I was just wondering.

[ChildByGrace]

I'm not having a go at all by this post - it's genuine curiosity. I totally admire you people who have a lot of children but i'm not sure i could do it.

What i am wondering spring from a couple that i know (they are Christians) who have just had their 9th child in 9 years.
I was astounded to hear of this (plus the fact that she is going on to have at least one more) not because i don't think it's right but because part of me wonders if it could be classed as irresponsiable to have so many.
My first question was what on earth would her or her H do if soemthing happened to one of them?? I know that any couple with any amount of children could have the same happen but the more children there are the more difficult i would imagine it to be.

I'm making a bit of a mess of this post and am ernestly praying that no-one is offened as i am not having a go or looking down on anyone.

Anyhow - how do you deal with the idea that something could happen and you or your SO could be left with a number of children?
Do you have any insurances that would help?
If you're faith in God such that if anything did happen you just know that they will all be looked after
What would you do if your doctor said that it would be dangerous to your health to have any more children.

I truely hope that this has come across in the right way and am sorry if it hasn't

 

[RoseofLima]

For me- I figure it's pointless to worry about the unforseeable future. I don't think it prudent to live my life based on suppositions of what might happen. God has infinite wisdom; I do not.

As with everything in my life, I figure if something happened God would either provide the means or the grace to go without. It might be an enormous cross to bear, but suffering is precisely what transforms us into Christ. My life is not for this world, but rather for the next.

If my doctor said it was dangerous- I would seriously need to consider what he said, as he rejoices with us each time we are pregnant again. We use NFP- and will be trying to postpone pregnancy for the next couple of years at least...but we both feel that there are far worse things in the world than having another baby.

We are so broke, and yet we always have enough...and through the generosity of others and frugality- we often get to have really wonderful trips and experiences. My kids are getting a great education, they are learing to be selfless and imperfect and the immense power of prayer.

For me- 9 kids in as many years seems like it would be too overwhelming--however it is so awesome how much grace Our Lord bestows upon us to face the challenges and sufferings which He has allowed to perfect us!

 

[CelticRose]

My brother was killed in a flying accident just before Christmas. His only child just turned 14. He has no-one to share his pain & grief with. Guess which family he is ringing constantly? Yep ~ & he generally asks to talk to ALL his cousins. I figure if something bad happens we have each other & to worry about that which will probably never happen is a sin. God is our insurance.

 

[ChildByGrace]

Thank you for answering.

It's wonderful to see the faith in God.

I'm sure i couldn't do it myself - but who knows what God has planned.

 

[RoseofLima]

See- that just it....none of us can do it ourselves- but through Christ all things are possible! Even surviving being the mother of a gaggle of children

 

[ChildByGrace]

See- that just it....none of us can do it ourselves- but through Christ all things are possible! Even surviving being the mother of a gaggle of children

so true

 

[oliveplants]

Well, I had 4 children in 5 years... It is tiring and overwhelming, but God is faithfull.

DH has a lot of insurance right now (military) but it will drop a lot when he retires. We plan to own a home, car, and be starting on a home business all debt free by that time. So the large family will be free help at all the work that needs to be done.

I have some insurance, but if I died and left DH and children, I think he'd be getting help from extended family. At least until his retirement, when he'd have to make a way to care for them himself.

I joke about the children being free help, but really, I do hope to train them to be hard workers and to put family before self. Gardening, sewing, cooking, home-based business all do better with more people to help.

I do trust God, but I'm also getting to really enjoy it. God does things for the GOOD of those who love Him.