I want to stop being bisexual :-(

[jasmineh]

Hi my name is Jasmine and I identify as bisexual and I used to be so proud of this. I would promote the homosexual lifestyle. I thought it was normal. I thought the people who said it was a sin was being hateful but they are right. Homosexuality is a sin and I really want to live for God. I wish I could cut these feelings out of me. I started questioning my sexual orientation when I was in the 6th grade. A girl who was a stud or Butch liked me and I was so confused about that. Later on I started to see females.differently. I was attracted to them. I went back and forth from being a lesbian to bisexual.,I came out to my parents in the 9th grade that I was bisexual the only one in by family that took it well was my little sister. I didn't date a girl into my freshman year of college. I regret that so much. I have been in so many toxic relationships with males that my urge to date a female is even stronger than ever. I need advice and resources to help me stop this lifestyle. Is it possible to be an ex bisexual? If you have any questions feel free to ask me.

 

[Life2Christ]

The most practical advice I can give you is to deny yourself. Everyone on this board has some issue that we are trying to work through on our righteous path. You are not alone. Christians (who are serious) will pick up their cross and follow Christ because we choose to. Because we know that our time here on Earth is super short. Surround yourself first with like minded people who love the Lord. People think Christians are goody-two shoes but we are not. We are all walking through the fire.

 

[Pal Handy]

Hi my name is Jasmine and I identify as bisexual and I used to be so proud of this. I would promote the homosexual lifestyle. I thought it was normal. I thought the people who said it was a sin was being hateful but they are right. Homosexuality is a sin and I really want to live for God. I wish I could cut these feelings out of me. I started questioning my sexual orientation when I was in the 6th grade. A girl who was a stud or Butch liked me and I was so confused about that. Later on I started to see females.differently. I was attracted to them. I went back and forth from being a lesbian to bisexual.,I came out to my parents in the 9th grade that I was bisexual the only one in by family that took it well was my little sister. I didn't date a girl into my freshman year of college. I regret that so much. I have been in so many toxic relationships with males that my urge to date a female is even stronger than ever. I need advice and resources to help me stop this lifestyle. Is it possible to be an ex bisexual? If you have any questions feel free to ask me.

Until you decide to go God's way your life will never
be what He intended it to be which is blessed and full of
joy and seeing His plan and purposes unfold in your life
instead of the mess that you have brought on yourself.

Dating females is against God's will and so that will end
in ruin and another mess.

God forbids all sexual relationships outside of marriage which is defined
as a covenant that is entered into for life between one man and one woman.

God made us and He knows best and so if you are willing to go
His way your life will be blessed because God honors those who
honor Him by following His ways instead of the devil and his desire to
destroy marriages and turn relationships into selfish and lustful
perversions of God's purposes for marriage.

Stop looking for sex partners and go to God and repent of your sins
and then ask Christ to come into your life and heart and to be your LORD
and savior and ask Him to take away the spirit of lust and to fill you with
His Holy Spirit of love and desire for God's will instead of your own.

 

[Mairie]

I don't have any answers, except that God loves you so, so much and his desire is for a deep, intimate relationship with you. I've found that the root of the sexual sins in my life have been a deep longing for intimate relationship that only God can fill--but I turned to people I wasn't married to instead. Humans crave physical closeness--it's how we were made! That's the beautiful thing about marriage--God gave us a chance to have that with another person in this life. He created us for close relationship with him, and close relationship with others...the relationship with him is the most powerful one we can have, but when we don't realize that we are desperate to fill the void. I haven't experienced bi-sexuality, so I can't personally help you with that specifically, but I do know that when we've been through unhealthy relationships our desires for what we want our relationships to look like in general can become rather unbalanced.

For example, for a long time I was attracted to men who were much, much too old for me and was in an extremely unhealthy relationship with one for a time. While I'm not sure that specific attraction is a sin, it definitely wasn't God's best intention for my life--I'm not focusing so much on what is a sin and what isn't in this post so much as focusing on what God's best intentions are for you in what your relationships look like. The best way to grow in that is to seek God first and foremost. Seek him hard, be fully devoted to him being the primary relationship in your life. Tell him about your struggles, and ask him what his heart is for you and your relationships. God will bless you and make those distinctions clear in time. He sees your heart and will forgive you for anything--he can handle any messy situations along the way.

I know that for me he brought me out that unhealthy, sinful relationship with that older man and redirected my heart towards him--and showed me that a healthy relationship with a man closer to my own age was much more in my own interest in the long run. I still have strong attractions toward older men quite a bit, but I usually try to redirect those toward God, remembering that God always has my best interests at heart. I don't know if my experiences are the best analogy for what you are experiencing, but I hope that helps at least a little bit. PM me if you have questions or need to talk any further.

~Mary

 

[Pal Handy]

Going God's way is best no matter how hard the devil will
make your life.

There is an enemy to our souls who hates us because we are
made in the image and likeness of one that he despises, God.

The devil will throw everything at you to get you to go to hell
with him because he is full of hate and wants to hurt God by
ensnaring as many of the souls of those God loves and
bring them down to hell with him.

What could you give to cause God to have mercy on you
as you are already condemned to the devils fate unless
something changes or someone steps in to save you from
eternal death and separation from God.

Jesus said that anything that would keep you out of God's kingdom
and His gift of eternal life even if it were a part of your body,
it would be better to cut away that which would keep from choosing
Him and His salvation and instead end up in a place that God made
for the devil and not for people.

God offers us the greatest gift in the universe.

God offers us Himself and eternity spent in love, joy and
eternal fellowship with the saints and God in perfect love
and joy unspeakable and yet some want to bargain with God.

They want all that God offers and they want all that the devil offers
even though God has made it clear that we could never have two masters.

