I was cheated on

[Souljah4Christ]

Hey guys,

My name is ryan. I don't come here that often but I actually kind of need someone to talk to. I'm so down and so depressed. This morning I was informed that she had cheated on me. I'll give you a brief background on this.

Over the past week or so (I hadn't had contact with her since saturday morning), she has been having problems. What problems I didn't know. She told me to give her time. I did that. After some time, I got kind of worried and tried to call her. Then I got more worried and frantically tried to call the cops to make sure she was all right but got not response. (It pains me to type this actually).

I've been trying to have some kind of conversation or contact with her, but she wasn't answering my phone calls, my text messages or my emails. Finally this morning she got on to tell me that she cheated on me. She had sex with some guy who was related to a friend at work. She doesn't even know the guy yet she was talking to him all week and stuff and wasn't talking to me.

I am just so hurt by this. I need someone to talk about this. I asked God, why? I've yet to response from Him.

Ryan

 

[Souljah4Christ]

Oh and by the way, I have broken it off with her, my fiancée who I was with for almost 4 years and was 2 months away from marriage.

 

[purplesky]

Ouch. I'm really sorry you have had to go through this.

I know that you have broken up with her, but my first question is whether that breakup is final, or if you are interested in working things out with her.

Either way you need to work at prayerfully forgiving her - "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have recieved it, and it will be yours. And whenever you stand praying, forgive, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive your trespasses." Mark 11:24-26, ESV

God can give us the strength we need to get through all things, and with his strength you can forgive. It is important that you do, for your own peace of mind, for your relationship with her, your future wife and with God. I will be praying too.

Remember - we live in a fallen, sinful world, and we are fallen, sinful people. Even people who belong to God still can, and do, sin.

If you are interested in getting back together, you need to be willing to do a lot of work. You will need to regain trust, sort through why this was able to happen from her end, whether there is something she didn't tell you that she needs from you in your relationship (this was carefully worded - i do not want you to blame yourself for this - at all). Most importantly - her relationship with God needs to be brought on track. If we are in perfect relationship with God, we cannot sin, so her actions here show that she has been turning her back on God in some degree. This is the most pressing point for her - regardless of whether or not you get back together.

Please let me know how this progresses, and i will be praying.

God Bless

 

[batboy]

Hey, I just wanted you to know that I am in the same boat as you. My girlfriend of 2 years recently cheated on me. I found myself screaming asking God why? Why would He allow this to happen? How could this be a part of His plan? What I've learned through this time through a lot of talking to those much older and wiser to me is that God has a perfect path for everyone, but we are given free will to not choose that path. I know that God created my girlfriend and myself to be together, but she chose a different path.
I don't know what kind of situation you are in with your relationship. Whether or not you are still talking with her, or even want to still talk with her. For myself, I was able to tame my tongue when I've talked to her, though I've wanted to scream and yell and tell her exactly what I felt, I know that that was created for much more. My girlfriend and I are currently taking a break until later next month where we'll see if we are still meant for each other. She seems to have two really different personalities right now. I know the personality that has come out in this time is straight from the devil and that this is not who God created her to be. The choices she is making right now is a result of the devil getting a foot hold in her life. Sometimes I think it would be so much easier if I completely broke it off with her, I mean she cheated on me with another guy. I know I was created with a greater purpose, so that is why I don't. My bother I am praying for you. I am so glad that I found this post so I can talk to someone who is sharing a similar experience as I am.

 

[Souljah4Christ]

Yes I know. It really hurts and time can heal a broken heart. I'm glad I can talk to people who are going through the same thing.

 

[seehimcoming]

Mate, i would say get more involved with your friends and church youth.

 

[Souljah4Christ]

Yes dude I agree. Anyway I'll post what I posted on another thread of mine:

Well I now know for sure that she has left me as her mom emailed me saying so. I feel very very hurt, but hey life goes on and I'm sure God has someone better for me. However, what she did was very wrong and she found someone else under the wrong set of circumstances. Her mom said she is happy, I'd wonder for how long and whether this new guy will be able to tolerate some of her stupid stuff.

So basically, I now know it's over and why she doesn't take my calls. Though she has committed a grave sin while in a relationship, I wonder if God will bless that but it's for me to judge.