I want to break up with my boyfriend

[Angeleyes7715]

Last night we had a flat conversation... Made me really question the relationship. Right now I don't have much of an interest in continuing. I don't want to have this conversation with the guy though. I feel foolish for ever agreeing to this relationship in the first place and kinda just want to forget about it.
I get in these situations often with guys where I'm breaking up with them. Maybe it's me. Maybe it's depression I don't know.

 

[Galatea]

You should talk to him. He deserves closure.

 

[LilShepherdBoy]

Last night we had a flat conversation... Made me really question the relationship.

What exactly do you mean by a flat conversation?

 

[Angeleyes7715]

What exactly do you mean by a flat conversation?

Maybe he was just tired idk but it just felt like he wasn't interested in anything I was saying. He yawned during the conversation and it went dead silent a lot. And he was like oh uh huh as if he was bored. Lately he hasn't even been texting me good morning or hello. I just get the feeling he's bored and isn't interested.

 

[LilShepherdBoy]

Maybe he was just tired idk but it just felt like he wasn't interested in anything I was saying. He yawned during the conversation and it went dead silent a lot. And he was like oh uh huh as if he was bored. Lately he hasn't even been texting me good morning or hello. I just get the feeling he's bored and isn't interested.

Ahh I see. Yeah this is a typical scenario in relationships where there are good times and dry periods. Sometimes you just have to ride it out, learn from it and figure out ways to make it work, or try to figure out why it's not working. You just have to figure out your partner. Talk to him and ask questions. Good communication solves a lot of indifferences. The more problems you and him can solve together, the more your relationship will grow.

Don't brush this guy aside and find a new one. It'll just start the learning process all over again from square one and the results will always be the same. The right time to leave is after he tells you he's no longer interested. Both of you deserve answers. Talk to him first.

Here's something else I'll share with you that will help a lot. A huge majority of guys at an early age don't realize woman crave the attention from their partner 10 times than they need it. This is also a problem guys run into during the down times in a relationship making them ask the same question "why isn't our relationship working, is she not interested?"

Funny how things work out. You'll be find, just talk to him about it, communicate more.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

Ahh I see. Yeah this is a typical scenario in relationships where there are good times and dry periods. Sometimes you just have to ride it out, learn from it and figure out ways to make it work, or try to figure out why it's not working. You just have to figure out your partner. Talk to him and ask questions. Good communication solves a lot of indifferences. The more problems you and him can solve together, the more your relationship will grow.

Don't brush this guy aside and find a new one. It'll just start the learning process all over again from square one and the results will always be the same. The right time to leave is after he tells you he's no longer interested. Both of you deserve answers. Talk to him first.

Here's something else I'll share with you that will help a lot. A huge majority of guys at an early age don't realize woman crave the attention from their partner 10 times than they need it. This is also a problem guys run into during the down times in a relationship making them ask the same question "why isn't our relationship working, is she not interested?"

Funny how things work out. You'll be find, just talk to him about it, communicate more.

This is the same guy a lot of people on here were telling me to leave anyway because it's a long distance relationship and they said it wasn't really a relationship if it was long distance anyway... We were planning on seeing eachother in a month or so and I mean he even said he'd call today. He has kids and I don't so I get it's harder, I get it. But I'm just starting to get a bad feeling about this relationship. I'm not willing to put in any effort anymore in all honesty I wish it was morning just so I could break up with him. I really don't care anymore and have no interest in talking to him about it. I just want to leave and not think of it again.

 

[Galatea]

This is the same guy a lot of people on here were telling me to leave anyway because it's a long distance relationship and they said it wasn't really a relationship if it was long distance anyway... We were planning on seeing eachother in a month or so and I mean he even said he'd call today. He has kids and I don't so I get it's harder, I get it. But I'm just starting to get a bad feeling about this relationship. I'm not willing to put in any effort anymore in all honesty I wish it was morning just so I could break up with him. I really don't care anymore and have no interest in talking to him about it. I just want to leave and not think of it again.

I think you should talk to him. If you don't love him or care about him, or if you do love him but can't be bothered, you owe it to him to talk to him. I don't think you should say to him "It's over" without telling him why and without giving him a chance to talk, too. If you just want to say your piece, that is not a conversation and you really do owe him a candid conversation.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

...I wish I could type a retraction for this. Hope he never sees this. Talked to him tonight, turns out he was asleep on the phone because he was extremely tired. I told him from now on tell me when he is too tired to talk instead of staying up. I feel kinda guilty about this whole thing.

 

[Galatea]

Ask the mods if they can delete it. Or go back and edit your posts. I'm glad things worked out for you. I like to see people in love.