Since others have answered your question I’ll share a few tips to aid your search. While I haven’t used Christian dating sites I’ve met suitors through other channels (forums).
Keep in mind, most profiles aren’t wholly honest. The majority present their ideal self and lifestyle. It’s important to ask questions to ascertain what percentage of their disclosure is current/in process. Lest you assume they’re doing it all and discover the bulk is ‘one day’.
Before you craft your statement take a moment to consider the things you value most in others and write them down. It’s easy to focus on the big stuff but the little things often make or break relationships. Don’t underestimate the value of character, vision, fun, communication and great discourse. Daily living is far richer when you spend it with someone you enjoy, respect and love conversing with.
You needn’t disclose everything nor do I recommend it. You aren’t speaking to everyone. You’re directing the message to your complement. Avoid generalities and open-ended statements. Tell the truth and paint him a picture. Reveal yourself and the life you have in mind in this manner.
If possible, have your pictures taken professionally. You don’t need a lot. A headshot, full body, and something fun is best. Make sure the mood echoes the one in your statement. If its elegance do the same. If its lighthearted follow suit.
Guard your heart and don’t be surprised if you’re flooded with messages. Many (men) spend years on those sites with little to no engagement. And a lot of them are desperate. Let discrimination be your guide. Take care in your discourse. If the connection is improbable be upfront don’t drag it out. The longer you converse the more confident they’ll become in their pursuit.
Be patient. In this medium women have the upper hand and many resent it. There’s Christian men in their 20s, 30s and above who’ve never had a date or companion. Be mindful of the disparity when addressing the subject with others. Expanding the pool didn’t widen the field it narrowed it. Ordinary is out of fashion. Men who are personable, charismatic and successful are in demand. Excitement is the elephant in the room. Hence their struggle.
Faith is important but don’t make it your central topic. You can hide a lot of flaws through religion. Focus on his character to determine who he is in light of his beliefs. Pay attention to temperament and irritations (personal or societal) it comes out eventually.
Above all, let him talk. Listen carefully. It’s hard to do when you’re speaking. Keep your emotions in check while getting acquainted until you know who you’re dealing with. Don’t devote too much energy to inference. Stick with the facts and what he says and does. You’ll avoid overthinking.
Good luck!
~bella
