I think I need to see a doctor.

[Solus Christus]

I know for a fact that I have anorexia, and I think it's starting to affect my body in bad ways. I haven't had a physical check-up in a few years, but I'm afraid to go to either of my parents about it for fear that they'll find out about my problems(depression, self-harm, anorexia, etc). I need to go to a doctor because my boyfriend is getting worried that something really is wrong with me physically, but I need to find some sort of free clinic because I can't use my parent's insurance without them knowing about it. Any help or advice would be much appreciated.

 

[Everlasting33]

Sorry to hear you are in a difficult situation! You sound like you have been in a lot of pain for some time. Your body is a witness to it.

Its very natural and normal to fear what your parents will think of you and how they may respond. We do not want to disappoint or cause them to worry. At the same time, most parents want to help their children in every way, even if they are physically unable.

Think of it like this: Your parents created you and they planned your birth. They were there when you came into this world and they held and cradled you in comfort and warmth. They have seen you grow into a beautiful woman and if anything, they would be happy to know you came to them with your burdens.

If you or I had a child, wouldn't we want them to come to us when they are suffering or in need?

Hope this helps! Praying for you.

Don't give up on you and your ability to succeed!

 

[Solus Christus]

It's not fear of what I think they'll do/say, because I know what their reaction will be. My parents are very strict, close-minded, and controlling. I have been on house arrest for over a month because I told them that I was hanging out with a guy I liked. Now I'm not allowed out of the house except for church, school, or work. When I tell them things, they judge me and place restrictions on me that only drive me deeper into my pain and depression.

 

[Everlasting33]

Well, I am sorry to hear that you do not feel safe enough to tell your parents this. When I had depression, I was very, very reluctant to tell my mom (I was fifteen at the time).

Unfortunately, not every child is given the support/encouragement that is needed and it's a shame to know this.

Well, I believe that most, if not all, clinics have to involve parents when the child is seventeen and under. Although, I am not certain on this rule but I have experienced this in my own life.

What do you think their reaction will be?

 

[Everlasting33]

The issues you are facing are more likely to be resolved with their support. If their support is not granted, you can go from there. However, I would suggest saying:

"This is really hard for me and I am want you both to know that I value your support and encouragement. I am battling with (blank) and I am in a lot of pain. I need to see a professional and I hope that you are behind me with this."

Remember that people who are controlling are really in a state of fear and anxiety. For whatever reason, your parents have also battled through their own lives and it has affected you.

I will pray that love casts out fear in your situation!

 

[Holy Moly]

Anorexia is nothing to fool with.

If you feel this is the problem, if it were me I would seek help immediately and find a DOC who could recommend a good counselor.

Contact some churches, they might have the knowledge in knowing where and how to get you some help.

 

[blessedmomof5]

I am surprised they meaning your parents haven't noticed it already.... or have they?
maybe you can talk to someone school counsler, they may have resourses for you.
i see my dr every three weeks, its a must to at least get a lookover and bloodwork done,