 7 or 8 months or so...that upsets him quite a bit. Another thing is that when he was into drugs he always had a lot of friends, now we barely have any...none who come over and none we go see, unless it's someone he works with. That is a big issue for him, not so much me because I'm a very sheltered girl. I like my home, and the comfort of being here. He, on the other hand, loves home, but wants friends. I don't know how to find them for him, and he never really makes an effort. All he wants to do is move back to where he came from [about 2 hours away] and us be with his old friends [the druggies]. I try to tell him...the only reason they were your friends is because you were there and you either had something they liked or they wanted to drag you down with them. The only time any of them ever call is: "Hey come to my show..." or "Let's go to Ozzfest, you have to give me 100 dollars though..." It's really stupid and immature. He gets what I say about his old friends..how they really aren't his friends...but he just can't help but want some friends. I completely understand this. [Really, though, he just wants a band, or at least another guitarist to play with because that's his passion.] Recently we moved in together [3 months ago], I already know that's a sin. We have drank alcohol a few times and it's really causing a big barrier between us. We fight and argue and it's just sad...so we completely* gave that up together. I quit a job I'd been working at because I was getting 20 hrs every two* weeks...not even enough money to pay for the gas to get there. So, now, it seems like so much is adding onto us at once. I'm starting college in a few months and our vehicle has been having a lot of problems. My boyfriend is really stressed because he works 80 hrs every two weeks and when he comes home with the cash it's all gone. We're trying to make it. We were going to get married a few months ago, but we didn't because we wanted a nice wedding and we've been pretty broke. We will be getting married as soon as I get a job...I'm hoping to get one at wal-mart. Anyhow, everything has been going pretty sucky lately and I don't know what do to to make my boyfriend happy. When he gets home from work the house is very clean, the laundry is done, folded, and put away, the dishes are done, and dinner is on the table. I love on him always, but it's so hard to fill that void that I know I can't fill. I just want him to play in church, meet some people there, but we just go on Sundays because he acts a little uninterested. My parents keep telling me that if we get married and dedicate our lives fully* to God then everything will be better. I try so hard. I love God so much, but my boyfriend has been raised differently. He is the type who things that having a good heart and praying before you go to bed, and showing up for church on Sunday is going to get you to heaven. I have told him...good works mean nothing without faith. I also tried to explain to him that we have to give up everything. He just doesn't understand. I reallly need some advice. *Sigh* Help me!
Thanks.
Peace.
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. We've been through a lot of tough things...[and somehow, I know there's going to be a lot more...there always is...] Anyway, for the first 7 or 8 months I lived at my house and he started renting from my parents, which is only a half a mile away. He's been through heck and back with my parents, merely because he has a couple of tattoos and used to drink, is an ex-crank addict, etc. [there are probably more reasons than that.] But, anyway, he used to be in this band and they drank all the time and fought and it was really just a big mess. [He's a great guitarist, and that's something he really enjoys doing.] Anyhow, that was over because we both came home drunk every* week and it was a big problem for my parents, and inside him and I. So, he's been without a band for 7 or 8 months or so...that upsets him quite a bit. Another thing is that when he was into drugs he always had a lot of friends, now we barely have any...none who come over and none we go see, unless it's someone he works with. That is a big issue for him, not so much me because I'm a very sheltered girl. I like my home, and the comfort of being here. He, on the other hand, loves home, but wants friends. I don't know how to find them for him, and he never really makes an effort. All he wants to do is move back to where he came from [about 2 hours away] and us be with his old friends [the druggies]. I try to tell him...the only reason they were your friends is because you were there and you either had something they liked or they wanted to drag you down with them. The only time any of them ever call is: "Hey come to my show..." or "Let's go to Ozzfest, you have to give me 100 dollars though..." It's really stupid and immature. He gets what I say about his old friends..how they really aren't his friends...but he just can't help but want some friends. I completely understand this. [Really, though, he just wants a band, or at least another guitarist to play with because that's his passion.] Recently we moved in together [3 months ago], I already know that's a sin. We have drank alcohol a few times and it's really causing a big barrier between us. We fight and argue and it's just sad...so we completely* gave that up together. I quit a job I'd been working at because I was getting 20 hrs every two* weeks...not even enough money to pay for the gas to get there. So, now, it seems like so much is adding onto us at once. I'm starting college in a few months and our vehicle has been having a lot of problems. My boyfriend is really stressed because he works 80 hrs every two weeks and when he comes home with the cash it's all gone. We're trying to make it. We were going to get married a few months ago, but we didn't because we wanted a nice wedding and we've been pretty broke. We will be getting married as soon as I get a job...I'm hoping to get one at wal-mart. Anyhow, everything has been going pretty sucky lately and I don't know what do to to make my boyfriend happy. When he gets home from work the house is very clean, the laundry is done, folded, and put away, the dishes are done, and dinner is on the table. I love on him always, but it's so hard to fill that void that I know I can't fill. I just want him to play in church, meet some people there, but we just go on Sundays because he acts a little uninterested. My parents keep telling me that if we get married and dedicate our lives fully* to God then everything will be better. I try so hard. I love God so much, but my boyfriend has been raised differently. He is the type who things that having a good heart and praying before you go to bed, and showing up for church on Sunday is going to get you to heaven. I have told him...good works mean nothing without faith. I also tried to explain to him that we have to give up everything. He just doesn't understand. I reallly need some advice. *Sigh* Help me!
Thanks.
Peace.
God bless!
it may hurt now and be rough now. but there is so much blessing and joy to come if we just listen to our Father.
