I think I want a Mentor

[wondering star]

Bit of background. I was Saved in 2002 and backslide after 18 months. In April 2011 I suddenly wanted to go to Church and rededicated my life to Jesus again

Since april I have been attending Church every week, prayer meetings and been involved in other activities in the Church, they ahve made me feel totally part of the Church and the Pastor especially has been great. This is a Pentecostal Church and about 50 member who attend regular so a small Church.

I ahve made on particular close friend and have been able to ask her things I do not understand about and to be honest anyone there will answer questions for me but I feel like I want maybe one person to help me build my faith.

I sometimes get overwhelmed with so much info to take in and do not like bothering the Pastor all the time as he is so busy. In fact I do not like bothering any of them so it is quick questions here and there.

I think I need a Mentor to help me but how do I find someone ? Would it be silly to ask the Pastor if he can suggest somone , is it asking to much of someone to help me ?

I still class myself as a " new Christian " and have so much to learn .

Thanks

 

[Boidae]

I don't have any answers, but I wanted to wish you luck. I have been trying to find a mentor for over a year now and no one has expressed interest.

I have talked to our pastors and Christian men. They have all said that it's a great idea, but then are silent when I ask for a mentor or ask if they could be my mentor.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I think that asking your pastor for some possible mentor suggestions would be very appropriate. Do you have a women's leader? That might be a lead that you could use to seek help.

In the mean time, feel free to pm me. I won't have all the answers, but can definitely provide some feedback and a listening ear.

I'll be praying for you.

Kristen

 

[elenore]

I think you should pray about it, and ask God to lead you in this situation to do what he wants you to do.

 

[TheDag]

It can be difficult but I would like to encourage you to continue. I say that because I know how much it has helped me even though I would not consider myself a new christian at the time I started.
Being a mentor should be something people are willing to do as the bible tells us we should. Sadly this is not the reality. It should be someone your comfortable with. Never underestimate the benefit of older people as they have wisdom and also often a different approach from generation gap differences. While some things taught in the past aren't neccesarily right it is good to get a different perspective. Certainly if this friend is willing to help out then by all means do so. If they are similar in age then more discipleship role would be better where you can encourage and challenge your friend.

Depending on the type of person you are and if your comfortable or not don't rule out a guy either. If you do meet up with a guy for mentoring just make sure it is seen the right way by meeting in public places. I used to have lunch once a month with a girl and we had a great discipleship thing going. best case scenario is to get both a male and female perspective.

 

[timf]

I think I need a Mentor to help me but how do I find someone ? Would it be silly to ask the Pastor if he can suggest somone , is it asking to much of someone to help me ?

You might want to consider a group of people that are often not so busy, the elderly. You may want to see if you can identify an elderly woman and see if she is open to your company. If she has used her years to accumulate wisdom, she may be able to share with you some of what she has learned.

If there are no older wiser Christian women from whom you can learn, you may need to "cast a wider net" and visit some other churches.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Find someone who has what you want and ask them to mentor you.

 

[wondering star]

Thanks you all for the replies.

Do you have a women's leader? That might be a lead that you could use to seek help.

Just after I posted this morning I left the room to do a few things and a lady at Church came into my head and I was thinking of telephoning her to ask if I could come see here for an hour. Just as I went to get her phone number my phone rang and it was same lady

This lady is wife of senior Elder at Church and has always been ver helpful. Last week she just asked if I was OK after a service and I burst into tears and she hugged me and prayed for me. She is so knowledgeable and has been a Christian for about 50 years, I know I can speak to her about things and she will help me when needed BUT she is always busy so would not like to take to much of her time.



Thanks again everyone, I will speak to Pastor tomorrow if I get chance and ask his advice.

 

[BFine]

hit the post button by mistake

 

[BFine]

Ask the minister about finding someone to mentor you
or find a small group to join and study the bible.

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