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I'm 17 and my family has never been big on religion. My mother was raised in a very religious household, but I guess it fell at the wayside when she and my dad got married. I'm a worrier, always have been. I have OCD and extreme anxiety. I recently have lost faith. Stopped believing in God and sunk into a miserable depression. I want to find my way again and ultimately be saved. :wave:
 

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Salvation doesn't come through what we are capable of saying or doing. Instead, it comes through accepting what God himself has already said and done in order to ensure that our unrighteousness can be replaced by his righteousness:

Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God. Therefore no one will be declared righteous in his sight by keeping the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of sin.

But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood. He did this to demonstrate his justice, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished - he did it to demonstrate his justice at the present time, so as to be just and the one who justifies those who have faith in Jesus. (Romans 3:19-26,NIV)

With God there is no such thing as 'good enough'. Either we are perfect, or we are doomed. But the Author of Justice is also the Epitome of Mercy. He knew better than we that no mortal could ever measure up to his requirements for perfection if left to our own devices. So what we could never do, namely, bradge the chasm between our unrighteousness and his requirements for absolute righteousness, God himself bridged for us through the actions and sacrifice of his Son, Jesus Christ.

So we accept the salvation that God offers freely to any and all who desire it, and his own righteousness replaces our unrighteousness when he looks upon us. Now what? It would make sense that we would show our gratitude by obeying his laws and commandments. But if we had been capable of doing that, Christ's sacrifice wouldn't have been necessary in the first place.

St. Paul recognized this quirk in our nature, and wrote quite candidly of it even in his own nature:

We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do - this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. (Romans 7:14-20,NIV)

It's called 'paradoxical intention', and is so much a part of our psyche that psychologists have used it in their therapy (e.g., a person who must write a great deal as part of his work, but who develops writer's cramp after only a few minutes, might be told, "Try to get writer's cramp," in order to actually alleviate that problem). There's an old saying which goes, "The harder you try, the faster you fail." That saying is a recognition of this quirk in our nature.

So if we cannot depend on ourselves to say and do what accords with God's will, what can we do? We can depend on God himself to do the necessary 'housecleaning', quite literally reconstructing our nature so that it conforms to what he wants of us:

So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law.

The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other. (Galatians 5:16-26,NIV)

Note that in the first paragraph of this passage we are not fighting our sinful nature; the Spirit is doing the fighting for us. It is he, not we ourselves, who conquers our sinful nature. Our job is to stay behind him as he clears the way for us (that's what 'led by the Spirit' means).

In the second paragraph we find a list of 'the acts of the sinful nature'. But note there that many of those 'acts' aren't actions, but rather the emotions which, if not 'reined in' and subdued, will lead to the commission of sinful acts. We can no more 'rein in' our own emotions than a leopard can change his spots into stripes. They're too great a part of our psyche. But what we cannot accomplish, we can trust the Spirit to accomplish for us.

And the Spirit doesn't come to us just to battle our sinful nature. With him he brings the new nature which conforms to what God wants of us. The 'laws written on the heart' are the 9 emotions which make up 'the fruit of the Spirit' in the third paragraph. They are the borders within which all our words and actions are to originate. But they are not ours; they are the Spirit's, implanted in us in order to enable us to live our lives 'in synch' with God.

There's another old saying:

Christians don't trust in their ability to hold on to God; they trust in God's ability to hold on to them.

The focus of our trust and confidence is not toward ourselves or anything that we can do. Instead it's directed toward God and what he has already done on our behalf, as well as what he continues to do for us.

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I'm 17 and my family has never been big on religion. My mother was raised in a very religious household, but I guess it fell at the wayside when she and my dad got married. I'm a worrier, always have been. I have OCD and extreme anxiety. I recently have lost faith. Stopped believing in God and sunk into a miserable depression. I want to find my way again and ultimately be saved. :wave:


Its good and important to want God in our lives, and God wants that too, but WE MUST RECEIVE GOD'S BELOVED SON to have any part in God.

Salvation is in having a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, not just in believing in God or following the teachings of Jesus Christ. Let me counsel you to speak faithfully to the Lord Jesus and thank Him for dying for your sins --"all have sinned and come short of the glory of God".

He/she who receive the Savior will be saved, and the Father-God will then give His Holy Spirit to indwell that one. You can do that right now and know your trust and faith is in the Lord Jesus. It is all about BELIEF, and then you can go on your way walking and talking with the Lord Jesus forever. If one stands on that faith and continues with the Lord Jesus, they will be saved and happy now.
 
