I am not the same person I was 10 so I would say no to both
Amen! Nor would we want it that way.
The reason this is important is because the answer to the request, "
What can I do?," must be understood to be what it is: a big question. You're not looking for an answer that will suffice for today. You're not looking for an answer that will address your concerns for self, spouse, others that will last a few days, a week, or even a month.
What you're asking for is
solutions that will last 62 years!
Not only must they last 62 years, but they must be flexible, adaptive enough to be effective for the changing circumstances and personalities inherently involved in a marriage.
In other words, what you're asking for is solutions that are enduring and resilient.
Now go back and re-read my op-reply and reconsider applying some of it to your life and your marriage
because you love your husband and are going to be around for decades and you hope to do so with him every step of the way.
I posted a plan that will take work, Happy work if you'll do it with joy. I posted a recommendations that will bring the two of you together. I did not do so randomly. I did so prayerfully based upon the information contained in this op and what I have witnessed professionally help others live victoriously in Christ. It will
join you two. "Marriage" means "to join." You asked what can I
do? and I provided a list you can
do. Not only will it bring you together into geographic proximity, but it will bring you together in knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and power if and when the two of you discuss it and
join each other while still holding on to your uniqueness. God did not make His image in you as He made it in your husband. God knew what He was doing. The two of you complement each other in a way unique and different from all other marriages...
….
if you do the work.
If you are blessed then your sister will be among the least of the travails you'll face towards not dying in Christ. Gird your loins, Josie, because trial, tribulation, suffering, failure, and doubt are part of our walking out the faith.
James 1:2-8 NIV
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do."
2 Peter 1:3-9 NIV
"His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins."
You have been cleansed from all past sins.
Your husband has been cleansed from all past sins. Your sister has not.
If you continue to live a life of repentance you will always be clean where she is not.
Sin brings pleasure for a season.
We are tempted by our own desires that drag us away and entice us, giving birth to sin (Jms. 1:14-15). You are one of your husband's God-given aids, and He is yours, to overcome what is otherwise the human condition.
Every day.
For 62 years.
Together.
With Christ victorious.
Or not.
You choose.
What can you do?