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[VowKeeper]

I filed for divorce last week, and my wife was served this past weekend. We had been married on 5.27.00 and she left me on 5.28.11 for another man. She left me and her 2 sons. She doesnt realize she left them, she only claims she left me, but I have custody of the kids, and will not let go of them.

Im sick to my stomach. I married for better or for worse till death do us part. Apparently my wife didnt. She had been emotionally withdrawn for the last 3 months, and come to find out she was chatting with her old bf from before I knew her. She is now running to him.

I have decided to keep my vow to her, and I wont remarry. I will keep my vow till death and just focus on my two kids....

Please keep me in your prayers...

 

[dorig59]

I understand. I was married for 20 years with six kids when he began acting "withdrawn.". It took another 2 years for it to come completely unraveled after that. Oh, the pain....

I'm very glad you've got the kids & of your determination to keep them. Don't waver on that. I agree that its smart to focus on the kids right now, plus it'll take a long time to heal. But don't unequivocally rule out love in the future. God just may have a very special blessing waiting for you.

 

[Million Pieces]

So sorry VowKeeper. Pray hard for her heart to be turned, but at the same time, stay grounded in God to sustain you through this part.

 

[BigDaddy4]

I filed for divorce last week, and my wife was served this past weekend. We had been married on 5.27.00 and she left me on 5.28.11 for another man. She left me and her 2 sons. She doesnt realize she left them, she only claims she left me, but I have custody of the kids, and will not let go of them.

Im sick to my stomach. I married for better or for worse till death do us part. Apparently my wife didnt. She had been emotionally withdrawn for the last 3 months, and come to find out she was chatting with her old bf from before I knew her. She is now running to him.

I have decided to keep my vow to her, and I wont remarry. I will keep my vow till death and just focus on my two kids....

Please keep me in your prayers...

So sorry to hear about your situation. That breaks my heart. I am glad you are standing for the restortation of your marriage. God can change her heart and turn this around. Keep up your faith, it will be a difficult road, but one the God will honor.

Praying for your strength, for your kids, and for your wife (ex) to encounter Jesus.

 

[Contented]

Divorce is a painful thing. Children suffer as a result. I have a friend whose wife is filing for divorce too. He is very broken up over it. They have three sons.
God will grant you the wisdom and strength. Keep leaning on him. As a divorced woman I have experienced the pain of infidelity.

God is good all the time and all the time God is good.

 

[Sandradee0303]

I am so very sorry that you are having to deal with the pain of infidelity. As a member of that group I can promise you that keeping your faith in the Lord will ease your pain. Don't rush it, just keep praying.

God bless you and your boys, and your wife. I will pray for restoration if that is what you are looking for.

Sincerely,
Sandy

 

[wpage]

God Loves you! Hang in there and wait on the Lord...

Dear God please bless the hearts and souls of this torn family!

 

[ArohaB]

I filed for divorce last week, and my wife was served this past weekend. We had been married on 5.27.00 and she left me on 5.28.11 for another man. She left me and her 2 sons. She doesnt realize she left them, she only claims she left me, but I have custody of the kids, and will not let go of them.

Im sick to my stomach. I married for better or for worse till death do us part. Apparently my wife didnt. She had been emotionally withdrawn for the last 3 months, and come to find out she was chatting with her old bf from before I knew her. She is now running to him.

I have decided to keep my vow to her, and I wont remarry. I will keep my vow till death and just focus on my two kids....

Please keep me in your prayers...

don't let inflexibility/legalism get in the way of your walk with God. His GRACE is sufficient for you.

 

[dorig59]

I agree with Aroha. I'd also like to say that the internet, FB, disposable cell phones & the like are making things like this REAL easy. Too easy.

Its a shame, really.

 

[TammyRae]

Am so sorry to hear of your situation, vowkeeper, the pain must be agony with children involved.

This website has incredible advice and support from those that have been there and many have even prevented divorce. If nothing else, it will help with recovering and healing more quickly from the blow - SurvivingInfidelity.com - Support for those affected by Infidelity

If you are able to turn things around and get your wife to repent and come back to the family, this group is amazing at marriage restoration (even when infidelity or divorce has already occurred) - Marriage help program for couples.

God bless you and your sons and I pray for happiness for you at the end of this difficult road....

 

[peacechild4]

It will get easier and the LORD is wonderful for carrying everything as often as you need to vent.. vent to HIM.. you can say what you like and HE loves on you and sends HIS comfort.. I am sorry for your pain and heartbreak and your loss.. I too wanted it to be forever.. not everything last forever though.. give your kids lots of hugs, your a great father.. don't be afraid to lean on friends and family.. you will need the support.. it helps.. don't make rash decisions.. time will change things... healing takes awhile.. but you will get through this.. its nice to read so much support here.. thank you for posting.. I will pray for you and your children.. and for your wife.. I always pray that families get back together.. but if you can peace apart thats the next best thing..

 

[If Not For Grace]

It's hard to be married by yourself. Unfortunately that's where many of us have found ourselves at points in our lives.

Prayers-God can heal your heart-IF you give Him all the Pieces.

Grace

 

[BlueJay83]

praying for you,
My wife admitted last week she cheated on me and wants out, after I had been faithful to her for 10 years (7 of those married with 3 sons) so I have some idea of how it feels. You're not alone.

Let me say,
don't live a lonely life because you were betrayed. You gain nothing by being faithful after she has already left. Take some time to focus on the kids.. then find a woman who will honor you they way you honor her.
"Proving" something won't change anything.

Sorry this is happening to you, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

Give it time. You will heal. God may lead you to remarry but it's completely normal to claim to never remarry. However feel free to wait until she either reconciles with you or decides to remarry.