There is a conflict within you and you must choose, God and His way
and His salvation in Christ and bow your knee to His Lordship
and His plan for your life or stay in the world and serve its god and lose your soul.

There is no such thing as fence sitting with God.

God knows your heart and until you see that you can never be a Christian
by any other means but absolute surrender to Christ and His Lordship,
you are trying to sit on the fence and have the best of the kingdom
of God and the kingdom of this fallen world and its god, the devil.

All who come to the Father must come through Jesus Christ the Son.
There is no other way and wicca or a lifestyle of sin has no part in God's kingdom
but is a part of the devil's kingdom.

Have you ever said a prayer for salvation?

Here is one and if you are ready to give up the god of this fallen
world and his fate of eternal separation for God,
then pray this prayer and invite Jesus Christ into your heart
and ask Him to be your savior, Lord and God.

Dear God in heaven, I come to you in the name of Jesus. I acknowledge to You
that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the life that I have lived;
I need your forgiveness.

I believe that your only begotten Son Jesus Christ shed His precious blood
on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am now willing to turn from my sin.

You said in Your Holy Word, Romans 10:9 that if we confess the Lord our God and
believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we shall be saved.

Right now I confess Jesus as the Lord of my soul. With my heart, I believe that
God raised Jesus from the dead. This very moment I accept Jesus Christ as my
own personal Savior and according to His Word, right now I am saved.

Thank you Jesus for your unlimited grace which has saved me from my sins.
I thank you Jesus that your grace never leads to license, but rather it always leads
to repentance. Therefore Lord Jesus transform my life so that I may bring glory and
honor to you alone and not to myself.

I am now a child of God who is now my Father and so I ask you
Father in heaven to fill me with the promised Holy Spirit that You
promised that You would give to all of those who believe in Jesus
Christ You only begotten Son sent to save all those who trust in Him.

Fill me with Your Holy Spirit of Truth, Love and power to enable
me to live my life in Christ and to follow Him as My Lord and savior.


Thank you Jesus for dying for me and giving me eternal life.
Amen.

 

[Puptart]

Hi Jasmin

People can only be who they are, whether that's gay or straight. I'm not of the mindset that being gay or being straight is a choice, nor that one or the other is right or wrong, but I do think by the way you're talking that you seem like a very confused young woman when it comes to human sexuality and gender orientation. You've had some bad bouts with men, you've had at least one girl express an attraction to you (at a fairly young age at that), and these things can really skew a person's perception of who they are.

The best possible person I could recommend that you talk to would be a counselor. Is that something you might have access to? I'm not sure what your age is but if you are still in school, a guidance counselor may be able to help you find people or resources to talk to.

The next person you could speak with would be a pastor, but .. please, just hear me out here: If you go to one of those churches that just talk about fire and brimstone and death-to-the-gays, that may not be the best place to start. You need someone to talk to who's going to give you encouraging, supportive advice on your confusion, not someone who's going to scare you with hellfire if you don't choose x-way or y-way to be.

I know you want to follow God, and I commend you for that and that's important, but I honestly think talking to someone in a counseling sense is one of the best things you can do for yourself. If you're a youth, that means you have a LOT more resources at your disposal, often programs that are completely free.. don't waste it because in my adulthood I look back and wish I had taken advantage of all the free stuff at my fingertips when I was young enough to qualify.

We do have a Recovery area of ChristianForums which is a place you are free to talk about struggling with homosexuality, but again I just want to say that I feel counseling is the best possible option here. I don't think it's something to be left to CF alone.

Try your school, local community centers, hospital outpatient centers, youth groups, or churches for resources that can point you in the right direction. Don't be ashamed or afraid to just ask someone at these institutions for help on your current dilemma. It may seem embarrassing to ask for help, but honestly it's not that bad.

 

[holythemholyme]

I struggle more or less with the same thoughts..specially because i actually had sex with female friends when i was 13 or so and it didn't feel good and still haunts me to this day. Do not believe the hype when it comes to bisexuality, it is a very sharp sword. A male friend of mine was such as confused and troubled person when he added bisexuality to his plate, that's because were created to want to be with the opposite sex, adding more people and twisted ideas just adds stress and mire sin, pray to god to show you caring loving MEN in your life, or look for them online, join communities and pray harder than ever with fasting too. Don't let the thoughts consume you, I have them from time to time "what if women are better than men romantically and in bed' what if this, what if that " it just doesn't do anything for your lifestyle ....I need to stop it too, let's pray together...

 

[blackjellybean]

If you're a Christian, you're not really a pervert. You may have tendencies that way in what St Paul terms your "flesh", but you yourself are not. Therefore you need to realize what you yourself really are: clean. Internalize that, because the way you think about yourself and your identity has a big hold over you.

Have a think over these:

1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Titus 3:3-5

For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit...

Romans 7:20-25

Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand. For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members. Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.​

Meditate on those, I think you will find that the truth will slowly start to set you free of this thing. You can rewire the way you think, which over time rewires you feel, because your beliefs are the source of many of your emotions and desires. Find out what the Bible says about sex and meditate on it and change your beliefs as necessary. It's called repentance and it works.

 

[Pal Handy]

The scripture below make it clear that these Corinthians are saved now
and that they use to practice the below mentioned sins and so
the logical conclusion is that these mentioned sins are not to be
followed, practiced, adhered to and sought after as a lifestyle
because they are wrong and against God's will.

Those who come to Christ must repent, turn away from, flee,
escape, turn their backs on their old life of sin and rebellion and
confess these sins to God and receive salvation and the knowledge that
they will now follow Jesus Christ as Lord and allow God to transform them
from their old lifestyles into sons and daughters through their obedience.

1 Corinthians 6
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.

Jesus said it clearly here...
Matthew 9:13
But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice.’
For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance.”

 

[SplendidTree]

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