There Is A Guy I Really Like But U See Im 14 And He Is 19. I Dont Wont To Go Out Wit Him Now But I Want To See If He Is Single When He Is 23 So Its Not Whole Age Thing. But I Really Like Him. Should I Just B Friends Do U Think There Is A Chance That We Could Go Out When Im 4 Years Older From Now Maybe? He's A Christian Guy And He Is Really Nice He Takes Me To Places Where I Want To Go And Stuff He's A Great Guy. Wat Do I Do? I Can Wait And I Will.
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I Want A Guy
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Grunt
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Believe me, in 4 years he will probably undergo quite a few changes. I know I'm nothing like I was at age 16. And in that same time period, you will probably change 10 times as much as he does.
Just maintain a friendship, and if he still holds your interest 4-5 years down the road, then you can see about making a relationship of it.
Just maintain a friendship, and if he still holds your interest 4-5 years down the road, then you can see about making a relationship of it.
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Wait a minute...you say you are 14 and he is 19. Something isn't right here. Is this guy a friend you already know or just someone you want to get to know better?
I have a 14 year old sister and if I found out she was hanging out with a 19 year old that would be the end of that. A 14 year old does not need to be hanging out with a 19 year old guy especially if it is alone.
Sorry if I'm being a little blunt. But I don't think this is right.
I have a 14 year old sister and if I found out she was hanging out with a 19 year old that would be the end of that. A 14 year old does not need to be hanging out with a 19 year old guy especially if it is alone.
Sorry if I'm being a little blunt. But I don't think this is right.
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Sketcher
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There's a chance that you'll date when you're 18, but that chance is so small it's hardly worth mentioning. I agree with Grunt, he'll change (as I did) and you'll change a LOT more.
There's a Chinese proverb that I've had to follow a couple times: "Let her go, and if she comes back to you, then she was always yours."
There's a Chinese proverb that I've had to follow a couple times: "Let her go, and if she comes back to you, then she was always yours."
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LionOfJudah
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never would i allow my 13 yr old sister to hang out regularly with a 19 yr old guy that i knew she was interested in. i personally find it a bad idea.
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sunshinejennii
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I totally agree, I'm a completly different person to when I was 14 (I'm ALMOST 18 now!), the guys I had crushes on then (and a few were older) are not my type at all now. They were actually really really immature!
About the age-gap, obviously when you're 18 and he's 23 it wont be such a big deal but I think you'll find people would still not consider it desperatly healthy, unless you're an exceptionally mature 18 year old and he's still studying or something. I mean I'm 18 just after my crush is 22. I don't want a relationship with him or anything, it's just a minor crush on a friend. But I still feel it's inappropriate. Although he's still studying, and wont graduate till just after his 23rd birthday (med student) and thats why we're friends the fact remains that the age-gap is there. He's looking for a wife.
About the age-gap, obviously when you're 18 and he's 23 it wont be such a big deal but I think you'll find people would still not consider it desperatly healthy, unless you're an exceptionally mature 18 year old and he's still studying or something. I mean I'm 18 just after my crush is 22. I don't want a relationship with him or anything, it's just a minor crush on a friend. But I still feel it's inappropriate. Although he's still studying, and wont graduate till just after his 23rd birthday (med student) and thats why we're friends the fact remains that the age-gap is there. He's looking for a wife.
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Echoes Peak
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Urgh. I remember being 14...and I remeber being 19. Two completely different places. And though, I hung out with guys who were that much older than me, it was probably the smartest, wisest move never to become romantically involved. I'd wait until you were a little bit older, a little bit more discerning and a little bit more legal. But that's just my opinion.
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At 14 you have little to offer him but trouble in the legal, ethical, and social sense. Wait til you're of legal age before pursuing things, if you still feel the same way.
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