I really need help guys

[TracyJacks]

Anyone coming back to my story, I have deleted it now.

I have prayed all night about my situation and feel that God hads forgiven me, and maybe more difficulty I have forgiven myself. I feel clearer and happier today and I have thought about the things I wrote.

I came on here for advice and explained my situation as briefly as possible

At the end of the day - Jesus knows my heart and ... and people reading this don't know me at all..

I am looking ahead and feel at peace.

Thanks and god bless to you.

 

[Minty]

What an awful situation for you to be in The thing that happened with this guy sounds an awful lot like assault (you gave your consent under duress and so that he would leave you alone). From where I'm sitting (and this is just my opinion) you have nothing to be ashamed of, yes, it is a sin, but if you have asked God for His forgiveness, and He has forgiven you, who am I to pass judgement on you. We are all sinners, and you are not alone in having a past that you would rather forget.

I pray that you can find the peace of mind that you seek, and if you would like some advice from a Pastor/Minister, I can recommend the Ask a Pastor Team in the link below (just click the blue text).

God bless you ​

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[MasadaCorban]

I suggest you read well what you wrote and contemplate:

1. there is a reason you and your colleague ended up in his place, and it speaks about your relationship with your fiance more than it speaks about your colleauge. Watch the focus. Don't blame him or let others blame him, YOU were the one with the fiance, not him. Pay attention to WHY you ended up there.

2. Do not think married life with your fiance's family will change ANYTHING of your experience amongst them in their house. It will likely be that way your whole life, and if your partner as fiance saw nothing wrong with them excluding you, nor will he has your husband. It is not a good sign. My parent's divorced when I was 15 for this problem, my own marriage into exactly a situation you describe, finally ended after 15 years in 2006. His family will only resent you more AFTER they LOSE to you--because for them it is a battle. They will never, most likely, accept you. Never. Think about it hard, your marriage to this person. My sister went ahead with a marriage "because all was set and didn't want to disappoint everyone." They divorced 5 years later.

This said, I doubt anyone could cause you to pause. You are caught up in the beauty of what should be beautiful, and only down the road will you be free to see things clearly. Yes, love is blind. I'm just being honest with you.

 

[~Jo~]

Hello and welcome to CF. I hope you like it here,enjoy the forums.

 

[Mickeyk72]

Moved from New Members Intros to Marriage Ministry.

 

[Mickeyk72]

Closed at the request of the op.