I want a hug :(

[nk7]

Hi all,

I have a problem since years now; I am a girl, graduated already, so not so young. My problem is that I want to hug my closed friends 24 HOURS! Yes, I mean it, I do not want to do anything is my whole life other than hugging them. All these friends are girls only. But unfortunately, I never got this chance to hug them, but this desire is killing me and ruining my whole life.

Please help me.. pleaseeee.
Thanks.

 

[Ariel]

There is nothing wrong with a woman hugging a woman. I hug women all the time at church, at the supermarket, at a friend's house.

Also, I even hug men, although I am happily married. I'm just careful to give men other than my husband "side hugs," or "teepee" hugs--not making full body contact.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to hug someone...

 

[nk7]

Yes but my problem is that I want to hug my friends literally ALL the time... and WITH full body contact

 

[Ariel]

Yes but my problem is that I want to hug my friends literally ALL the time... and WITH full body contact

Well all of us have a deep need for affection, and also for affirmation.

Of course, you can't literally hug your friends all the time, lol.

But what about substitutes? I have a cat and a dog who follow me around all day and are often on my lap. Would it help to get yourself a pet?

 

[Born2Serve06]

I like to hug people and I do all the time. Some people don't like to be hugged and that makes for an ackward moment. It sounds like you are a happy friend who loves to have your friend around. Maybe try doing something nice for your friends instead of hugging them all the time. I always enjoy spreading some random acts of kindness to my friends.

 

[Bellicus]

It sounds great! If you want to hug, then HUG! I wish I could give and get more hugs. Hugs are great. Heres a video for you

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4

 

[Criada]

Hugging is good... though 24 hours a day sounds rather excessive
Seriously, it sounds as though you need physical affection.. and that is perfectly normal.

 

[ChristsCourage2]

It is okay to want to hug women only. Sometimes I feel like that I have to hug men only, but, know that hugging everyone is normal too. I pray to GOD that you can overcome this what sounds like an addiction, and, that He can heal you from this. GOD Bless.

 

[Jo1]

Hey, i love being hugged. Guess cos i didnt get that at all when i was growing up. Its ok, I think it is a wonderful thing.

 

[Ariel]

Jo, I really relate--I love being hugged, and I think it is because I wasn't hugged that often as a child...

So I hug other people, and especially my own offspring. I don't care if they are 17, 6' 3" and tower over me--I pull them down anyway and give them a hug. And just for a moment, I actually feel them relax in my embrace--a moment so fleeting it may only be my imagination--but then it seems they are happier...

Hugging is good for the soul. I think you have to be careful who you hug, and how. But hugging is good--almost as good as chocolate. LOL.

So here's a hug today for anyone who wants it:


((((((((hug))))))))

 

[Bellicus]

 

[nk7]

Well... most of u are telling me that hugging is ok.... the problem is that i cannot do it! No one will accept me hugging them with no reason and for a long time
i wish i knew why i am so obsessed with hugging like that.... i can cry nights and nights for a hug from my friend that i truly love :'(

 

[Jo1]

Well... most of u are telling me that hugging is ok.... the problem is that i cannot do it! No one will accept me hugging them with no reason and for a long time
i wish i knew why i am so obsessed with hugging like that.... i can cry nights and nights for a hug from my friend that i truly love :'(

aww im so sorry bless u.
If I was there in person I would give you a HUG heres some now, bless u sis. love u jo

 

[Bellicus]

Well... most of u are telling me that hugging is ok.... the problem is that i cannot do it! No one will accept me hugging them with no reason and for a long time
i wish i knew why i am so obsessed with hugging like that.... i can cry nights and nights for a hug from my friend that i truly love :'(

I really want to give you a huge bear hug when I see this But honestly I know that if a hug lasted for more then a couple of minutes then I would get REALLY tired of it. So I am thinking: Do you got a pet? Cause I guess that you need is to be close and to love and feel loved, and pets really have a unconditional love without questions when it comes to that. And I'm not sure what kind of animal I could suggest. I know that cats don't like hugs at all, they panic if anything gets close to their head. But maybe a dog? Puppies are normally pretty restless and really filled with energy and would not handle hugs for a long time, but when they are sleeping (and they sleep a lot) then they want someone to be close to and to feel safe. So maybe you could get a puppy? I would suggest a dog that don't grow very large, cause they tend to smell a bit more and it is not very comfortable if you want to have the dog with you in the bed or on the couch when you watch TV. My ex girlfriend used to have a dachs-hound, and she always used to be very strict on it and wanted it to be well-mannered, but I gave it snacks in secret and I also used to bring it to bed and it was really like a living teddy-bear and I always used to sleep very peacefully with that dog. It looked about like this:

So maybe that could fill your need for hugs? Maybe you don't need hugs at all, but just some unconditional love?