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One thing i suggest is to not only go off of what you hear about God and Jesus. Study the Scripture. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God. Humble yourself and pray and stay in the Word. Every morning and throughout your day, ask the Lord to guide with by the Spirit so you may walk in His will iinstead of yours.
 
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I'm 17 and my family has never been big on religion. My mother was raised in a very religious household, but I guess it fell at the wayside when she and my dad got married. I'm a worrier, always have been. I have OCD and extreme anxiety. I recently have lost faith. Stopped believing in God and sunk into a miserable depression. I want to find my way again and ultimately be saved. :wave:

You will! you have taken the step of faith now by seeking him. Pray and ask him into your heart. We all will pray as well God bless
 
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Here's my story.

I believe I was born a believer! take that Calvin lol.

Seriously, I do! From the get go my aunt and grandmother, bless their hearts took me to Church. Started at orthodox, and ended up in Catholic, not much difference. Any way my mother was not very religious and even foul mouth. So for a few years up until I was 12, we moved around a lot, I did not go to Church. We use to hang out and play at a Church. One day the paster invited me to come in. Well I was no stranger to Church or God so I did! Loved it! It was Protestant. We had very little money! he gave me a Bible and I joined the Royal Rangers (Christian version of the boy scouts). My mother didn't know what to say!

I bring this up because I think all you need to do is get involved in a Church! It is life changing and will stay with you forever! That was 44 years ago and I still have fond memories of it!

Just do it!
 
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I'm 17 and my family has never been big on religion. My mother was raised in a very religious household, but I guess it fell at the wayside when she and my dad got married. I'm a worrier, always have been. I have OCD and extreme anxiety. I recently have lost faith. Stopped believing in God and sunk into a miserable depression. I want to find my way again and ultimately be saved. :wave:




There is no ultimately sister: God was with you from the day you called on Him:
You only need to continue trusting Him: Sometimes other people can lead us into seeking God out of fear of what people think; instead of how God feels: And God cares about how you feel: He wants to take your anxiety away; God only allows things like that to rise in us so that we may learn what it takes to be set free:

REMEMBER:
every second is a second chance:
You can give it to God at anymoment; just tell the Father how you feel; ask Him to give You the Power to love Him in His Son: And believe in Gods ability to empower you and to give you power over the things that effect you life:

He did it for me: I asked God to teach me how to love His Son; and in time God changed my life and showed me that the true power of love is found in Jesus Christ:

He gives us the power to change our thoughts and perceptions in life by allowing us to trust the Father; knowing that
He desires whats best for us; Bless you sister: Seek ye first the kingdom of God: And all other things will be added unto you:

And thats not easier said then done; because its God that does it within us when we confess our old ways to God: Even our thoughts; telling God if we dont trust Him; tell Him if you dont think He has been there for you; tell God these things and ask Him to allow You to trust Him: God wants us to talk to Him: He wants us to tell Him how we honestlym feel; for only He can take those feelings away; but sometimes we gotta ask; and to do that we must be honest with the Lord:

Believe in Gods ability to change your life; and his ability to help you with your thoughts and the way you may feel uncomfortable around people; God knows; He wants to heal us; Blessings my sister
 
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I'm 17 and my family has never been big on religion. My mother was raised in a very religious household, but I guess it fell at the wayside when she and my dad got married. I'm a worrier, always have been. I have OCD and extreme anxiety. I recently have lost faith. Stopped believing in God and sunk into a miserable depression. I want to find my way again and ultimately be saved. :wave:

If you believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead and confess with your mouth that He is Lord, you are saved.

Romans 10:9

That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.

What comes next is repenting from sin, which is turning away from it, and putting your entire life in His hands. It is admitting that this is too much to handle on your own, and by yourself you cannot make it, but that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you:

Phillippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

You have to trust God with your entire life, with your entire being, and put Him first in all things.

I recommend that you find a church and start attending regularly. Start reading the bible and praying to God to give you faith. Communicate with God and let Him know how you're feeling. Get it all out. God will speak to you, through His word, through prayer and through other people. I will pray for you. God bless sister.
 
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I'm 17 and my family has never been big on religion. My mother was raised in a very religious household, but I guess it fell at the wayside when she and my dad got married. I'm a worrier, always have been. I have OCD and extreme anxiety. I recently have lost faith. Stopped believing in God and sunk into a miserable depression. I want to find my way again and ultimately be saved. :wave:
I like what Harry's said to a great extent. I hope this much is clear: it's not the rules of what you do -- it's Jesus Who has done it for you.
 
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