i wish i was in a relationship...

angelgal · Jan 1, 2005

Just want to share some thoughts this new year and maybe hear from some of you out there...

It's getting more and more difficult to be a single and unattached twenty-something turning thirty. Everyone around is getting attached, married and/or having babies. Often, the green-eyed monster surfaces as i watch happy couples (among my friends) sit/walk/talk together.

Much as i'm enjoying my singlehood, being involved in youth ministry (meaning i hang out with teens more than i do with peers) and having the freedom of single-dom, there's also a longing for a significant other in my life.

I know i should trust that God has a plan and purpose for me... sometimes it's just hard... my prayer for 2005... to find a partner for life...

thanks for listening.

bemanisuperstar · Jan 1, 2005

That makes 2 of us

angelgal · Jan 2, 2005

thanks for the advice and prayers blue impulse.
will be seriously discerning a ministry to serve in this year, or at least looking for opportunities to reconnect with my peers.

boilerblues · Jan 2, 2005

It's hard to be single, especially when everyone around you is hooking up. I haven't had a date in 6 years (not for lack of trying). I'm learning that in this place I have to be content and know that my completeness and satisfaction comes from Christ alone. But it's still a struggle. Hang in there, God is good and His plan for you is good, even if we're not sure sometimes.

born2run · Jan 2, 2005

I feel your pain, and understand completely! Most of the kids I grew up with are married and have families. Not me...no way! I know how hard it is to trust God in this area, but know that you're in my thoughts and prayers!

sweetlambofgod · Jan 2, 2005

I feel the same way

Inperfected · Jan 2, 2005

Yeah as sweetlambofgopd said, it's not just a older person thing, i mite only be just outta highschoo, and totlaly not ready, but i realy wanna get married too... Thing is God's got the perfect timing, i kno a 40year old who just got marriaed for the first time, and his wife is beuatiful (inside and out). His waiting paid off, keep holding on, and remember he's got you strong.

Vicekill · Jan 3, 2005

I think it is much like a watched pot never boiling. Usually when you stop looking is when you manage to somehow wind up in a relationship.

BykrChyk · Jan 3, 2005

If it's important to you to get married someday, you just need to keep the faith that it will happen at the right time of your life... though in retrespect you can see many benefits to being single, and praise God for it. IE, would your youth minisitry be as fruitful if you had a husband and kids on top of it? I always remind myself of this scripture when I myself am bummed about being single:

1 Corinthians 7: 32 But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord;
33but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife,
34and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.

sweetlambofgod · Jan 3, 2005

Vicekill said:
I think it is much like a watched pot never boiling. Usually when you stop looking is when you manage to somehow wind up in a relationship.

so true

MetalBlade · Jan 3, 2005

Relationships are overrated! lol! Enjoy your freedom while it lasts!

angelgal · Jan 4, 2005

heh... thanks everyone...
BykrChyk... thanks for the reminder of God's Word...

BeautyForAshes · Jan 4, 2005

Just co-sign ing with thank BykrChyk for the Word. I am all set to get started on my "I'm 30 and single" pity party until I stumbled on this thread.

May God bless each of us.

jonnylove · Jan 4, 2005

I find it difficult being single too. I'm 27 and have been single all my life, mainly because of how shy I was before I got saved. It can be lonely, depressing and frustrating at times, but it's in those times we need to learn to totally rely on the Lord to meet all our needs, including our emotional needs. Easier said than done I know (from personal experience), but the bottom line is that Jesus is the answer to all our problems in every area of our lives. Well, stay strong in the Lord everyone and hopefully we'll all get married this year.

love in Jesus jonathan

chanis · Feb 3, 2005

I think that we (singles) all get like that from time to time, we start wondeirng when he/she will ever arrive it's natural becasue I believe that desire is placed iwth in us...there are also tiems when I'm like "thanks God I don't have a boyfirend." I would say concentrate on all the positives and the cool things that you have going for you, enjoy life, ministry, etc...and before you know it God will bring that person at the right time...

VivDaGurl · Feb 3, 2005

I'm one of you whom is hoping to be in a relationship after being single for the past two years. I'm not only hoping to be in a relationship and wondering whether would I ever get married especially lately when I see so many people younger than me are married or engaged or having babies, etc. With my age approaching 30, I'm getting more and more nervous. The Chinese New Year is next week and it's a culture whereby the ones whom are married will be distributing the red packets to those whom are not married. I just feel so embarrassed to even receive these red packets....

Sometimes, I even wondered whether what's wrong with me that I don't have someone in my life. Sometimes, I wondered whether would God ever prepared anyone for me to be married to. Sometimes, I'm wondering whether why am I kept to be single? and the list goes on and on and on....

Blank123 · Feb 3, 2005

I know it can really stink to be single sometimes, but I think that too many of us see our singleness as a curse rather than a blessing.Our single years are a time for us to work on our relationship with God, and allow Him to be our focus and our sufficiency. If you're meant to be married then God will bring that SO into your life when it suits His timing, and not a second sooner, so there's really no point worrying about it as He's the one in control.

Someone once said, and I find a lot of comfort in this, if you can trust in God for something as important as your salvation, you can certainly trust him for a husband or wife.

Apollonian · Feb 4, 2005

*sigh* Blast this society. Its unfair to have social pressures which push us toward a goal which the society goes out of its way to make difficult for us (Christians). Short of a miracle, I have no hope. I guess its just a good thing that I can still (barely) believe in miracles...

Inperfected · Feb 4, 2005

And when it happens, it will happen. I nkow a guy, who said he'd be single for a couple more years, before looking at marriage... WEll........... he's engaged now.

Just trustgod, and keep talking, but do your best to stay positive about it.

elm0 · Feb 4, 2005

I got married Feb 28 last year, turned 30 on May 16. I'd been wanting to get married since I was about 22, but God kept telling me to wait.

Patience is something we all need to have, especially when waiting for God's perfect timing.

God Bless.

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