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I really miss dancing...

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Blah. I don't know what I'm looking for here, I guess just for some understanding.
So I started dancing.. well, technically at age 3 but didn't like the fact that my mom couldn't watch so I quit. So then I started again when I was five years old, in Kindergarten. I started in the middle of the year, when my teacher was getting the spring recital ready.
Somehow, I picked up really fast, and my teacher loved me and apparently I was very good.
I kept dancing until fourth grade.. i had made a new best friend who had no after school activities, and decided that we never had time together if i danced every week. So I quit. But I missed it too much, and the next year, I went back. But when I did return, I felt like I had missed a whole bunch of stuff. I felt like a horrible dancer. I was clumsy, couldn't learn the steps right, I don't know what happened. I kept on dancing though until 6th grade, but at the end of that year, my teacher was pretty much kicked out of the studio. Some new people took over and the next year, I continued ballet with a new teacher. None of my friends liked her, she wasn't our old teacher. I also decided to try out for the school play. I got the chorus part and was barely in it so I quit. The next year I tried jazz and tap. My jazz teacher hated me, never corrected me, didn't pay attention to me at all. In the school play, Peter Pan, I played the part of an indian but they put me in the back, and didn't let me do any of the *special* dances. I was only in the basic dances that everyone was in. Apparently, I was horrible. So I quit dancing. Last summer, I decided to try again, but I felt like I was bad, and the teachers didn't like me, etc. So I quit again. At that point, what I wanted to do was be really good, so I could *be a dancer*, maybe be on Broadway and be famous. But now, I watch So You Think You Can Dance, and all I want to do is dance. I want to do it for fun. I miss it so much. But I feel like I'm horrible. And that may be because of my social anxiety, but I can't be sure if I'm just horrible, or nervous. I want to be good at dancing, so I can have fun doing it, but I don't know if it's even possible for everyone to be good at dancing or if you have to already have talent. I don't know. :sigh:
 

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tr0pica1rain said:
Blah. I don't know what I'm looking for here, I guess just for some understanding.
So I started dancing.. well, technically at age 3 but didn't like the fact that my mom couldn't watch so I quit. So then I started again when I was five years old, in Kindergarten. I started in the middle of the year, when my teacher was getting the spring recital ready.
Somehow, I picked up really fast, and my teacher loved me and apparently I was very good.
I kept dancing until fourth grade.. i had made a new best friend who had no after school activities, and decided that we never had time together if i danced every week. So I quit. But I missed it too much, and the next year, I went back. But when I did return, I felt like I had missed a whole bunch of stuff. I felt like a horrible dancer. I was clumsy, couldn't learn the steps right, I don't know what happened. I kept on dancing though until 6th grade, but at the end of that year, my teacher was pretty much kicked out of the studio. Some new people took over and the next year, I continued ballet with a new teacher. None of my friends liked her, she wasn't our old teacher. I also decided to try out for the school play. I got the chorus part and was barely in it so I quit. The next year I tried jazz and tap. My jazz teacher hated me, never corrected me, didn't pay attention to me at all. In the school play, Peter Pan, I played the part of an indian but they put me in the back, and didn't let me do any of the *special* dances. I was only in the basic dances that everyone was in. Apparently, I was horrible. So I quit dancing. Last summer, I decided to try again, but I felt like I was bad, and the teachers didn't like me, etc. So I quit again. At that point, what I wanted to do was be really good, so I could *be a dancer*, maybe be on Broadway and be famous. But now, I watch So You Think You Can Dance, and all I want to do is dance. I want to do it for fun. I miss it so much. But I feel like I'm horrible. And that may be because of my social anxiety, but I can't be sure if I'm just horrible, or nervous. I want to be good at dancing, so I can have fun doing it, but I don't know if it's even possible for everyone to be good at dancing or if you have to already have talent. I don't know. :sigh:
it sounds like God is already speaking to you, you keep going back to what you love, and you know you like to dance. so give yourself permission to dance, just because you love it! don't worry about how "good" you are, just do it because you can, and God has given you the heart and the desire to dance. just move! put on your favorite music and dance, put on your favorite worship music and dance for your audience of One. i went through something very similar to you, i went to my first dance class when i was four years old, i liked to dance. through a lot of different situations i stopped dancing, thought i was terrible, the enemy tried to take dance away from me many times. but now i know it was him i take great joy in praising the Lord knowing that every time i dance i kick the devil right in his booty! so just go for it, the more you dance, the more you will enjoy it and the better you will become. find a good class that you like in your budget, shop around and watch what God does.
dance, my sister, dance!
be encouraged
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I know exactly how you feel :hug: I've been dancing my whole life too...and never was good at it....my teacher just had me standing in the back row and never dance a solo :sigh:

just my modern dance teacher was different...she once told me that I didn't have the talent but the will to be a dancer....and I guess that's the most important thing with dancing...if you want to dance nothing should stopp you....

don't care for what teachers think - they are just there to learn you the steps - if you aren't a dancer at heart talent can't make you one :)

and doing the backgrund dances is much more difficult at times as it is to dance solies...cause you've got to look for everyone else....

just keep on dancing :thumbsup: and don't let the opinion of others or your own feelings of not being good at it take the fun away...

it doesn't matter how good you dance...why you dance is far more important :)

:hug: be blessed :wave:
 
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I have never met anyone who felt as much like i did. Everything you mentioned in the post.... i have felt or done! I can't really offer you any advice because I am still at the stage of desperately wanting to dance again but can't seem to get started! Since leaving school a lot of my 'dancing' friends' have moved on to college etc but I am now considering easing myself into new, adult classes and learning new styles from beginners level as I have not danced for soo long. If this is something that you really want (as much as I do hehe) I would just say go for it, i'm sure with your passion it will make you happy. Don't forget to let us know how you get on with whatever you decide.
God Bless xx
 
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I think you just have the right teacher. Someone who will take you on personally and teach you. since you've been going off and on you probably have missed some stuff and will need to catch up, but don't let that stop you from having fun.

In my church orchestra I sometimes feel so behind the rest of them because they've been playing for so much long than I have or practice for 3 hours everyday and I can't or don't do that. It's quite discouraging at times, but nonetheless I'm on stage with my flute every Sunday. As well, I'm going to start taking more steps for myself that will hopefully improve my playing.
 
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